Do people assume.....

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.....that most other people are stupid because they have encountered so many genuinely stupid people or because they are so stupid that they think they always know best?
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I am sorry, but just as I have been saying on another post, that while there seem to be some really lovely people on here, there are some others (and I am actually not thinking of anyone in particular as I do not take much notice of peoples 'patterns' of their replies, just individual ones) whose posts always seem to imply that they have started off with the assumption that the OP is stupid and missing something obvious, or fundamentally 'wrong' in some way. To me, it is obvious that most people are trying to do the right thing, we all have various problems at times and everyone's individual situations, the whys and wherefores, complex circumstances etc mean that every situation is different.

It seems, quite frankly, ridiculous to assume that so many people are either stupid, incompetent or truly deserving of such rich criticism when we are all just human and none of us perfect.

So, do the people who make these kinds of judgements really start off by assuming that most people are stupid because they have had so many encounters with substandard and undeserving humans, or are they missing something vital themselves?

I just wish everyone were nicer to each other... sob...
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I think its sad too how people seem to think its acceptable to talk to ppl on here the way they do, if they were asked the same question face to face im sure the answers would be completely different! Also there is the problem of peopl not realising what they write could be read in a different way to how they meant it and therefore cause offence too and look as though they think the op is stupid :-(
 
yes I agree with all above posts..............its quite often the same offenders that seem to enjoy knocking others - I am now quite disiplined and just ignore their responses.
 
I agree it puts a lot of people off asking questions in case they get their head bitten off! I guess it's just the same as being at a lot of livery yards,some people always seem to assume they know more and are better than everyone else!
 
When I read detrimental or aggressive posts, which seem to be totally unecessary in most cases, I try to ignore the comments completely, as if they hadn't been posted at all. A bit like putting your fingers in your ears when someone is saying something nasty ... you see the lips moving but ain't listening.

There are some lovely, helpful, knowledgable people on here and it is a pleasure to be in contact with them on this forum so I will not let the nastyness of minorities sour my experience on here.

Try not to take notice and in the event you need advice or help without being shot down in flames by some you can always pm.

xxx
 
Perhaps we will just have to put when we reply that we will be ignoring un-helpful posts, I don't know what the answer is really. I really try never to judge anyone but try to give advice relating to my experience xx
 
This is a good post , ive not really come across many rude people but I am aware they are out there and have read some posts that are not necessary. Everywhere you go there are people that are like this and i think the world is getting worse with selfish people also unfortunately we can only stick up for ourselves and fight back , i do now rather than just ignoring, fortunately at my yard they have rid the place of nasty trouble makers and its a peaceful place x
 
i think you've brought up a very valid point, i think its quite disgraceful the way some people speak to others sometimes on this forum but as others have said i just let it go over my head, its amazing how brave people are behind their computer! x
 
Agreed, I think it is an issue to be brought up to the moderators.
It gets quite easy to see who are the negative, judgemental, aggressive, self righteous posters, looking for trouble. I just put them on user ignore and the place is nicer.
 
...*am quivering now* - I really hope I wouldnt be considered like this (but if I am - please dont tell me - let me live my latter years in glorious ignorance to my failings...& yes there are many)...

Im a sporadic poster, - tbh - years ago when H&H set this up it was full of people who could type faster than me - and!!! - on occasion Im happy to admit Ive started my reply with all good intentions, previewed it three times, only to discover the poster didnt really want "proper" answers - just an online "pat on the back". Not my thing.

However, I believe that people who want the best for their horses, no matter their intellect, experience, background or other - deserve a "free first post".

Its a new year with so many issues, maybe we should just accept a good few wont be what we might like.

scotia
 
I do see where you are coming from.
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http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/stupid

I actually give people the benefit of the doubt and assume that they are normal people with a normal dollop of common sense. I never presume to be so arrogant as to think people are stupid because what actually constitutes stupidity? Is there a minimum level of stupidity? A lot of things condemned as 'stupid' are merely little mistakes, or errors of judgement that many of have made at one time or other, that is how we learn, does that make us all stupid?

It riles me to have to say, for example, "presumably you have checked back/teeth/tack etc" when actually I DO presume that they will have done so, but if I don't then I get picked up for not saying something that is perfectly obvious to me. The same way that I radically crop photos now because it annoys the heck out of me when people say (and presumably assume that I am stupid) "Oh, did you know ragwort is poisonous? You will have to clear your paddocks" (Umm, yes, and that is NOT ragwort clever clogs, butt out)

Some well meaning, but extremely patronising soul, pm'd me the other day to tell me that my hay nets were far too low and didn't I realise that they could cause injury? Whilst I appreciated the sentiment, I didn't appreciate being lectured. In that case I WAS stupid
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because I thought that as I had mentioned the pony was knee high to a hamster then it was blatently obvious to anyone that the net would be correspondingly lower!
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I think people forget that so much is lost in writing compared with in speech. Often people also forget that when you actually start a reply the thread continues to move on so will perhaps come up below a post you haven't seen.

I got a hammering the other day for suggesting someone should walk 4 miles, but the post pointing out that they had limited mobility had come up while I was typing my reply.

I've also seen people think a reply is aimed at them just because it comes below theirs.

To be honest I don't think this forum is very good at promoting friendly posts and so on, sometimes the functionality lets it down too. I use MSE forum too and that is much better, I love the thank facility, and the fact that a quick reply shows as just that and doesn't look like you are responding to one particular person. The thank function also encourages people to be genuinely helpful.
 
Thank function? I've not heard of that one. Is that similar to the karma function on some sites?
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