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Esso

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Hi everyone, it's been a while since I put a post on, in that time I have had my 4th hip replacement plus rebuild of pelvis !!! about two years ago I had to put one of my horses out on loan as I couldn't manage anymore but have kept on with my cob as he is so easy to do, prior to the op I had been having a lot of lessons and he has been schooled by a instructor as I wanted to show him this season because basically that's all my health would allow apart from hacking out, so I got myself all geared up for this but now my world has fell apart as it doesn't look like I will be able to ride again or even look after my horse and I am sure that there are a lot of you that think the same as me ...noone else can do it the same, I have been quite lucky in the fact that a friend of mine lost her horse just before my op (unlucky for her though) so she has really helped me out of a spot but unfortunately she has now to work full time so he isn't getting his exercise and what with the mud he isn't getting turned out much either, I am so frustrated all that work just gone to pot. I love my horses and can't even think of anything else I would want to do, obviously this is a bad day for me so have come on here to have a little grumble and see if anyone else is in the same sort of situation.
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No advice I'm afraid but so sorry to hear of your situation. I hope you can find an arrangement that makes you happy.
 
My word you are having a terrible time of it...4th hip replacement! Is it the riding that is causing the problems with your hip then? Is that why you don't think you will be able to ride any more?
There is not really a lot I can say to be honest because I can see that you must be feeling very low with it all. Would a sharer be an option for you, so that you can get your horse exercised more and you can still keep him?
I really hope that things work out for you in the future, sorry I cannot help only I dont know what I could say to make it feel better for you...
 
I am so sorry for you. The thought of not being able to ride any more must be dreadful. I would ditto finding a sharer for your horse if loaning or selling is out of the question. If you can't bear to be out of horses alltogether could you think about perhaps inhand showing, minatures or driving for the future. I hope things start to look up for you.
 
Very sorry to hear your predicament.
I don't know the details around your health, it sounds like you have been through hell. BUT maybe you should not give up hope just yet. Doctors and vets often tend to give you the worst case scenario. Maybe it is possible that you might ride if you do intensive physio/work hard on getting your fitness back?
I broke my back 18 months ago. Initially I didn't even want to ride, now I ride. It has taken me a lot of physio and swimming to get back to this position. In the days when I thought I might never ride my horse again I did consider the fact I might have had to loan him out, and I even considered trying driving with him. Maybe you could try lunging/long reining to start with - At least you will be working the horse and it will be good for your relationship. Do you think you could manage that? I say please don't give up hope. If you can be as flexible as possible and have time and patience maybe you could get there....? Or you could try in hand showing?
My friend is taking my horse to dressage this yr as she is a good rider and we have a great relationship. It is hard to see someone else competing him but he is doing so well and is happy to be out, he loves his work. I hope when I am stronger to compete him myself.
Don't give up - Try to come up with flexible ideas/options - And work on getting your fitness back.
I feel for you.
 
Thanks Pottamus, no it's not the riding I have arthritis and have found that riding and mucking out etc have kept me mobile and sane !! (sometimes), I will keep looking for someone to help me because he deserves to be used and kept busy as he enjoys it so much thanks for your concern it helps that people are kind.
 
I am fine now - have metal in my back, not in pain but am stiff and a bit sore. But basically I have been incredibly lucky and I count my blessings.
I am naturally pretty stubborn, I don't tend to give up on anything. But I have learnt that it is wise to set realistic goals and just do what you can at the moment. Take each day as it comes and don't let other people determine what you think you can/can't do with your life. Just see how you go! Good luck!
 
Hi again, we sound very much alike, like you I have learnt not to be quite so stubborn as I used to be because as soon as someone told me I couldn't do anything then I would go all out to prove that I could, but now I also go for realistic goals, good luck with your health and riding.
Esso
 
....I used to be very headstrong, and I do find it very hard to rein myself in as it were when I am determined to do something. But I try to be more realistic these days.....Good luck, try to do as much as you are able and in time you will make progress. I know that it has been very challenging to come back physically from one back op so how you have coped with all yours heaven only knows.
 
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