Do you think this is fair and would it annoy you?? Sorry long!!

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I moved to my yard in may and i like it, have had no problems etc but this annoyed me a bit!

Before i lost him last year i had a girl who came and rode my pony (they were kept at home). She now has a new horse at a diff yard and this horse has started headshaking badly. The vets have tried all treatments but have decided the only thing left to try is an op which the horse is having on the 11th dec. This girl is 15.

On my yard there is a girl (14) who moved up a couple of months ago as there had been a big fall out at her other yard where the other girl is - usual thing - them and others fell out but this time the parents got involved and it got quite bitchy i think.

Any way i asked the girl who used to have my pony if she wanted to come up with me one day and hack out as she cant ride her headshaker. She came, we rode, when we got back the 14yr old was there but nothing was said as they still arent friends and no problem - or so i thought!

A few days later the YO said the 14yr olds mother had had a word as the girl i brought up had been very nasty before and they had felt very uncomfortable etc and so could i not bring her up again. The YO was obviously uncomfortable as she said she was in the middle but had to respect that they are paying customers!!

It annoys me because i only asked the girl up cos i felt sorry for her as she cant ride hers and cant see how it can be a problem - its not like shes coming all the time - she only came once!!

I dont understand why people get so bothered about things!!Grrrr!!

Sorry really long but it really annoyed me!!!
 
sounds like a simular situation i was in last year, amazing how one person can ruin a good thing.

Unfortunatly mine story didnt have a happy ending
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Yes but i'm a paying customer too. I could understand if they had had words or something but nothing was said, infact the other girl went just after we'd got back! I'm not that bothered but the girl has asked me if she can come again and i keep having to make excuses. The poor kid lost her pony last year (in bad circumstances) and her new one has to have an op which if doesnt work the horse will prob have to be put down!
 
Can you take your pony out and meet this girl off the yard, let her ride then meet you and you take your pony back to the yard? A little awkward, but nobody can say anything.
 
Maybe try making some peace between them, or explaining the situation.
Failing that maybe make an agreement over the girl coming to ride yours when the other girl will not be there, its not the best/easiest solution but its a compromise
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She was borrowing someone elses horse. It doesnt really matter but it just annoyed me a bit! Kids drive me mad! I was only doing it so she could have a ride! They are both at same school so is a bit awkward as both off at same times!! it doesnt really matter i just felt like i had to moan about it to someone!!! life would be much easier with adults only!!
 
Tell the YO to get some backbone(maybe put it more tactfully than this!). Its their yard and you've as many rights as the other customer. Up to the yard owner to tell everyone to get on with doing their own horses and if you want this girl to ride your pony that's up to you. As long as this girl comes and causes no further trouble the YO should instruct the other liveries to mind their own buisness who comes and rides your ponies.
 
Yes i agree this is pathetic but its probably the adult involvement that has fuelled this one along. Kids (which a 14 + 15yo are) will have spats + may or may not sort it out but often find when the parents get involved + start fighting the kids battles, it makes it 10X worse.
You did a kind thing taking her out for a ride after what she's been through + its ridiculous the other childs mother had to speak to your Y/O...sound very immature to me!
 
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Ditto!!!
And i will never be!To much hassle!!
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Yes i agree this is pathetic but its probably the adult involvement that has fuelled this one along. Kids (which a 14 + 15yo are) will have spats + may or may not sort it out but often find when the parents get involved + start fighting the kids battles, it makes it 10X worse.
You did a kind thing taking her out for a ride after what she's been through + its ridiculous the other childs mother had to speak to your Y/O...sound very immature to me!

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Also agree with that!!!
 
you wait next week or so they be mates

kids fall in fall out of freindship its how they learn
you gottaremeber we all been there and for some they at a stop gap by that i mean not a kid and not a woman so they have mood swings

as for the mother of the other child she really shouldnt get envoled
with her kid mood swings as then her kid will never thnk for herself or be able to learn to make her own decessions unless mummy's there

your yard owner should have said - am sorry but its twaddle and silly and walked away

you both paying customers at the end of the day and if yard owner is restricting you on what freinds you have up regardless of age

then shes just as thick as the mum taking sides isnt a be all and end all
i know she has a responsibilty to all her paying clients
but this is a relationship problem to do with two kids
if i was yard owner i would have said

to mum-- i cant take sides - as wasnt there with the orginal arguement as its a kids one then its between them if they are freinds or not -- as you know kids fall in fall out we was all one once
 
It would annoy me. Unless there's a rule that liveries can't invite others to ride their horse, then it's no one's business but yours.
 
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