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I have been riding near enough all my life I met my girlfriend about a year ago and she has never ridden and she is refusing to learn, does anyone else have a partner who doesn't want to ride ? does it annoy you as much as it does m that she wont even give it a go? or am I being unreasonable? how can I convince her to learn? or should o leave her and find someone who rides? is it weird I want a girlfriend who rides?
 
If you're prepared to end the relationship over something like that, then she's not the right person for you regardless of her disinterest in riding.
I don't think anyone should be coerced into riding unless they want to, for the sake of the horse.
 
Horses aren't for everybody. Maybe she's scared. Or doesn't like all the muck and smell.

Having said that, my husband has just started riding after 10 years of not seeing me at weekends! So give it time :-)
 
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I have been riding near enough all my life I met my girlfriend about a year ago and she has never ridden and she is refusing to learn, does anyone else have a partner who doesn't want to ride ? does it annoy you as much as it does m that she wont even give it a go? or am I being unreasonable? how can I convince her to learn? or should o leave her and find someone who rides? is it weird I want a girlfriend who rides?
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My hubby has no interest in learning.. I'd would probably like him to but hey ho. We're both 24 & have been together 8 years.. He has no interest in horses, we just try and do our hobbies at the same time, I go to the yard while he plays football/golf or goes to the gym. It's not a problem, everyone is different. If I need help or if one of the horse is ill he has come up & has even stayed with me throughout the night or sat in the car all day while I've done a sponsored ride.. But it's not his thing.. Why force it?
 
If she doesn't want to ride, she doesn't want to ride. Don't push it. If you're that fussed about sharing an interest with your girlfriend, you either need to have something else in common with her or find a new girlfriend.

Quite a shallow thing to do, if you're considering breaking up with her just because she has no interest in horses.
 
Freedom of choice, she doesn't want to ride her choice. I like having different hobbies to OH makes life more interesting! For her sake I would find someone your more compatible with.
 
I have a friend who is serious into her competing, bf wouldn't learn to ride, he settled for being her personal horsey photographer which I actually thought was pretty neat!
Appreciating your OHs hobbies and supporting them is a must for me, doesn't mean you actually have to do them though I'd say. Every relationship needs space!
I do get though that you want to share your passion for horses with her, but on the flip side if she got seriously into, say tennis, for example, would you go and play every night?
 
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My husband has no interest in riding; he avoids coming to the yard unless he has to its just not his thing. He has a motorbike its not my thing so we both have our own hobbies; i respect his decision and it works well for us.
Its says more the fact you think of ending the relationship over her not riding than anything. Personally I would respect her decision and maybe take an interst in what she is into and have seperate interests that give you some you time each.
Horses and riding are not for everyone.
 
thomas_ry said:
I have been riding near enough all my life I met my girlfriend about a year ago and she has never ridden and she is refusing to learn, does anyone else have a partner who doesn't want to ride ? does it annoy you as much as it does m that she wont even give it a go? or am I being unreasonable? how can I convince her to learn? or should o leave her and find someone who rides? is it weird I want a girlfriend who rides?
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Can we just clarify, you being a new poster and all?

You are taking horses? If so, your attitude means your relationship is doomed anyway. If not, yes I think you need a new girlfriend.
 
funkyfilly018 said:
I have a friend who is serious into her competing, bf wouldn't learn to ride, he settled for being her personal horsey photographer which I actually thought was pretty neat!
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My brother and one of my exes did this ^^

Neither wanted to ride, but both have really snazzy cameras, so come to shows and take pictures :)
 
dogatemysalad said:
If you're prepared to end the relationship over something like that, then she's not the right person for you regardless of her disinterest in riding.
I don't think anyone should be coerced into riding unless they want to, for the sake of the horse.
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^^ this. I believe its nice when people are supportive of their OH's hobbies but you don't have to participate in the other's sport to support them.
 
Do what i did with my Oh , lead a trail of sweets onto said horses back and strap him down with ducktape before giving horse a big slap on the bum and watch them belt round the field like one of those dolls they attach to sheep during the races ;)
 
and dude, to be fair, if i got with my hubby, and he`d have been heavily into 'parachuting' and decided to try and coerce me into doing it, he`d have been out the door in 2 seconds flat. Just because you enjoy doing it, doesn`t mean it`s her thing, and if she isn`t interested, try finding out what she does like ;)
 
Honestly you either want to learn or you don't .
It someone does not thats that .
If your male ,solvent and don't look like a troll you will have no trouble finding a horsey girl friend but be warned we generally don't take kindly to bully's .
 
Have been with OH nearly 20 years, he bought my first horse as a surprise, helps with all diy round yard, happy to put more land on joint mortgage and after all this time will give a carrot but still doesn't do rugs, head collars and will NEVER get on one of them even for a second. Works for us........
 
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