Feel like I've been ambushed - sorry long!

Jingleballs

Well-Known Member
Joined
10 May 2008
Messages
3,353
Visit site
Ok maybe that's a bit extreme - perhaps bombarded with unwanted advice is the best way to put it!

Was chatting to 2 of the other liveries at the yard to night who I'm quite good friends with and we got to discussing the new feed I've started giving C - Spillers instant energy mix.

I've spoken to the experts, researched various options and this is the one I've decided to try and so far it seems to be working - he's been on it for 5 days now and certainly for the last 2 days he's been more forward and energetic without any change in his character - he's still a dope on a rope.

Anyway, these girls starting telling me that I shouldn't feed my horse this stuff, i'm risking giving him laminitis, maybe he's just a lethargic horse and I need to just accept that etc, etc. Now I know I've only had C 10 months but I know my horse, he was much more forward previously and I'm thinking that this recent lethargy is down to a combination of the warmer weather, increased exercise and the fact that he's still being fed the exact same diet as he was when he was 100kg heaver so now that he's used up most of his fat reserves he's running out of energy - that to me, makes sense!

So I listened to their arguments - high sugar was one - yes it has 28% starch but he gets a miniscule handful and one of these girls feeds her horse a lot of fruit which is high in sugar - but apparently that's not the same ??? ??? ??? They would never feed there horse this, blah, blah, blah, he'll get laminitis - well one of their skinny horses got laminitis and although we know that high sugar intake can be a factor, it's not the only factor. I know horses that are massively overweight fed high sugar diets and don't get a sniff of it - but all I got was -"prevention is better than cure" - I wondered if she thought that way when she was pounding her horse along the roads for every day???

I then dared to suggest that I was thinking of taking C's back shoes off coming into winter and trying to see how he would cope barefoot as we don't do much road work in winter and any we do we'll use hoof boots - we'll you'd have thought I'd suggested torturing my horse - "oh no, I'd never do that - there's all those stones on the ground, horses need their shoes" - erm, no dear, not all horses need their shoes, some can cope perfectly well without which is what I'm hoping to establish this winter.

I just felt like an ambush from both of them - one of them is an experienced rider, the other not so much but it's like the inexperienced one always does as this other one tells her - I prefer to think for myself thanks.

Luckly, one of the other liveries and Y/O are on hand to offer helpful, constructive advice as and when asked.

Sorry for the rant, these girls are actually my friends and I do love them to bits but mind your own bloody business - it's not like I'm killing my horse!

Sorry - rant over!!!
 
glad uv got it off ur chest! its always better that way
smile.gif
go with whatever you think, after all no-one knows ur horse better than you!
 
unfortunatly livery yards are full of people with their own opinions,you may be better off asking the manufacters of the feed for some advice,we use to have this woman in our yard who mixed her horse feed with 2 ltrs of apple juice and loads of apples,he use to stand at the gate having sugar rushes,you know what they say a little knowledge is a dangerouse thing
 
As they are your friends and you want stay that way, just smile and ignore their advice and opinions and stick to your way of managing yor horse. It's like that on a livery yard, everyone knows better and feels they have to give you the benefit of their experience wanted or not! My daughter has a heavyweight cob and has worked hard to find the right feed for him. She had the same issue, needed some oomph but certainly without weight gain. Salt was recomended to counter some lethargy which made a lot of sense as he would sweat a lot under all that hair. He is now fed a competition mix (shock horror) and has never looked better. He is also stabled during the day at the moment which is a regeme that is working well for him. As for shoes thats between you and your farrier.
 
As you've already said, noone know's your horse like you do! You could definately be right about the weather, it has been very hot and clammy (it has in Scotland anyway!). As for his shoes, I would ask you farrier if your unsure. I know some horses that would not be comfortable without back shoes, however my farrier suggested my 30yo gelding go without back shoes last winter, and he was absolutely fine, although he's not ridden much in the winter. He has cushings related laminitis and is very prone to attacks during the winter months as well as the summer. I actually think his feet looked before for it.
Try not to be bothered by nosy-know-it-all's and follow the advice that makes sense to you - or from the professionals.
 
That's the thing with horses isn't it? Everyone has an opinion and some people are just convinced theirs is the right one! It sounds to me that you're doing everything right, i.e. you've consulted the experts on matters such as feeding and after all that's what they are there for - it's hardly like you're a complete novice horse owner who's making things up as you go along (yes I did once hear about someone thinking they should feed their horse Weetabix as horses need fibre - then some intervention is called for!). You should just try to ignore them and enjoy your horse, which as other people have said - you're the one that know's him best.
 
Thanks everyone - I think I just needed to get it off my chest as I was so angry - I know I am still a novice owner but without trying to sound conceited, my horse is in a better condition in terms of weight and fitness than either of theirs and he certainly was not that way when I got him.

They also had the nerve to laught at me when I was talking about my interdressage test - I was really chuffed at the results but it was insinuated that it'd been over marked as me and my fat cob couldn't possibly achieve over 67% could we not (sorry getting angry again!)

blagdon - I'm glad I'm not the only person who has the audacity to feed my cob a competition mix - we're such bad owners aren't we
laugh.gif
 
Top