Elderly dog coming to live with established pack

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Be nice please people, I know it's not ideal but it's the only option, there is no one else to take her and I'd never dream of putting her in a shelter or similar.

My mum's elderly dog (15 year old JRTx) is coming to live with us. She has arthritis and general old dog grumpiness. She's also very quiet and polite but does stick up for herself.

She's coming to live with us permanently, she has stayed before when younger and does visit but finds all my dogs somewhat overwhelming and tends to hide. She has known all my dogs as we have got them except one who is a relatively new to us lab (7 years) who she has met a couple of times. Our other dogs are another elderly lab (13) a Saluki (10) and a jrt (8) All our dogs respect the elderly lab and leave her alone to do her old dog thing.

Mum's dog, T, is crate trained although hasn't used one in a while so we are thinking of setting it up for her with a blanket over under the kitchen table so she can retreat and hide in there if needed, which she's done over the years when my brothers children have visited my mum so she uses it as a safe space. I was also thinking of setting up various other little beds in the kitchen as my dogs tend to hang around the rest of the house more so she can have somewhere to hide.

We will take her to our vets for a meds review and general check over too and was thinking of getting a pheromone collar if they still sell them?

The poor thing is used to being an only dog, or one of two when my mum stays with my brother but as mentioned she has stayed with us for extended periods in her youth to, albeit not at present house but she has visited.

Can anyone think of anything else we can do to help? We do have stair gates and could shut her in the kitchen but I don't want her to be unable to interact if she wants to.

She's arriving tomorrow so not an awful lot of time to get things sorted
 

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I've used pheromone collar for a similar reason and I think it did help. The only other thing I would suggest, and I'm sure you've already thought of it, is to make sure she's fed seperately, somewhere in peace so there can't be any stress around food. As long as she has somewhere she can retreat to, It will probably be fine. Just make sure you don't put your worries onto her, be cheerful and she'll likely be the same.
 

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Thanks @meleeka , we feed all our dogs separately anyway so she will be fed alone without anyone stressing her 😊 I am hoping as she's been living with an increasingly grumpy person, that living somewhere a bit more lively might do her some good at some point when she settles 🙂
That's the other thing, it might just give her a new lease of life!

I hope it all goes well and she's feeling at home soon.
 

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That's a lovely thing to do and hope nobody would be anything *but* nice about it.

I'd just treat her as an only dog if that's what she prefers, she's unlikely to change personality at her age and if you have the space/abiity to do so. I kept two large adult dogs apart for five years, it just becomes a way of life after a while!
 

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Be nice please people, I know it's not ideal but it's the only option, there is no one else to take her and I'd never dream of putting her in a shelter or similar.

My mum's elderly dog (15 year old JRTx) is coming to live with us. She has arthritis and general old dog grumpiness. She's also very quiet and polite but does stick up for herself.

She's coming to live with us permanently, she has stayed before when younger and does visit but finds all my dogs somewhat overwhelming and tends to hide. She has known all my dogs as we have got them except one who is a relatively new to us lab (7 years) who she has met a couple of times. Our other dogs are another elderly lab (13) a Saluki (10) and a jrt (8) All our dogs respect the elderly lab and leave her alone to do her old dog thing.

Mum's dog, T, is crate trained although hasn't used one in a while so we are thinking of setting it up for her with a blanket over under the kitchen table so she can retreat and hide in there if needed, which she's done over the years when my brothers children have visited my mum so she uses it as a safe space. I was also thinking of setting up various other little beds in the kitchen as my dogs tend to hang around the rest of the house more so she can have somewhere to hide.

We will take her to our vets for a meds review and general check over too and was thinking of getting a pheromone collar if they still sell them?

The poor thing is used to being an only dog, or one of two when my mum stays with my brother but as mentioned she has stayed with us for extended periods in her youth to, albeit not at present house but she has visited.

Can anyone think of anything else we can do to help? We do have stair gates and could shut her in the kitchen but I don't want her to be unable to interact if she wants to.

She's arriving tomorrow so not an awful lot of time to get things sorted


It is going to be a big change for her away from her home and familiar human but you seem to have thought of everything. The only thing that I can think of that she might find comforting is something of your mam's with her smell that she could have in her bed.

I adopted an elderly JRT, he had previously lived with an old chap who went into care, Ben blossomed in the company of my other dogs. I hope it will be the same for your new girl.

I hope she soon settles in her new home.
 
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Thanks all, good idea @skinnydipper about taking her one of mum's blankets or something else familiar smelling. We will probably just take all her stuff and work through what she wants/needs. She gets fed twice a day at present too I think whereas my dogs only get fed once, we changed the new (to us) lab to once a day but she's only 7 and adapted well but will probably keep T having her two feeds a day 🙂
 

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How very kind of you. Best of luck… and as someone currently integrating an older dog just monitor all interactions. At least he knows not to go thrrough the bin! 🤣
 

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Something with familiar smells sounds great, and the quiet spot to retreat to. We used to find that most dogs get used to a new routine quite easily - as long as there is a clear routine, so they know what to expect.
And at least she’s been to yours before, so familiar ground. Hope she settles in as well as possible - she may surprise you and come out of her shell with the other dogs after a few days…or even worse, start ruling the roost and teaching them new tricks <g>
Poor thing, lovely thing of you to do. I may have missed what’s going on with your mum which might be on another thread, but hope whatever is happening there is going as well as possible.
 

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We did the same with my mums elderly collie, she was quite independent already, and bigger than the terriers so she fit in well. She was ball obsessed so as long as she had a ball she was happy
 

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Grumpy little dog safely acquired, have made her a little safe nest that's smells of home/mum and she's happily pottering about occasionally grumbling at the other dogs if they sniff her too hard. She very very chubby (my mum's been feeding her most of her own food I think) so hopefully when she's lots some chub her arthritis will improve. Will take her to our vets for an MOT next week 🙂
 

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She's been good as gold all day and has now moved to a purpose made dog cubby that luckily none of my other dogs use much. The cats do but they are happy to share. She doesn't appear overly stressed at all. Bless her.

She'd again like me to point out *some* of that chub is fluff 🤭
 

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I think I’d allow her to have an escape route if possible. Bear would (rarely) take himself upstairs away from the puppies, or want to be on my knee before they could get up there. Lovely of you to take her. ❤️
 
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