Do you want your partner to like hoses?

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I'm single at the moment, but I'd want any prospective partner to also ride and be into horses. How d others feel?
Horses make up such a big part of my life and I'd only really want a girlfriend if she shared that passion:)
 
Nope - its never been a consideration for me and never will be - I don't want to share my horse with my OH, not do I want to share my time at the yard - hes not in the slightest bit interested in horses and that's the way I like it - cause that way I get to keep my horse all to myself :D
 
with my husband it was very much love me love my horses - My horses have always come first before anything/anyone. He knows that and does help me out an awful lot. He has taken to horsemanship like a duck to water. xx
 
My husband started riding lessons when we first got together. I wanted to go on his motorbike and he wanted to try riding. He has since sold his motorbike and bought himself a horse! It is a great hobby to have together.
 
It's up to my partner what he likes, and really I couldn't care less whether he likes hoses or not!

Like Hevs, horse time is my time, and that's cool, he has his stuff and I'm not really into darts or digging and wouldn't like to have them forced upon me! It works for us, although I wouldn't mind if wanted to buy presents for the horses sometimes (like new shoes :D.. it'll never happen :()
 
It's dangerous don't do it! Best kept separate I think. my housemate and i both have a horse owned jointly with an ex, all v difficult, and they never REALLY stop moaning about being groom....lol.

Unless I get wiht a vet, farrier, land owner, or saddle fitter (my top priorities in a future partner), I will aim for someone complete un-horsey next time! Not good to spend TOOOOO much time together (although good idea to train them in how to put in a headcollar and pick out your horse in a herd, just in case). lol.
 
Husband is allergic to horses (sets off his asthma) but still, he will come to the occasional show and he was very skillful at tubbing / poulticing one time my horse had an abcess. I have also taken him to viewings as he has a good eye for physiology, movement and any asymmetries.
 
My husband likes watching them at the races, but that's about the nearest he gets to them. He's happy to let me do my hobby, and I encourage him to do his. Would I want him 'interfering' in my horsey life?........................ hmmm that's an interesting question.

No, I think not.
 
My hubby likes horses and has ridden but is not overly mad about them, I think he prefers being around them, being on the yard to actually riding which suits me down to the ground!

He has decided he's a better rider than me as he's never fallen off!!!
 
Wow, you are going to be a catch, I suggest you find a large livery yard and sit back and wait for the offers to roll in.

The closest my husband had been to a horse - before he met me - was at Epsom races. He helped me achieve the dream of horses at home. He is very happy to help if I need it, and he tolerates all the horsey stuff. He does not ride, but he could bring them in and change their rugs if he had to.

I think it works better that way actually,

Although he does list himself low in the list when it comes to feeding, below the horses, dogs and cats.
 
Lord no, I'm happy with my OH being non-horsie. He likes horses, he's happy to come up to the yard every now and again and feed him a carrot and he's happy to come to the odd show, indulge in a burger and occassionally he will even hold him for me!
I like having 'my' thing and while it is frustrating sometimes when he doesnt understand why I have to be up the yard for so long or whatever it's nice for us to bring different things to the table.
He's also remarkably astute at giving me horse advice. Because he isn't horsie and doesn't have an emotional connection to them he can sometimes see stuff that I can't see like 'He (my horse), is not being naughty, he's a young lad with lots of energy he just needs to run, you should let him run more'. Lol

I wouldn't not be with a man if I fancied him because he was a horse person but really It doesn't bother me in the slightest that my OH is horse dumb :p
 
I'm happy that he shows an interest and listens to me going on about them. Just as I do with him and football. But I think it's better he doesn't ride. He would probably need a horse of about 18hh anyway, his legs are so flippin' long!
 
I have a horsey OH and his stuff sometimes costs more than mine. A set of shoes for a heavy is about £120 here, luckily his clydesdale x gets away with no shoes not barefoot malarky just no shoes ;) .
A set of harness makes me faint, and hes always spending money on mending this piece of machinery, or that piece of machinery...
We are getting a set of breeching made at christmas that alone is £400 my saddle didnt even cost me that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But im a happy hacker etc and he does something different so we do get time apart plus he some how fits in traction engines (currently getting horse used to traction engines so can do both in the same day.....). We have our differences in horse husbandry, he personally doesnt understand why I would want Samba as shes stubborn and too quirky (for him). He doesnt understand how I can spend a hour and half up the yard (its called gossiping). And some of his techniques are a little old fashioned for my liking.
 
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mine likes them as in cares that they are not ill, but really only mine. He understands that sometimes I need to check I closed a gate or door properly at 10pm and will come with if he can be bothered but doesn't get the urge to check them himself. He'll help with big things like moving them but isn't really interested in day to day, he will come and talk to me while I care for them if say we go on our way out for the day. I would LOVE it if he would ride with me but it's not his thing (wouldn't share B though!!). If he gets more office based he has said he may ride a bit more in the summer.
 
My OH isn't horsey at all, if if knew how much they cost me every month he would probably have a heart attack! He thinks I bought one of the ponies for a couple of hundred and everything came with it and the newest edition is "on loan"! He's a city guy and has no idea, i'd like it stay that way ;-) x
 
I can't say it's something I've ever considered. I mean, hoses are really useful for filling water buckets and I use one for bathing the horse sometimes and I don't exactly dislike them, but I don't think my partner liking them would be essential....

... oh you mean horses! :p

This camel likes hoses
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Rhino - that is hilarious, I hadn't even noticed the typo until I saw your post.

Actually thought you'd lost the plot until I re-read the post title

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OP- my hubby like horses and is brilliant at helping me around the yard but totally useless rider. Not for want of trying but better for him and the horse if he stays on the ground.

He was told when we first got together that horses are integral to my lifestyle and if he didn't want to be part of that then our relationship was going nowhere. 14 years on he still puts up with me and the mares antics :)
 
I would like them to 'like' all animals. I think it's a good trait in a person. I certainly would NOT want them involved with the horses as it is ME time and I do not like sharing!! Having said that if Mr. Right likes horses then I will just have to get on with it and take up outdoor knitting or something so I have ME time!!
 
My OH is building me stables as I type (I'm supposed to be working!!). He is incredibly supportive and is going to ride himself - but we do like being together so it's lovely for me!
 
I can't say it's something I've ever considered. I mean, hoses are really useful for filling water buckets and I use one for bathing the horse sometimes and I don't exactly dislike them, but I don't think my partner liking them would be essential....

... oh you mean horses! :p

This camel likes hoses
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OH will not be pleased that I may have possibly just spat tea out over his laptop...:rolleyes::D
 
So sorry :(

Actually I was going to make a different comment regarding partners and 'hoses' but I thought better of it! ;)

Not a problem! Gave me a good chuckle! :D

Ohhh you see now that must be posted, you can't leave us hanging with a 'hose' related joke ;)
 
I met my husband through horses, we met in a riding lesson. And he groomed for me at a show as our first date (he's a rubbish groom, and refuses to call dressage tests). We've had dates to places like Badminton and HOYS too, no previous boyfriend ever did that!

I really like that we have horses in common, it isn't all we talk about, but it makes it easier to have such an involved hobby. It would be tough to spend so much money and time on something if only one of us got the pleasure from it.

Luckily he rides to a similar level so we share our horse, which is wonderful. Especially being able to see how she works for the other one, and watch her from the ground. Also being able to get another persons input on things and to have someone to take over when you are getting frustrated. We can help each other out far more too so we often hack out with one riding and the other walking or cycling so our mare isn't bothered aboutr going out alone. And he knows the distances for trotting poles without being told. I can even borrow his jodhs/hat/gloves/etc in an emergency (not his boots though, they are huuuge)!

Although he is far to soft with her, and she knows Dad is a soft touch. Princess that she is she has convinced him that she is far too posh to eat from a bucket on the floor and that he really needs to hold it up for her :rolleyes:

And the main bonus is that in the same way that if you have both been eating garlic you can't smell it, if you've both been riding you can't smell the horse!

Only downside is that we do occasionally argue about who gets to ride when, but a second horse would solve that in a jiffy! :cool:
 
With my husband he is a person that knows , horses are part of my life , he would never ask me to go without them and also has part ownership in all 3
He has had little rides but is not a big rider , and sometimes can moan about the up keep of them
But underneath he adores them
And to a point he gives me a kick up the arse if one of them need something or something done
Even now it's already been sorted
My horses never go without when my husbands around
Him and my friesian have developed a special bond the other day which is kinder cute
 
My OH is not horsey at all. To the point I have to pretty much beg him to come to the yard, and when has come down to help me he wouldn't pick up a feed bucket as it was 'dirty'. He is one of these people who would walk around a puddle despite wearing wellies!

I wish he would take an interest, doesn't want to hear about her and doesn't ever come to see my gorgeous, gently mare.
He came to watch me at my first ever show, and cycled to the horses (a far-ish distance) and has come down a handful in the 5 years we have been together. I made him ride once and he hated it, and I've not been able to get him on since. I would LOVE for him to enjoy seeing them and help groom etc. Would be amazing for him to learn to a level we could go for a walking hack together. But he never would. I'd be happy with him just coming down a bit more, and actually walking across the field to see them, and to watch me in my lessons. :(

So for all of you with a horsey OH, or even one who take an interest. I AM JEALOUS!!
 
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