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My mare, who I have had for 10 years, died on Wednesday night. We had been looking at getting a new horse as we were thinking of retiring her and there is one in particular I am really keen on. I am heartbroken about my mare's death but I also want to keep on riding and having a horse to care for and I am so tempted to pick up the phone and call about this mare. Do you think its too soon to be even thinking about it? Its really hard as both my kids have ponies and I just can't see myself standing on the ground watching every one else ride at the yard.
 
Don't feel guilty. You'll never forget your mare however many horses you get after her death.

(((HUGS))) - I know how it feels
 
Oh don’t feel guilty, just because you like this new horse, it takes nothing away from how much you loved your mare! Go on call, and then keep us updated!
 
Nothing to feel gulity for, you loved and cared for your mare, so be glad she had a good life with you, some arent that lucky, cant see anything wrong with looking at others
 
You musnt feel guilty hun, I understand how you feel I really do, nothing will take away the love you had for your mare but why cant you have a new friend in your life? fair play to you...give it a call see what happens..

Sorry also to hear of your sad loss
 
No, don't feel guilty.

I had my last horse pts on a Wednesday and picked up my current one the following Saturday. Doesn't mean his death didn't hurt and I think nothing less of him

I think SallySmith on here did something similar also.
 
Of course you mustn't feel guilty, you loved your mare and you will love another too. Just make sure it is the right one for you and you're not just on the rebound. Good luck with your new horse, you deserve it.
 
The only person who knows when the time is right is you.

My old boy was semi retired when he died unexpectedly and the week before I had been to see another horse. This other one would have been in addition to not instead of my old boy but I couldn't help feeling that somehow he knew and let himself go and beat myself up for ages. I know now there was no way he even knew I'd seen another horse, and I didn't buy that one anyway. He had colic and went very suddenly so it's not like he had given up on life like some older horses seem to.
I was without a horse for 2 weeks before I started looking again and found one about 3 months later.
 
Thanks guys
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This the mare I was looking at.

http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/marketplace/classified/4-details-horses-for-sale_209978.htm

I only have 1,500 to spend. Technically I don't have that, its the money we had set aside so I could learn to drive, so I need to talk to my husband tonight. I love cobs and I am looking for something that can hack, school and is quiet enough that I can lead my girl's ponies from it. She sounds ideal. Just have to see what he says. I need a mare becuase the pnies are mares and they all live together, that way I only get charged one livery
 
Where are you based.You might be interested im my friends horse I had her on loan for 2 years its the one in my siggie.She wants £2000 but inc tack rugs new saddle.Shes fantastic mare 10 years took my daughter through pc .If your interested look at my siggie and photobucket pics first.
Dont feel guilty if you have given her good life she would want you to go and have fun .Sorry for your loss
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love pics of horse you are interested in
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I don't think you should feel guilty. It would be a shame to waste a good home and I'm sure your mare would not have wanted it.

Doesn't mean you love her any less.

Good luck
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Hugs darling. RIP for your girl.

Let her rest in peace and let you do what makes you feel complete. When Tiggy died I had no idea the loss and emptiness that I would feel. I couldn't go to the yard, hated being there (had to go due to daughters ponies). Was lost and empty. Was horse hunting within a week and it felt right.

When I got my new horse, I sometimes cried when I looked down and saw a chestnut neck instead of a spotty one, but at the time I was still crying frequently anyway. Now I sometimes enjoy the bits of Dizz that are 'better' than Tiggy, and sometimes I miss the bits of Tiggy that were better than Dizzy.
 
pick the phone up i had my mare 13 years n lost her in june at 1st i couldnt look at a horse for a few weeks and i just kept crying and every time i looked on horsequest i found fault with everything i looked at then i went to look at some id not even seen pics of n met my handsome new lad that was 6 weeks after my mare died dont get me wrong when he came i still cried for my old girl but iv realy bonded with him every ones diffrent n it may make you feel better to get back out there n start again theres nothing you can do so if you feel its the right thing to do go for it
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Dont feel guilty and go for it. I lost my 18 month old colt 2 years ago (he was adorable and I shouldnt say it but he was the best pony I ever had, still is) but felt I needed to get another youngster for my colt, so he had something to play with,so bought Flyer within 36 hours of loosing George (i did feel guilty about doing it).

But dont regret it one minute, Flyer will not let me forget George because he has exactly the same character, its like I have the same pony just a little different in colour. Also when I lost George I found a poem which I find myself saying most days so will never forget him.
 
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