Follow on from Boo Hiss OH Rant - Buying to share

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Has anyone ever bought a horse deliberately to share?

Following on from this thread, I think sharing early on might be the way to go :D Bit of a chicken-and-egg though...horse first then find a sharer or sharer first then find a suitable horse?
 
I have got horses with my best mate who has already shared horses with me. She has had sum time off to have a baby and is getting back into riding again so am considering her sharing again....
 
I think that buying and then finding a sharer is always going to be easier than trying to buy a horse with a friend. I have seen this happen and it ended so badly. One rider was more experienced - they tired to buy a horse in between their capabilities and the less experienced rider fell off first time out and catastrophically broke a shoulder, arm and ribs. She wouldn't go near the horse afterwards and as the other partner did not have the other half of the money to buy her out she had to sell and was heartbroken.

It is always going to be easier to find a sharer rather than have a joint ownership situation. No matter how well you think you get on - it WILL always go wrong!

ETA - Just re read your thread and I see you weren't planning to buy a joint venture d'oh. Anyway I still say horse first sharer second. You are the priority here.
 
Ah, I didn't mean joint ownership or anything - I meant asking around and seeing how many sharers are out there in the vicinity. Some people really seem to be struggling with finding sharers and knowing my luck I'd end up with a horse I didn't have time to ride enough on my own.
 
Myself and a friend got a horse together. For us it didn't work out. The reason being we both wanted different things. I am quite petite and prefer a pony, she is quite a lot heavier than me and wanted a big horse. We compromised with a 15.2 heavyweight cob.

I wanted to do endurance, jumping and try dressage. The mare wasn't suited and I spent a fortune on lessons. My friend happy hacked occasionally and unfortunately couldn't ride that well at all. She would fall off and then lose confidence and not ride for a long time, which wasn't helpful for me trying to fittened the mare.

It didnt work out for various reasons, but mainly due to my friends inexperience (She told me she was a seasoned horse owner in her teenage years) This turned out to not be true and I felt I took on a lot more than she did. But I think that if you go into it with the same goal you will be fine and its a great idea.

Please dont take my post as negative. I like a horse to be mine so I can bond, so I doubt for us it would ever work out. Please draw up a detailed contract just in case :O)

Good luck!
 
emmahaywood1 said:
Myself and a friend got a horse together. For us it didn't work out. The reason being we both wanted different things. I am quite petite and prefer a pony, she is quite a lot heavier than me and wanted a big horse. We compromised with a 15.2 heavyweight cob.

I wanted to do endurance, jumping and try dressage. The mare wasn't suited and I spent a fortune on lessons. My friend happy hacked occasionally and unfortunately couldn't ride that well at all. She would fall off and then lose confidence and not ride for a long time, which wasn't helpful for me trying to fittened the mare.

It didnt work out for various reasons, but mainly due to my friends inexperience (She told me she was a seasoned horse owner in her teenage years) This turned out to not be true and I felt I took on a lot more than she did. But I think that if you go into it with the same goal you will be fine and its a great idea.

Please dont take my post as negative. I like a horse to be mine so I can bond, so I doubt for us it would ever work out. Please draw up a detailed contract just in case :O)

Good luck!
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being really nosy but what happened? did you end up buying her out or did you have to sell?

Defo think you would have to be singing off the same page if buying a horse with someone.
 
She bought me out and I bought my own. She keeps her at the same yard as me and is really struggling with her :O( I help her most days so still feel she is half mine!

Love my new mare though :O)
 
I've tried editing my OP but have missed the deadline.

I'm only talking about a standard sharing deal, not joint ownership, just with seeking out a sharer first :)
 
pookie said:
I've tried editing my OP but have missed the deadline.

I'm only talking about a standard sharing deal, not joint ownership, just with seeking out a sharer first :)
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lol sorry, went off on a tangent then was being nosy! I wouldn't seek a sharer first, you might end up getting a horse that doesn't suit you completely because your thinking about the sharers ability best off buying horse and then finding a sharer to join the team.
 
Miss Bean said:
lol sorry, went off on a tangent then was being nosy! I wouldn't seek a sharer first, you might end up getting a horse that doesn't suit you completely because your thinking about the sharers ability best off buying horse and then finding a sharer to join the team.
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Bums :D I thought that might be the answer. Looks like I'll have to shelve that idea for a while.
 
I think its the same situation. If you find someone who wants to share a horse, and then you buy one, you will need to consider what the sharer wants and that's where the problems start. I think it would be easier to find a horse you want and then find a suitable person to share? But only if you can afford/have the time to care for a horse 100% You dont want to end up with a horse and no help. Its a difficult one I think :O)

My friend who has the mare now, is on her 3rd sharer since April as she cannot find someone suitable. My other friend is more likely on her 6th or 7th sharer for her ex racer! But I'm sure there is a perfect horse and sharer for you out there. x
 
emmahaywood1 - I'd be looking for something I could start le trec on while I bring on my youngster, so it wouldn't be anything with competition potential, just something with the ability to do more than plod around the block. I'd try to make that clear to any sharer but you're right it could become really messy.

Miss Bean - No worries :D I'm scraping the barrel here, I know :p
 
I had a Boy Friend, and we decided to buy a horse together after 2 years dating. We both liked a horse at the riding school and bought him and it was great. Then I met my horse and bought him but it had to be a joint purchase with BF. Then BF and I broke up and we swapped each other the half share of the horses and the half share of the tack so my horse became mine and the 1st horse became his. Then we went through about of year of fighting and now we are Best Friends. I have my horse for 10 years this year and he has the other horse for 12 years altogether.

It can be tricky buying with a friend but it can work out sometimes. I was a better rider than him but the horse raised his standard of riding. I suppose we both wanted the same thing from the horse and that is what made it work.
 
shame your in Surrey pookie, I am just venturing into the world of le trec and always on the look out for people to go and play with :-)
 
I went to my first training session, and the bug bit off to our first proper one in three weeks eek!

emmahaywood1 - try it, its brilliant! where are you based?
 
So sorry but DONT do it unless you can afford it without a sharer, it is not a good business plan.

Finding a perfect sharer is like finding the perfect man ....... And it will have all the assosiated ups and downs even if you do find 'perfect ' and you will have to readvertise occasionally by its very nature - and we all how many frogs before the prince turns up.
 
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