Fed up of teenagers and sharers!

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I have just been informed that the girl that was meant to be sharing my horse has a NEW horse on share (don't bet she told this new person that she was currently sharing a horse she hasn't been to see for over a WEEK!).

And she still has £90 of my stuff!!

I know her mum works nights at a local supermarket - I am tempted to go down there and speak to her and ask her to make sure that my stuff is returned ASAP.

Rreally p*ssed off as LO starts nursery in 2/3 weeks and so 4 days a week I cant get out to see the horses!!

ARGH!!
 
Definitely get your stuff back and get a solid answer from her for her behaviour towards your horse - unacceptable!!

But please don't tar us all with the same brush :( I see myself as a very committed sharer!! :) there are some good'uns out there!
K x
 
KellysHeroes said:
Definitely get your stuff back and get a solid answer from her for her behaviour towards your horse - unacceptable!!

But please don't tar us all with the same brush :( I see myself as a very committed sharer!! :) there are some good'uns out there!
K x
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Oh I dont.....up until now they have all been totally FAB! This girl has not! I posted on a local forum to as well............I dont want someone else to get let down over winter!!
 
Id make sure you get everything back asap, you don't want her damaging it or loosing it. And not all teenagers are that bad, honest! I think the mum shouldn't have let her share a horse if she was going to not see it in a week! Hope all turns out well :)
 
ilovecobs said:
Id make sure you get everything back asap, you don't want her damaging it or loosing it. And not all teenagers are that bad, honest! I think the mum shouldn't have let her share a horse if she was going to not see it in a week! Hope all turns out well :)
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The parents are non horsey. I stupidly let her ride him whilst waiting for her mum to sign the agreement.........and when I began to demand it was returned that is when interest was lost.

If she has damaged my stuff then I will not be happy......The horse world is a small place up here and she is only 15, and now that I have found out she has done this before, I will not think twice about naming and shaming her!
 
argh frustrating...i have a horse who has, in the last few years, had a few sharers, disastrously went out on loan twice to come back within days so i feel your pain :(
having said that current loaner is a teenager- something i always swore i'd never do- and she's brilliant. she just gets on with everything and horse is happy as larry :) hope you get your stuff back :(
 
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Would just like to say, Personally I find the fact she's a teenager completely irrelevant. I also suggest you don't name and shame her, as being under 16, I think you could get yourself in a lot of trouble.
I hope you get your stuff back soon and undamaged :)
 
Brontie said:
Would just like to say, Personally I find the fact she's a teenager completely irrelevant. I also suggest you don't name and shame her, as being under 16, I think you could get yourself in a lot of trouble.
I hope you get your stuff back soon and undamaged :)
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Well, Knowing the neighbours kids.........folk will know about it soon enough (they were mates) in the horsey world. And Like I said.......its VERY small world up here!
 
Kelly's owner had this problem with her loan horse (now sadly been sold on by owner :( still searching for him, want to know how he's doing!) (the first one I part loaned) - the other girl who shared him with me was a right pain. Put a full bale of hay down for a bed one day!
Owner rang her one night to ask how he'd been about 9pm - "I don't know I've been in Blackpool haven't been down yet" poor bloody boy hadn't had a thing to eat or drink and was stood in a filthy stable all day!!
I fully understand the bad rep sharers have - I started sharing at the age of 12 and am still with the same owner, different horse 8 years later and am told I will be part of her life forever more now! Must have done something right ;)
K x
 
KellysHeroes said:
Kelly's owner had this problem with her loan horse (now sadly been sold on by owner :( still searching for him, want to know how he's doing!) (the first one I part loaned) - the other girl who shared him with me was a right pain. Put a full bale of hay down for a bed one day!
Owner rang her one night to ask how he'd been about 9pm - "I don't know I've been in Blackpool haven't been down yet" poor bloody boy hadn't had a thing to eat or drink and was stood in a filthy stable all day!!
I fully understand the bad rep sharers have - I started sharing at the age of 12 and am still with the same owner, different horse 8 years later and am told I will be part of her life forever more now! Must have done something right ;)
K x
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How much to buy your mould!! I just want someone who will repect the fact that I own the horse!!
 
As a teenage sharer I am also going to stand up for my "breed". There are a lot of good ones out there. There are a lot of bad ones too I'll grant you, in the same way there are bad horse owners, bad drivers, bad parents. That is life.

I'm really sorry this girl has stood you up. But just let her go as a bad job. Get your stuff and feel glad you are shot of her by the sounds of it!

Don't give up on sharers. I have been sharing horses for about 5 years now and I have shared two different horses. I work really hard and ensure the horse is looked after like it was my own. I now look after my current share horse more than her owner because I apparently look after her better ;)

If you are continuing to look for a different sharer, good luck :)
 
I've been a sharer for the past two years now... I think of myself as being committed to the horse and owner that i'm sharing with!

To add another dimension my first horse share ended just over a year cause the owner found someone else that would pay more money to share the horse (same number of days etc). I didn't get told that this was the reason why she wanted to end the arrangement, I thought the horse was going onto competition livery and so I wouldn't be required. Needless to say my friends at the yard reported that she had a new sharer and that the horse wasn't on competition livery!
It was all really odd cause I got on with the horse and owner well, but the owner was always very focused on money and she knew that I wouldn't pay more. Shame she couldn't say it to my face though!

So I guess these things work both ways... There are good sharers out there, you just have to find them and keep em!
 
I think I know someone, but it will all depend on what I hear back in the next few days. I would prefer an adult sharer, but he is at home so no facilities and we have no transport to go anywhere so would need to be someone who was poss recently horseless. He is just a leisure horse, so I am sure I will find someone local, and the financial contribution is so minimal its just a gesture.

I know there are good teenage sharers out there - I just think that maybe I am not getting the age range right - anyone between like 14-16 seems to lack the maturity (I'm immature so I don't require much!) and doesn't care - 1st sharer was 15 and she cantered horse around on frozen ground when she KNEW and had told others he was a bit 'off' (he as mildly lame!). That ened with me telling her she needs to rethink a career with horses (she wanted to work with them) and giving her 2 expensive horse care books and telling her to go read them! There have been a few in between that its just general horse care issues (but I can blame that on the local riding schools not educating the kids properly - nothing like it was in my day!)
But I do know a LOT of very very knowledgeable teens who care about their horses - funnily enough the majority of these are the ones n PC and with horsey parents.

I Just seem to find rotten eggs very well :(
 
Sharing and loaning open up all sorts of problems. Yes, you can find good people - but it's very hard. When I had my horse, I shared him four times. He was on full livery, so I was looking for someone to help pay bills by riding twice a week and paying a third (he had one day off). The first was simply not a good enough rider and it ended quickly. The second was better, but still not really very good; I had a young, strong cob and needed someone who was firm, efficient and professional in their dealings with him. I found she was letting him graze while riding him (which is why I would go out and spend the whole ride fighting with him to keep his head up) and would let him run away in one of the fields because 'I knew he would stop at the end', when I was trying to teach him that was unacceptable; she didn't understand how dangerous it was. The third one was great, but eventually got her own horse. The fourth thought she was a brilliant rider, but not only was she not able to make him work properly (by now he was fairly well schooled, but with her he would put his head down and she thought he was in an outline, even though he was not using his back end) but she wasn't very reliable. So I stopped sharing.

When he was put down, I shared other people's horses. I find it difficult, as I have strong views on how horses should be ridden/handled, but I tried to fit into the owner's world. The first two were friends' ponies - a Fell and a Welsh D - but they were both loaned out (successfully) to teenagers. After that, I rode horses whose owners said they liked to hack and were happy for me to school, but I found out they never rode. Or they let the horse slop along and more or less do what it wanted. Or they were real novices but thought they were experienced.

I have no money, only my time and experience (ridden all my life, with regular lessons by qualified people, been in riding clubs, etc etc), but until I find someone who wants help and no money, and I like the horse, the owner and the yard, I'd rather not ride.
 
I would think very carefully before accepting a teenager as a sharer, best to meet them and see what you think. This is what I have done.

Havingrecently met/interviewed/watched a ride/handling session with my horse and 3 potential teenage sharers my worries were confirmed, unfortunately.

Bummer - I really need the help too!
 
Keep trying - as I said before we're not all bad! :)
Even when Kelly was on box rest with rotation of her pedal bones, I spent hours with her grooming her and plaiting her up (much to her annoyance!) We're not all in it just for the riding :) and I was by no means experienced with the management side of horses previous to my shares.
Like I said most important thing is that you and your horse get on with the sharer and well done to you Rotchana for not taking on something that didn't feel right!
K x
 
Thanks Kelly, you sound perfect, btw!!:) and I won't tar them all with the same brush, you've given me good food for thought:)
 
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