Doggy Custody??

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Ok, this came from a discussion we had at work today...if you and your OH split up, who would get the dog? Could/would you want access? Has anyone gone through this?

I realised that if OH and I were to split, the sensible thing to do would be for him to have Madam Spangle as he can work from home if needed...and as she ably demonstrated a few days ago (The Incident of the Flashing of Pants at H&S man) I can’t have her at work with me. Gulp. Not that we’re planning on splitting up, but if we did...that’s what would be best for her.

Any thoughts? We had some wide ranging views on the subject at work so I would be interested to hear yours too! (Or feel free to ignore and look at the pretty puppy pics further down, wouldn’t blame you :D)
 
I would leave her with my OH. Because I wouldnt be able to give her the life she can have here.

But I would miss her with all my heart, and if I'm honest on a few occasions shes been the only thing keeping us together xxxx
 
This is why all my dogs will always be mine, full stop.

As an aside, from breeding/showing I wouldn't even have one in partnership or on breeders terms - we sent one of ours back to her breeder and she was put to a nutjob, against our wishes (but he was a chaaaampion), litter full of high-octane ankle-biters, but we had her on breeder's terms so there was nothing we could do.
 
Thank you guys... we had some weird and wonderful comments earlier from the "Office Crazy" so I thought you guys might offer a bit of sanity :) OC thought her dog should be rehomed to a childless couple because if she couldn't keep her dog then neither should her OH....despite the fact it's OHs dog. That was one of her saner comments :rolleyes:

OH and I have just tried the old "we'll both call the dog and see which one she goes to" trick. She went and fetched her food bowl... :rolleyes: Not quite sure what she means, but I don't think it was complimentary :o :D
 
Oooh got to agree with the rest here - divorce number one, there was never ANY question about it, the two whippets were MINE and came with ME :mad: Ex-husband got short shrift when he suggested he might have one of them...

Second divorce was slightly more messy because I truly believed a*sehole ex-husband number 2 was really a dog lover :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: So much so that he chose to re-home our lurcher, 6 years old owned from 8 weeks old and very much 'daddys dog' because it was too much commitment for him :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

So now my dogs and horse are MINE, and heaven help anyone who thinks otherwise... not that I am ever intending to get into another relationship again of course :D:D:D
 
OH and I discussed this before we got Otto. OH has never had any pets before he met me, he always wanted pets but was never allowed. As such he isn't a natural with them, he wouldn't have had the first idea how to teach Otto anything if it was left up to him.
As such it was decided that Otto is mine, if we split Otto would come with me.

However, I don't think OH realised just how much he would love Otto, and is forever telling me he wouldn't know what to do without him! Otto is still mine though, OH would never cope with him on his own!
The next dog we get will be OH's, however if we split up, I couldn't break up the dogs, so that would have to come with me too :D :D
 
When I split with my ex we had 5 dogs, one was a foster lurcher pup, that stayed with him, Blondie and Rosie also stayed with him. Tilly and Ellie came with me. We had an very amicable split and have always let each other have access to the dogs. Puppy obviously went on to find a new home, Blondie was unfortunately pts 6 months later. Rosie is still with him and as you know I still have T and E. They both still get picked up and go out working with my ex and I still go get Rosie if I am taking my 2 out ferreting and am nearby.
My 4 dogs at the moment, well T and E are obviously mine as I had them before current relationship. Milo and Flora are both owned in partnership with my OH but they too would stay with me in the event of a split. Current OH works in an office for long hours every day and would not be able to look after them.
 
Oldashthearab said:
When i split with hubby ALL the animals came with me....he kept the big tv
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The only things I walked away with from my ex-husband was my dog, the hoover, iron and ironing board.

Funny that!

IF the unthinkable happened between me and Duncan I would definitely take Harvey with me, even though I know he adores farm life. I wouldn't take the Collie. She is the farm's dog.
 
Ours would be split, as some favour me and others him, if I wanted them all, I would of course take them:rolleyes: he would have no say, but as im sure the animals would agree the split would go.

KAI (deerhound) OH as he got him when we where younger (we have been together a long time):o
FLINT (shaggy lurch) OH, as he is surgically attatched.
RUFUS (ginger x breed) OH as he is also surgically attatched

REGAN (rotti) of course would stay with me.....no question!
BUBBA (akita) would remain with me.....no question!
FLICK AND BLUE (whippets) would remain with me, he would be welcome to blue if he wanted her:rolleyes:
BUD (pointer) would remain with me, as he needs life long meds

TIA (whippey x bull x killing machine).....im sure someone would take her:rolleyes:

It's worth splitting to have less dogs:rolleyes::D
 
It never even occurred to me that he might have wanted a dog when he left! There was obviously no way - they are all very definitely mine! I wonder if he misses them when he is sat all alone in the evenings? Doubt it!! It was always "Your dog this" and "Your dog that" anyway!
 
Well I can't imagine splitting up with my OH (who can at the time hee hee) but Freddie would stay with me - for several reasons...

- I work more flexible hours so he won't be alone for a long time
- I cover all his costs anyway :-)
- I have more experience with dogs, OH loves them but doesn't really have any ideas about training etc...
- There's just NO debate around this subject really, he's MY dog and he stays with ME!!! :-)

To be fair, my Oh is lovely and in the event that we did split up he's sensible enough to realise that I can offer Freddie a better lifestyle than he could. I'd also like to think that if our roles were reversed I'd consider the dogs needs above my own and let he dog go to him... but they're not :-)
 
When my hubby split up with his first wife she kept his 2 Old English because she had the time to care for them. He had them at weekends. He got custody when we moved to Cheshire.
Dexter is his and Sage belongs to both of us. The horses are both mine. We share the puddy tat. If we split they would all probably stay with me as I don't work. That may change though if we weren't together. I knew there was a reason I stay with him!!
 
I split up with my ex about a year and 3 months ago. There was never any real question who would have the dogs, as I did the lions share of the looking after them anyway.

But there was a day when I said "Obviously I'm having the dogs" and left the room. He has visitation rights lol he comes to see them often and if I ever need help buying them food or anything, he puts money towards it.

LOL its a funny old situation, god knows what you'd do if you both really wanted the dog :(
 
It also depends on whether your ex husband is a vindictive s**t as well.

When i left my husband, he kept my young dog Kai, because he said "he paid for him". When he got bored of him (about 3 months later) he was sent to rescue.

The only reason he kept him for, was to get at me. Broke my heart :(
 
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