PolarSkye
Well-Known Member
I've had Kal since Jan of last year and since about May/June of that year the young woman who taught me at the RS I used to go to has been teaching me privately and schooling Kali for me. We have now moved him to the yard where she is YM and my livery agreement includes her schooling him three times per week. She has done absolute wonders with him and is now very fond of him. She is the only person, other than me, who rides him and the only person who has ever schooled him since I bought him. She's taken him from a green, unbalanced and distrustful stresshead to a balanced, more willing, chilled out boy.
In the past six months we've been talking about her taking him out and competing . . . but various things have gotten in the way (injury, yard moves, house moves, etc.). About a month or so ago, she said she wanted to take him to a local show to enter a jumping class. I readily agreed, and entered him in the class. A week or so ago, she said she couldn't go b/c it's a bank holiday weekend and her OH would pitch a fit about her doing something horsey during their rare time together. I was very disappointed, but said I understood. I was chatting to YO's daughter (K) about this - who has known and worked with my trainer since they were both preteens - and she said she'd love to take Kal but didn't want to step on J's toes or upset her. Long story short, squared it with J and K is taking him. She's riding him today to get a feel for him.
So . . . the question is . . . should I pay K or get her something as a token thank you? She's doing me a favour - will box Kal up with her horse so I don't have sort transportation - and she has her own lovely WB so certainly doesn't "need" the ride. I should also say that K is a very proficient rider (spent almost a year at the Schockemohle's yard in Germany as a working pupil), so Kal would be getting quite an education/would benefit from K riding him. I wouldn't have paid J, but she gets paid to school him anyway - she loves riding him and I pay all her entry fees, etc. (she took him round Tweseldown last weekend). Plus, I'm always buying J little token thank yous . . .
I feel like I should give K something - but I want to be careful about not upsetting J. And what is appropriate? A £20 gift certificate? A bottle of wine? A cheque? A card?
What would you do?
P
In the past six months we've been talking about her taking him out and competing . . . but various things have gotten in the way (injury, yard moves, house moves, etc.). About a month or so ago, she said she wanted to take him to a local show to enter a jumping class. I readily agreed, and entered him in the class. A week or so ago, she said she couldn't go b/c it's a bank holiday weekend and her OH would pitch a fit about her doing something horsey during their rare time together. I was very disappointed, but said I understood. I was chatting to YO's daughter (K) about this - who has known and worked with my trainer since they were both preteens - and she said she'd love to take Kal but didn't want to step on J's toes or upset her. Long story short, squared it with J and K is taking him. She's riding him today to get a feel for him.
So . . . the question is . . . should I pay K or get her something as a token thank you? She's doing me a favour - will box Kal up with her horse so I don't have sort transportation - and she has her own lovely WB so certainly doesn't "need" the ride. I should also say that K is a very proficient rider (spent almost a year at the Schockemohle's yard in Germany as a working pupil), so Kal would be getting quite an education/would benefit from K riding him. I wouldn't have paid J, but she gets paid to school him anyway - she loves riding him and I pay all her entry fees, etc. (she took him round Tweseldown last weekend). Plus, I'm always buying J little token thank yous . . .
I feel like I should give K something - but I want to be careful about not upsetting J. And what is appropriate? A £20 gift certificate? A bottle of wine? A cheque? A card?
What would you do?
P
