Doggy Dilema

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Pilib

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I have had my Lab X puppy for about 5 months now, to be honest it hasn't been going great........ she came from a large litter and was late coming away from her littermates. As a result she is not very good at being alone, she follows me from room to room and cries if left. She is ok if we go out........ after lots of training. I work during the day but my mum comes and walks her each lunchtime. I am off at the weekends and my partner has a Thursday off. We went away for Christmas and the dog went back to the farm she came from (which is also where I keep my horse) while we were away. She was with 5 other dogs and was happy to be left alone. She was really quitet when we took her home and slept solidly for about 24 hours!! We left her yesterday to visit my partners family and she tried to chew her way out of the house, she managed to break the cat flap get her head out and was tying to chew her way out through the wodden door. The barking and noise was so bad the my neighbour went to get my mum. We arrived home to utter devistation, she had even started chewing the brick wall close to some electrical cables!!My partner has never really bonded with the dog, he likes her and will do everything for her but she is my dog. My partner has found her a new home with some friends who are looking for a dog to keep theirs company, they have asked us to take her round tonight to see how she gets on with their dog. She would have a fab time there as there is someone at home all day not to mention there are 4 kids and another young dog to keep her company. I am struggling to manage her but don't want to feel like a failure and just give her away. I really need some advice. Well done for getting so far.........
Pilib X
 
personaly your feelings should'nt come into it. whats important is what does she need and can you provide it/do you want to. will these people do right by her.

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I know that these people will give her everything she needs. I know I will miss her but I really think she will have a better life with them. I suppose I just need some reassurance that I am doing the right thing.
 
Absolutely!
Seriously, this is a case for what is best for the dog and it is obviously stressed out where it is atm, also by being alone too. It's also a working breed and as such needs stimulation, I don't think wrecking your home is the sort it needs or can be approved of! If this is the right home for it, even though it's sad for you it will be the making of the dog IMO, so I say go for it. In no way have you been a failure with it at all, you have tried your best but the home situation is not the one for it and you are facing upto that responsibly.
Perhaps you could find something else like from a rescue centre, many of those would be suitable for your situation - just don't get spaniels, collies or other working breeds, they NEED work and stimulation; something like a JR, even a greyhound or whippet, they're good house pets and surprisingly don't need much exercise. There was a Border Terrier on here looking for a home in the last few days too.
Good luck!
 
For the info you have given, this would seem like the best option for the dog (which is the import thing). Would you ever forgive yourself, if she did chew through electrical cables while you were out?

Edited to added - You are not a failure or giving up on her, you are doing what is best for her. Good luck.
 
I have to rehome my dog after having her for 3 years as she is now becoming aggressive towards our other dog. I am devestated but know that she will be better off with another family who does not have any other dogs. She starts the fights but our other dog finishes it and she is sure to end up dead if she stays. Sometimes we have to do things we dont want to for our animals to be happier in the long run. So yes you are doing the right thing.
 
you are being veryresponsible and considerate to your dog,we never want an animal to pass on but sometimes you have to do right by your animal,welldone, more people should be as considerate
 
No you aren't a failure. The dog is not happy and you are giving her the chance to be happy......that is a very UNselfish act and one you should be proud of. Best of luck and I hope she settles in well at her new home.
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this is sad for you, i dont think leaving the litter late would affect the dogs temperment, pups are usually more sound the later they leave. she is just anxious when you leave and many dogs suffer in these ways, you should pat yourself on the back for trying to train her, and now for rehoming her to somewhere more suitable. as MHF suggested a new dog from a rehoming centre will help you right the wrongs in your head, many older dogs dont suffer with anxiouty?? and you sound like you have a lot too offer the right dog. my tip would be a jr terrier they are so sure of them selves and can be taken a lot of places with you, ideal if you in full time work! all mine ask if i go out is for somewhere hot to sleep and something to munch on. best of luck in whatever you do.
 
Honestly don't feel guilty. Re-homing is a sensible option. I have re-homed a lab cross I had when my working circumstances changed and he was left longer than was good for his temperament. I now have two greyhounds several years on who sleep so much they don't even notice I'm not there.

With the best of intentions there's always the occasion when the dog's personality doesn;t work with the domestic set up you have and if you don't rehome when you can and things don't improve you may find yourself resenting her. My partner at the time did for sure when I was in similiar position.
 
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