Does anyone...

[Crosshill Pacers]

...get jealous when someone else 'muscles in' and helps with your horses? I'm not talking your own horse per se (I sure know I'm grateful for the help with my own!), more if you work at a yard/riding school and are responsible for a certain number of horses?

I have a friend who is expecting a work experience girl for 10 weeks during the summer and at the moment is looking forward to having an extra pair of hands to help out...but she's very possessive of 'her boys and girls' and I wonder how she'll cope having someone else treating them as their own.

I think I suffer with it slightly. My boss' daughter has offered to come over to the yard one day a week to 'help out', and in my head I feel like she's trying to take my horses off me, even though they're not mine, and she's not taking them anywhere. It's completely irrational I know, and the extra help should be appreciated, but I keep thinking 'what if they love her more?'

Please tell me I'm not mad! Or, if I am actually mad, please tell me so I can seek help!

 

[edgedem]

not sure if your mad or not

but i do hate it when people tell me how to look after my own horse,
i ask for advice once in a while, but when i didnt ask for it dont FORCE your opinion on me!

not really the same but thanks for giving me the excuse to get it off my chest

oh and this is REALLY muscling in and giving an opinion then not shutting up until you do it their way!

 

[LittleBlackMule]

Not jealous exactly, but I know what you mean.

I wouldn't let anyone near my own horses whether I needed the help or not eek but having worked in yards before, I get a bit twitchy if things aren't done how I would do them.

 

[Crosshill Pacers]

Thanks for failing to confirm either way the state of my mind

I'm not gonna be around when my boss' daughter is there, but I'll have bedded down all the horses the night before so there won't be much to do (other than help her dad exercise the horses, which I don't do much of anyway). But then what if she starts messing around with the way I've done my stables?! What if we have contrasting methods/styles of doing things?

And back to my burning question - what if the horses love her more than me?! because they do love me, in their own strange way! Honest!

 

[Crosshill Pacers]

Not jealous exactly, but I know what you mean.

Jealous is the wrong word, but it's what OH said I was last night. I don't mind doing all the hard work to then hand the horses over at the last minute before they go on the track. I don't want to be winning races with them! I just like all the other stuff. Maybe I'm possessive. Like I said, the horses aren't mine, but they're in my care. And I don't like somebody else caring for them