Following on from the pain of losing Bruno

[peaceandquiet1]

Thank you to all who replied and helped me in my darkest hours after we lost our beloved Bruno to a road accident. It was suggested that we get a project to help distract us-and our vets have given a cat to us who desperately needed a chance. He had been handed in for pts or rehoming as he was very scared and had behavioural problems in his first home. He has been here for a week and has responded really well to attention. He is wary but if he knows you he likes to be stroked and will purr. Nothing will ever take Bruno's place-he was a one in a million-but Lenny was a poor sad soul who has a chance here.

I still cry for Bruno-I think I always will.

 

[pines of rome]

After having my little Sidney pts on Thursday, I know how sad you are feeling! Its so nice that you are giving
this troubled cat a chance and hopefully concentrating on him will help you a little! x

 

[Fransurrey]

Bless you, HMM, I had a cry for Rosco the other night and felt so guilty that I was a little resentful of Luna for simply not being him (so don't be surprised if that happens to you after a few weeks). It's wonderful that Lenny has come on in the week he's been with you. Fingers crossed he comes good, as Luna has (she was also very scared). Take care. x

 

[peaceandquiet1]

Every now and then it hits me that Bruno won't be coming back-I have been blocking it out because I just can't bear it. Poor Lenny can't help not being Bruno, at least that's what I tell myself, as I understand what you mean about the guilt and resentment. but yes he has helped to distract us and knowing he has a chance because of us is a good feeling. He is a lovely cat. Just misunderstood.

 

[City Mare]

I didn't respond to your last post, but I'm so glad you've sound another pusskins to pour your love in to.

No, you probably won't get over Bruno, and no doubt - just like I do for my lovely Max - you will still cry for him five years on. But every time you do, you'll feel a little paw or hear a little purr from Lenny, again just like I do from Rosie and Ted, and it will lift you for that moment and take your mind off Bruno.

I still cry for my little Max, and it sounds weird but if I think of dates where I have done certain things in my life, I always think oh that was "before max" or "after max". But that's happening a little less now, as are the tears.

Lenny may be completely different to Bruno, and thats why you loved Bruno - because he WAS different to any other cat - but he came into your life for a reason and just at the right time by the sounds of things.

Big hugs to you, and huge very furry cuddles from Rosie and Ted.

Xx

 

[peaceandquiet1]

City Mare what lovely words, am in tears again, but thank you xx

 

[suestowford]

A new cat will fill the cat-shaped hole in your household but he will make his own place in your heart, rather than taking Bruno's place.

 

[applecart14]

Bless you, HMM, I had a cry for Rosco the other night and felt so guilty that I was a little resentful of Luna for simply not being him . x

It took me years to stop feeling like this, so I know what you mean. Sorry for your loss OP.