Firewell
Well-Known Member
Does anyone else find that some people BE Event just for the kudos of saying so or so they can pretend to be better then they are?
I may be in danger of ranting here so bear with me
I have friends that event for a living, up to high levels and are successful and I have friends who are one horse owners like myself and compete at the lower levels. I have great respect for those that do well, In fact I am exceedingly proud of some of my friends and amongst that pride is a little thing that says if they can do it, maybe one day so can I.
I also have respect for those that give it a bash even if it doesnt go to plan!! If anything I don't push myself enough so I think fair play to those who are brave enough to give it a go and if goes tits up, they laugh about it, go back to the drawing board before attempting again then also fair play, sometimes you don't know untill you try!
What really irritates me are those people who event who look down their nose at me and think i'm a lesser person because I don't. I can't stand those people who pretend to be better then they are. I'm not talking about posters on here because generally I find people on here very supportive no matter what discipline or level. I'm talking about people in Real life.
One person said to me 'yah, I plan to go Novice by the end of the season, what are your plans?'. Me 'umm not sure really, have fun, do some ror showing a bit of BS and maybe a BE80 on a ticket', them 'oh how sweet! Good for you' in what had to be the most patronising way ever. Also they then became decidedly less interested in talking to me!
I then got home, had a nosey at their BE record and had a good giggle at the fact they got eliminated in all bar one of their intros last year. I did feel very ticked off though about their dismissive way with me.
I also know pushy mothers who want to move their children off our yard where me and the others 'play' around to put their daughters somewhere where they can be around 'real' riders and eventers. I've had it said to me 'why aren't you eventing, surely your horse should be pre-novice by now' (he's 5 rising 6).
I know I should just igore it and my strength should be to carry on doing what I want to do and what I think is best but my sensitive confidence cannot helped but be knocked by these comments.
It always seems to me that the snobby ones are the ones without the record to back it up? If I do my BE80 on a ticket i'm going to blimin make sure I'm going to do well and if I don't I will be mortified and I will stop, figure out where it went wrong and I wont try again untill I know its 100% right. I'd rather do an unaffilliated competition well then crash round a BE event and be pleased because my horse had 3 poles down in the showjumping and 2 stops on the XC. I certainly then wouldnt be bragging about how I 'event'. I would be mortified if I had that sort of result, I would think i'd better blimin well pull my socks up and practice more before I attempted another one, i'd probably toss and turn at night and worry about how I was ruining my horse.
My bothersome feelings about this probably come from myself wishing I could be more gung-ho about things but I also just feel cross that 1. they can look down their nose at me when at least I finished the end of last season with a horse that was more confident then when he started even if it was over 2ft9 and 2.Don't they don't realise the damage they are doing to their horse? Don't they care that their horse is now stopping?
Hmpf!!!
I may be in danger of ranting here so bear with me
I have friends that event for a living, up to high levels and are successful and I have friends who are one horse owners like myself and compete at the lower levels. I have great respect for those that do well, In fact I am exceedingly proud of some of my friends and amongst that pride is a little thing that says if they can do it, maybe one day so can I
.I also have respect for those that give it a bash even if it doesnt go to plan!! If anything I don't push myself enough so I think fair play to those who are brave enough to give it a go and if goes tits up, they laugh about it, go back to the drawing board before attempting again then also fair play, sometimes you don't know untill you try!
What really irritates me are those people who event who look down their nose at me and think i'm a lesser person because I don't. I can't stand those people who pretend to be better then they are. I'm not talking about posters on here because generally I find people on here very supportive no matter what discipline or level. I'm talking about people in Real life.
One person said to me 'yah, I plan to go Novice by the end of the season, what are your plans?'. Me 'umm not sure really, have fun, do some ror showing a bit of BS and maybe a BE80 on a ticket', them 'oh how sweet! Good for you' in what had to be the most patronising way ever. Also they then became decidedly less interested in talking to me!
I then got home, had a nosey at their BE record and had a good giggle at the fact they got eliminated in all bar one of their intros last year. I did feel very ticked off though about their dismissive way with me.
I also know pushy mothers who want to move their children off our yard where me and the others 'play' around to put their daughters somewhere where they can be around 'real' riders and eventers. I've had it said to me 'why aren't you eventing, surely your horse should be pre-novice by now' (he's 5 rising 6).
I know I should just igore it and my strength should be to carry on doing what I want to do and what I think is best but my sensitive confidence cannot helped but be knocked by these comments.
It always seems to me that the snobby ones are the ones without the record to back it up? If I do my BE80 on a ticket i'm going to blimin make sure I'm going to do well and if I don't I will be mortified and I will stop, figure out where it went wrong and I wont try again untill I know its 100% right. I'd rather do an unaffilliated competition well then crash round a BE event and be pleased because my horse had 3 poles down in the showjumping and 2 stops on the XC. I certainly then wouldnt be bragging about how I 'event'. I would be mortified if I had that sort of result, I would think i'd better blimin well pull my socks up and practice more before I attempted another one, i'd probably toss and turn at night and worry about how I was ruining my horse.
My bothersome feelings about this probably come from myself wishing I could be more gung-ho about things but I also just feel cross that 1. they can look down their nose at me when at least I finished the end of last season with a horse that was more confident then when he started even if it was over 2ft9 and 2.Don't they don't realise the damage they are doing to their horse? Don't they care that their horse is now stopping?
Hmpf!!!
