dilemma (a long one)

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Its a long one!

Ok currently i share a horse but i look after him 7days a week, i pay for everything but livery.
His owner has now asked me to have on loan due to lack of time with family commitments. He is at a place with no school, no one to ride with and no transport. I want t move him to a place down road from me where there is a school but still no transport or people who ride. I had shown owner last weekend and now they say they don't want him moved as might unsettle him.
I will have to pay 5 per week for livery as owner will pay what she does now and i will pay for everything i do anyway plus bedding as will be in at this place 25per week it works out. He is ex racer and can't do fun rides or anything like that.

Just found another share who is kept at private yard with one other girl with her owners other 5. She is struggling with splitting her time equally. She wants 20-25per week it but i will basically have free rein they have arena owner can turn out or bring in if required. They have transport they go hunting and showing etc so would be more fun and i can do all stuff i really dream of.

Not sure what to do?
Also how do i tell current share horse owner i don't want him anymore eventhough i love him its just i feel im in a spot where if i say i don't want to take him on i don't no how she will cope as currently can't leave house until after husband home at 7ish.
 
Just be honest. Say you're excited at the thought of having full responsibility of the horse, but to get the most out of the experience you would have liked to have moved him to a yard where there was company and the opportunity to do things. As you can't do that, you're giving her notice that you are ending the share, and don't wish to loan him.
 
Ultimately the horse is the responsibility of the owner.

If it was me I would give the owner of your current share horse a month's notice. That would be a reasonable time for her to sort something else out. In my opinion it would be wrong to dump her in it suddenly, but you are obviously thinking of moving on anyway if you have already found another potential share.

Would you change your mind if the owner of your current share horse agreed to you moving him after all? She might change her mind about that when faced with losing you.
 
i would be honest too as suggested but as an owner i would not ever let my horses be stabled 24/7 unless it was for health reasons.

maybe speak to them and suggest looking for somewhere else with turn out for the horse and the facilities and company you need to enjoy the horse?

if they are not willing to think of alternatives then look for another loan , maybe the ones you suggested will fit the bill
 
A bit of a strange suggestion but why not approach the existing share owner, advising her of the problems (be honest and DONT text it!) then approach the second owner and ask them if they would be amenable to having horse no 1 on their yard with a small financial commitment from you plus some help with their horses

If they say yes go back to the first owner (who will have had a chance to think about what you have already said) and see what she then says

That way you havent burnt any bridges before making a decision

Of course this may not be a good solution, it depends on how much time you have on your hands, what the second people are like and what their set up is like
 
Welsh d i had actually considered that idea. I wouldn't leave her in lurch obviously if i do decide to end share.
The other share is a friends horse so i havnt looked as such.
If WelshDs plan could work it would be ideal really. Im sure i can fit in another one as only be working 2 maybe 3 days a week.
I almost feel like taking a break completely i just don't enjoy it like i used to it seems more a chore now as rarely ride current share as have to hack out and he is a bit of a monster if conditions aren't perfect!
Thanks all. Going to meet current share owner at weekend with OH as he will stop me giving in which i am likely to do!
 
Just be honest.
Say horse isn't what you want and if hw was you would want him at a different yard.

Give her a decent amount if
notice before giving horse up.
It will be up to her to sort out. He is after all her horse so ultimately her responsibility.
 
Thanks. Spoken to New possible share and sadly no room so will have to just give up or try find a different yard easier said than done when there appears to be none round here!
 
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