Furious - Am I over reacting

[susie2193]

Hi

Appologies for a rant but need to get it off my chest.

Two days before christmas a woman on our yard asked me if I would do her horse for her on Xmas day as she was going away. I felt sorry for the horse and agreed on the
understanding that feeds were made up, haynets filled and left and I would hay, water, feed and muck out in the morning and feed, water and hay in the afternoon.

Anyway the day before Xmas eve she told me that the feeds were in my locker, and see you after Xmas.

Xmas morning, no haynets, so I mucked out a filthy bed as she had last been done Xmas eve morning, fed, left hay on the floor, petty I know but wasn't going to spend my morning filling haynets, watered and re-bandaged otherwise horse would have had bandages on for 3 days without being redone. And threw hay, water and feed in in the afternoon.

Apparently she "conned" someone else to do Boxing Day.

When I saw her this evening was greeted with, "In a rush, we've got visitors coming". No did you have a good Xmas, or even Thank you for doing my horse.

Don't get me wrong I don't expect anything except for a thank you, but if someone had done that for me I would have at the very least sent a text asking if all OK and thanks, and propably even bought a bottle of wine.

Am I over reacting, or justified in feeling taken for granted? I don't want an atmosphere but at the moment don't know how I am going to react next time I see her.

Thnaks for reading and mince pies to all.

 

[dressagelove]

Yep, i would be miffed. Some people know how to get away with murder, it may be selfish, but best to just look after yourself gal!

 

[Jesstickle]

How rude. My very good friend did my two Christmas day and boxing day and I left enough haynets and feeds and left her immaculate beds so they'd be as easy as possible. Plus I got her a Christmas present and left her £50 quid! Could horse not at least have been left unbandaged for goodness sake?!

My two were hideous on Christmas day so now I feel bad and have had to apologise lots all day, even though she doesn't care!

Just say no next time!

 

[SamanthaUK]

No! Not at all. I think that woman was extremely rude. If I were you I would start a conversation with her, talking about christmas and see if she thanks you. If not, you know never to do it again.

Some people are so ungrateful. Hope you had a good christmas anyway

 

[Magnetic Sparrow]

You definitely deserved a 'Thank You'. The owner doesn't seem capable, but I'll bet the horse would have said thanks if he could.

 

[rascal]

Thank you costs nothing, i would be a bit miffed too.

 

[ArabianGold]

I would be acting exactly the same!!

I am going away tomorrow evening at 8pm until Saturday morning and I have been up the yard today filling a weeks worth of haynets just in case extra are needed, cleaning buckets, labelling all feed, mucked bed out completely and topped up with a bale of straw. Left all rugs out hanging ready to grab and left 2 bottles of wine and a thank you card.

I feel that I have done all I can too make my friends life easier and my horses well being doesn't drop while I am away.

I was worrying that I hadn't done enough but clearly I have gone over board by some people's standards lol. ;-)

I would take this as a knock on the chin and if she asks again just say well "if I get a thank you for it I might consider it"

Adios

 

[susie2193]

Thanks for that. Believe me there won't be a next time. The reason she was stuck is because last year she didn't pay the girl who did it for her, as I said I didn't expect to be paid, just a thank you and everyone would have been happy.

 

[mik]

I think she is a bit mean to say the least. Maybe something will come another day??? a little thank you, or an offer to help you in the future. If not, smile, put it down to experience and walk away!

 

[Sunshine]

Thanks for that. Believe me there won't be a next time. The reason she was stuck is because last year she didn't pay the girl who did it for her, QUOTE]

Think this answers it really! She has no intention of showing any gratitude by the sound of it and just needed to find a mug :-/

 

[Pedantic]

That tattoo you have on your forehead, see if you can get it removed on the NHS, next time you see this cow tell her she owes you £25.00 and will she be paying cash or cheque ?

 

[shelbie]

In my opinion people take you for granted.you do them a favour and get no thanks. you ask them to do you a favour and they either make some excuse to get out of it or want paying. a friend if Ican call her that somene I have taken to shows , markets , given lifts to yard for years with not so much as thank you really opened my eyes. my job meant 6am starts not finishing untill 1.30 2pm. she offered to turn out my mare and give her a morning feed but only if I paid her £ 5 per morning. when I think of the cost of the petrol ferrying her about I FEEL USED AND STUPID

 

[Cinnamontoast]

It's £20 to have your horse fully looked after on Christmas day on my yard.

You should have told her no or at least grabbed her and given her a telling off.

 

[Merrymoles]

The only consolation is that knowing you did right by the horse who obviously has an uncaring owner.

 

[FairyLights]

this is a matter for the YO ,what on earth are they doing allowing this sort of arrangement in the first place?

 

[niagaraduval]

You know not to help her out again. People are unbelievable sometimes !

 

[muddygreymare]

She sounds like an ungrateful barsteward! You're right to be angry, i'd be fuming!

 

[Suffolkangel]

Wow I be really annoyed. I wouldn't dream of doing anything like that at anytime of year especially Christmas. I'm lucky on my yard, there's only 3 of us and we all help each other out. If someone goes away on holiday we always make sure feeds, haynets etc... are all ready to make life easier. And if for some reason one of us cant make it up no matter what the reason there is never any hesitation to help as we all know the favour would be returned. Love my yard and the people on it...

 

[Luci07]

I would say something to her. Agree it probably won't impact her but it WILL make you fel better!!!

 

[Twizzel]

I would be very annoyed... just like I was when I photographed a friends wedding because they were hard up on cash and if I didn't do it the MIL was going to dip into her pension... so I did it and forfeited being a guest, dad took a day off work to be a second shooter, spent 12 hours covering her big day and put the photos in an album and on disc and never even got a thankyou card yet alone a bottle of wine... took the photos round to their house a couple of weeks after the wedding and they had a brand new 50" tv pride of place in the lounge, still leaves a bitter taste in my mouth now