Do you get on with everyone on your yard?

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I'm on a very large yard and sometimes it's difficult to keep up with who's talking to whom. Is it the same everywhere? If you don't talk to certain people, do you find it awkward?
 
NO! My yard is a horrible place we have 40yo women acting like infants bullying everyone else on the yard. Theres this one women (we call the shepard) who has this group of people follow her round (the sheep) which she gets to pick on people, steal hay and just be plain rude.

They sit and watch you ride and come out with nasty comments such as "she can't ride" "I could ride better then her" even though I hve achieved more then these people in the last 2 years then they have in 30 odd years!

So many people have left my yard because they have been bullied by this group of people and I bumped into one of these people the other day and she is terrified of even going up there to come and meet my new horse. Last winter they broke into my friends trailer and cut all her hay nets open because they said she was taking to much hay.

I hate it up there and its not awkward as I just keep my head down and get on with stuff, if they decide to pick on me though I get very upset and will be too frightened to go up there for a couple of days. I hope this isn't the same everywhere as I'd hate for someone elses yard to be as bad as mine.
 
yep it is here as well

we have lost one who was a very nasty S**t stirrer, so hopefully things will settle down but i am waiting for her second in command to come crawling round everyone now she has gone. think i will remind of a few things she has said and done (well in my head anyway)

we have a couple of egos, who think they have priority on the facilties above everyone else as in will share the school if someone else has booked it but want let anyone share if they have booked it, so its fun fun fun
 
Im on a very large yard to and talk to everyone really, although doesnt mean i like them all :p that may sound bitchy but gosh some of the people drive everyone mad, so i dont really bother with said people although i will talk to them if they talk to me. Our yard is also very cliquie. Theres this one girl who is best mates with you then slabbers about you behind your back, she always has something to say about everyone. She also says oh i could ride that horse better then when you go here you go hopp on she always makes an excuse not to lol she even makes excuses not to ride her own :rolleyes: this is one of the ones i dont bother with, the most i say is hi.
 
We used to have three old fishwives on my aisle...but luckily they have all moved yards in the last quarter and everyone else is great. Hoorah!
 
Do you get on with everyone on your yard?

Yes.

Over the years there have been one or two difficult individuals which I have chosen to mostly ignore but they haven't really been a problem
 
I'd say so, yes.

If there's someone you don't particularly like it costs nothing to still say Hi, when passing.

It's a large yard - all women, but thankfully all 'grown up's'.
 
There are 40+ people on my horse's yard, at times some of them annoy me in the way that they go on about things (the management of laminitic ponies being a particular bug bear) and sometimes I cringe at some of the things my daughter does, but on the whole it is all good.
 
Not on a particularly big yard but have been in the past, unfortunately horses attract women, and alot of women together you get b**chy behaviour arise!!! Fact of nature am afraid, found the worst of it at an equine college!! Anyway current yard, there's one woman I don't particularly like or get on with but I'm pleasant to and say hello etc, because at the end of the day, the yard is my escapism!! It's my refuse, I go there to enjoy my horses and relax, the last thing you need is to be watching yourself there when you're spending so much money. At the end of it, I get on with the YO and enough other liveries to make it an enjoyable place.
 
I think it would be unrealistic to expect everyone on a large yard to get on all the time.

There are people on my yard who irritate me intensely - either because they are know-it-all's or rude or just plain thick. I would never be outright rude to them because there's no point in being needlessly antagonistic, but I just don't go out of my way to speak to them either. The way I see it, it is a bit like being at work: we all have a common goal, our personalities don't necessarily complement each other, but we all have to rub along so life is easier if we just accept this and make the best of it.

To be fair though - one girl arrived on the yard and I thought she was really up her own backside and had a hard time warming to her. Turns out she was just incredibly shy, had never had horses at a livery yard before (always at home) and just didn't know what to expect. We are great mates now and I'm sorry I thought badly of her when she first arrived. So sometimes making just a little bit more effort pays huge dividends in the end.
 
Yes thank god. Very lucky in that everyone is that bit older, and acts their age! Plus we're on a competition yard with lots of experienced people who don't feel that they need to prove themselves, been there done that and as a result they are very supportive.

I'd be gutted if for any reason we had to leave.
 
Yes, because it is my yard. :)

I do actually like my current owners very much, genuinely pleasant people. If I didn't then I'd just take myself off and do something else whilst they were here. I am paid to take care of their horses not stroke delicate egos, if someone doesn't fit then I suggest that they may be happier on an alternative yard.
 
God how awful for you guys having/had such bad experiences. I am really shocked. I've never experienced life on a yard when it comes to my horses as I've always had my own yard, so it's interesting to read. I cannot imagine how it must feel to be so badly treated. I look upon my yard as a place of tranquility and nothing better than chilling out once all the horses are brushed, rugged and eating, with a pussy cat on my knee and a beer in my hand!
 
Been there in a big way (something to do with YO mum thinking it's just plainly unnatural for men to be involved with horses and must have an ulterior motive and, er, my loaner belonged to her - got very very nasty). Only do small yards now and yes we get on with everyone. We all have our off days but nope, good laugh where we are. Wouldn't change it.
 
I used to manage a yard and most people are great, but you did tend to get the yard bitch , the yard stirrer and the yard pain in the arse, but the worst of all is the " I've read a book therefore i know everything." These are potentially lethal!!!
 
Noooo!!
our yard is alot better now never been stole from but other people have thrown acusations theres about 30 somthing horses on our yard.
you get the bitches the bullies the ones who can do no wrong the knowitalls
and even now have the natural horse people ... they stress me out!!! NO i dont want to pay £40 for a piece of string headcoller so i have comtrol ... try teaching them manners its freee!!

but yeah i stay out of the way try to be nice to everyone and if they have a prob with me so be it =]

xxxx
 
To be honest i dont go to the yard to chat, i go to ride my horse! i'm on a small yard, been there since April but still dont know everyones names. Il say hello to everyone though and am always polite. I dont get into yard politics so i dont know if anyone is ''horrible'' or not, I just get on with my own thing and then go.
 
Kokopelli said:
NO! My yard is a horrible place we have 40yo women acting like infants bullying everyone else on the yard. Theres this one women (we call the shepard) who has this group of people follow her round (the sheep) which she gets to pick on people, steal hay and just be plain rude.

They sit and watch you ride and come out with nasty comments such as "she can't ride" "I could ride better then her" even though I hve achieved more then these people in the last 2 years then they have in 30 odd years!

So many people have left my yard because they have been bullied by this group of people and I bumped into one of these people the other day and she is terrified of even going up there to come and meet my new horse. Last winter they broke into my friends trailer and cut all her hay nets open because they said she was taking to much hay.

I hate it up there and its not awkward as I just keep my head down and get on with stuff, if they decide to pick on me though I get very upset and will be too frightened to go up there for a couple of days. I hope this isn't the same everywhere as I'd hate for someone elses yard to be as bad as mine.
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Why on earth dont you move yards then? you should enjoy going to your yard....
 
On the whole I do get on with most people but some people rub you up the wrong way because they think they are better than you and have an air of importance about them that really irritates me. Some people however are very hard to get on with, and despite numerous tries you end up giving up or giving them a wide berth. Our yard has sadly started to get a little cliquey - if that is a word! I compete almost every weekend or go off in my trailer to the local club to escape!! LOL.

On the whole I like the people on my yard they are always there to help when you need help and have rallied around when my horse has been in difficulty, i.e semi collapsing in the field through stress or getting a bad colic attack.
 
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There are a few strange people at my yard, fortunately they aren't there that much and keep themselves to themselves when they are there. Everyone else is lovely. There was one strange bloke who tbh was a bit pervy but he attacked the YM and got chucked out!
 
I get on exceptionally well with everyone at my yard. It's great. Of course, the neighbours do think it's odd when I have the odd discussion with myself, but I think it's lovely that me (and all my voices) are in agreement, he he he!
 
Yep, on a really small private yard and it's lovely, only 7 of us, we all get on, not all down at the same time, YO really nice, must be happy not moved for 18 years......... Have seen a few strange ones come and go, but nothing to bother about, and we have had the natural horseman person, who to be honest was batty more than anything, but she looked after her horses and I wasn't there to make best friends with her............
 
I would say we're a big yard, 31 horses and about 24 people (thats counting the YO/YM)
I'm not friends with everyone, as with life there are people i prefer taling to, get on with better and talk to more than others, but i'm always polite - even when i really don't want to be, I generally talk to everyone, even if it's just a hello, and don't go out of my way to avoid anyone.

People generally ask after people (with the exception of a few that aren't well liked) if they've not seen them for a while too.

People do b*tch and stir a bit, and we get the odd know-it-all, but i've never heard of people moaning about me (and it usualy gets back to you eventually) so i suppose thats a good sign.
 
I am on a small yard with about 8 others. For the most I love it, but on occasions there are fall outs. It can sometimes get a bit personal, the fall outs luckily are not often about horses, more she said this, you said that kind of thing, and everyone getting the wrong end of the stick, basically harmless playground bickering.
But I fail to see how you can throw a group of people together who only have the one thing in commen, i.e horses, and expect them to be busom buddies all the time.
 
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