Feeling a little less useless ;(

[Cazza525]

Well I bit the bullet whilst OH was there this morning and opened up the fence to let her in with others. She shot straight into their field shelter and then they shot out! Old girlie slight squeal but nout much....then they all cantered through to the paddock I had new girl in (more grass!!). I closed up fence and watched. Absolutely no violence,just warnings from oldie. I left them to it and went and had a coffee. When I went up,new girl is in field shelter (face in,bum out) and the other 2 are grazing outside shelter. Quite normal behaviour I think....littleuns wander up to shelter and have a look and then wander out to graze again.....I think they are establishing herd. I'm not concerned,but it would be nice to see new girl out of shelter soon!

I have enlisted help (2 ppl) for tomorrow after lunch. We are going to bring them all down for half hour fuss and then turn back out....

I know I am still wary,so I will lead other 2 in front and my friends will lead one each side of new girlie behind. I don't want her to pick up my anxiety at all.

I'm going to go up again and poo pick in field beside them and observe them,and if all settled I will go into their field and gently poo pick and hum a tune to keep me calm.

I soooo sound like a numpty,don't I,but I really want this to work and will do ANYTHING to keep calmness!!

 

[badgerdog]

You're not a numpty, just understandably anxious as you're having a stressful time.

Just take one step at a time. See how you feel in a months time and re-assess the situation. In the past I've kept a diary and it's surprising when you read it how much progress you actually make. On the days when you think it's all bad you can read your diary and it's sometimes surprising how many positive things are in it.

Good luck!

 

[Cazza525]

Ok,just been up for another check.....new girlie is out of shelter and beginning to assert herself...

Hope you don't mind me keep posting,but am really finding typing this and getting support may just get me through this!! And I will keep a daily diary and set myself targets..

I'm going up again in a little while...oh and btw,the rescue remedy will be purchased for tomorrow!!

 

[Clannad48]

I know just how you feel - when we moved yards our mare went from being on her own or just sharing with one other to being in a huge field with 4 others - although she was by far the biggest (17hh) the little ones used to gang up on her. After a lot of argy bargy she now seems to be 'boss' of the field. Some heartstopping moments on the way but eventually all fine