Deltofe2493
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Me & OH are living with parents and saving for a property and we are on track due to have a deposit together by end of the year.
I have found my self super broody recently. Once we have the home then I am thinking we can think about starting a family of our own.
Why do I always feel like I am on a hamster wheel working for the next stage? Just under a year ago I was aiming to be on the salary I am now, and now I am looking for ways to achieve my next pay grade. I've bought a horse last year which is something I've dreamed of since I was 12, but now I am looking into pregnancy and next stages of life. Is this normal??? Why can I not just chill out for a few months at least?? I'm the same with the horse, once I've done one comp I'm always like ok when's the next what else can we do etc I stress myself out.
Anyway, my questions are how have others in this situation:
a) manage their time with a newborn.
b) manage finances. My livery is £600 per month, then intermittent maintenance costs i.e. full set of shoes, dentist, back etc
c) dealt with not riding/gentle riding for 9 months?
d) thoughts on sharers.. so hard to trust they will take the correct care, and also find someone who will be long term
My annual salary is 32k per year and he on 35, but statutory maternity pay works out around £600 per month which just about covers livery costs! Me & OH both work in pub / bar at weekends but I would not get SMP from this pub job. He takes in an additional £1200 per month. I would need to ask HR dept. for their mat leave policy but I think it is 6 weeks full pay then the rest on stat.
I would feel terrible for OH to fund my oversized dog for 6 months whilst on mat. leave, on top of that he would have to cover the mortgage, bills etc and I know this is something he and I would have to sit down and properly discuss when we are truly ready, but has anyone else's OH been kind enough to cover for them? Or do you save a bit knowing you will be off for a few months? Looking at options I'd be tempted to go back to my full time job asap just to earn the money.
People are saying if you wait to afford children you will never have them, and you make it work... thoughts and advice please!
I have found my self super broody recently. Once we have the home then I am thinking we can think about starting a family of our own.
Why do I always feel like I am on a hamster wheel working for the next stage? Just under a year ago I was aiming to be on the salary I am now, and now I am looking for ways to achieve my next pay grade. I've bought a horse last year which is something I've dreamed of since I was 12, but now I am looking into pregnancy and next stages of life. Is this normal??? Why can I not just chill out for a few months at least?? I'm the same with the horse, once I've done one comp I'm always like ok when's the next what else can we do etc I stress myself out.
Anyway, my questions are how have others in this situation:
a) manage their time with a newborn.
b) manage finances. My livery is £600 per month, then intermittent maintenance costs i.e. full set of shoes, dentist, back etc
c) dealt with not riding/gentle riding for 9 months?
d) thoughts on sharers.. so hard to trust they will take the correct care, and also find someone who will be long term
My annual salary is 32k per year and he on 35, but statutory maternity pay works out around £600 per month which just about covers livery costs! Me & OH both work in pub / bar at weekends but I would not get SMP from this pub job. He takes in an additional £1200 per month. I would need to ask HR dept. for their mat leave policy but I think it is 6 weeks full pay then the rest on stat.
I would feel terrible for OH to fund my oversized dog for 6 months whilst on mat. leave, on top of that he would have to cover the mortgage, bills etc and I know this is something he and I would have to sit down and properly discuss when we are truly ready, but has anyone else's OH been kind enough to cover for them? Or do you save a bit knowing you will be off for a few months? Looking at options I'd be tempted to go back to my full time job asap just to earn the money.
People are saying if you wait to afford children you will never have them, and you make it work... thoughts and advice please!