Driving me insane

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ClassicG&T

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Okay, 2 years ago or so i broke up with ex, i just felt it wasnt working. Didnt see him that much for a while but friends did though other friends. Now, for a few months now, i see him every day pretty much, he talks to my friends and has a laugh etc.... but i really want him back. it is the one thing i regret the most, breaking up with him.
so what do i do, try and get him back? walk up and plant one? or just leave it and carry on?

its driving me insane HELP!
 
IMHO i would leave it there is a reason it didnt work the first time so there will be a reason it wont work a second time:) Moveon to a relationship that will work - Good luck x
 
If you really think you made a mistake and you really want him back - why are you asking strangers, who don't know either of you, for advice? I couldn't say if getting him back is the right thing to do, but i do think you know deep down what you want, and if it will work. Think hard, look at your motives, and make your own decision, i am sure you will do what's right for you - you don't need advice from strangers!
 
Not the best person to ask sadly. My parents have just offered to move all xmas celebrations to boxing day so that my partner can come on the assumption I will go to his parents with him xmas day. (one of my parents is a vicar so moving xmas is a massive deal!)

I can't go because his family refuse to shut the dog, who has bitten lots of people, including me, twice, to the point I am still scarred on my arm more than a year later, in a seperate room. (His 2 y/o niece will be there with the dog, soo not safe!)

Yes, to my OH and inlaws, I rank below the vicious dog - relationship advice? Not from me.
 
I too agree with skydancer...the only other thing I'd say is that in my experience no matter how much you want someone back, the relationship will never be the same as it was before. And that might end up hurting both of you. :(
 
If you think it could work why not give it a go?
I split with my OH (after 5 years), it was painful for both of us BUT 6 months later we got back together (been back together for nearly 2 years) and after lots of very honest discussion we realised we'd both been in a dark place and had pretty much both shut down, some time apart had given us both the space to get our own problems dealt with and get back on track.
Things are different now but not necessarily in a bad way, we're much more open and honest and have learnt that sometimes we both need our own space, if we fall out we tend to discuss it to see why and how we can avoid it in the future.

Lots of people will tell you not to re-cover old ground but sometimes we just lose our way a little and need time to find it again, I have realised time and time again that the bad things ultimately happen for a reason - it just takes time to see what that reason is. :)
 
Going back to a relationship isn't always a bad thing to do. My son was with a girlfriend for years, then they split up for whatever reasons. 6 months down the line they both decided they wanted to be together and are now married and expecting their first child in January. It can work but only you can decide if its what you want.
 
maresmaid said:
If you really think you made a mistake and you really want him back - why are you asking strangers, who don't know either of you, for advice? I couldn't say if getting him back is the right thing to do, but i do think you know deep down what you want, and if it will work. Think hard, look at your motives, and make your own decision, i am sure you will do what's right for you - you don't need advice from strangers!
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Ditto!

I went out with a really 'nice' man when I was 15. We dated for a few months and I broke things off. I saw him again a few months later and we started seeing each other again. We've been married for 22 years now and I couldn't be happier. I think I just needed to grow up a little. Perhaps you did too!
 
If you both want to get back together then go for it , but do you have any evidence that say's he feels the same way - he may just be being friendly...so before you go and ' plant one ' maybe a bit more detective work on his feelings would be a good idea. If the reasons for the initial break - up have been resolved or circumstances changed , then i see no reason why it shouldn't work second time round - sometimes it's just a case of right person - wrong time..
 
Spotsrock said:
Not the best person to ask sadly. My parents have just offered to move all xmas celebrations to boxing day so that my partner can come on the assumption I will go to his parents with him xmas day. (one of my parents is a vicar so moving xmas is a massive deal!)

I can't go because his family refuse to shut the dog, who has bitten lots of people, including me, twice, to the point I am still scarred on my arm more than a year later, in a seperate room. (His 2 y/o niece will be there with the dog, soo not safe!)

Yes, to my OH and inlaws, I rank below the vicious dog - relationship advice? Not from me.
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Ideal xmas present to OH - muzzle!
 
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