GRRRR stupid numpties on my yard!!!

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Sorry, this is going to be such a rant!! I keep my 2 ex-racers on a pretty big livery yard, about 60 horses. It used to be 30 until recently when they built a new block of stables. Anyway, we seem to have had a massive influx of complete NUMPTIES. The type that hover around, drinking tea most of the morning but never seeming to actually ride
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who all have overweight, over rugged, over pampered horseys that hubby pays for.

My gelding can get nippy if he's given treats, so all the 'old' liveries know not to feed him anything (tbh, i wouldn't expect them to anyway without having to be told) but i've caught the 'new' lot feeding him carrots, polos etc a few times recently. It's so fecking irritating, but of course the first few times i just explained that he's nippy and gave the other liveries the benefit of the doubt... But it's still happening
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Also, a livery said she'd put extra haylege in for him last night. Why?
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Apparently because she didnt think my net would last the night... Again, i forced a smile and simply said that i weigh his haylege out, i've looked after him for 6 years (work at his old trainers yard!) and i'm happy with his weight at the minute. So i put up a sign yesterday, that simply says ' Do Not Feed'. Problem solved, you'd think. But no - bits of chewed carrot outside his door this evening! Went to the tea room where some people were hanging around drinking tea (as bloody usual) and asked who'd fed my horse. Obviously everyone acted very ignorant to the whole thing, until one 'new' person piped up and said that she 'had to give him a carrot earlier, as i was giving mine one *giggle giggle*' I'm sorry but no no no! Again, tried to remain polite and tell them all not to feed him anything!!

Then, the icing on the cake... our non-horsey yard owner (farmer) came to speak to me when i was schooling just before and said that i should take my signs down as 'some other liveries have found them a bit patronising and aggrevating' ??!?!?! I just stared at him and explained i didnt want the bloody numpties feeding my horses a loads of treats, just because they give their fat horses them day in day out! The poor man as i mentioned before isnt horsey, and hates getting caught up in yard politics so i just told him i'd speak to people politely again - but that im not taking my signs down!




I don't know what to do... any ideas?



Sorry for this being SO long
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Thanks for understanding everyone
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I just feel like im talking to a brick wall. This sounds rude, but the majority of the new people are a lot more novicey then the rest of us so they just don't seem to understand why he can't get 'adlib' haylege and loads of treats. Although it begs the question of why they thought themselves experienced enough to get their own horse?!
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who all have overweight, over rugged, over pampered horseys that hubby pays for.


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This infers that anybody whose horse is paid for by their husband has a fat, pampered and over rugged horse
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I take umbrage at this statement
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. My husband pays for my horse because we decided between us that I would stay home and raise our children.

This does not make me a numpty
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, I am still the intelligent woman who gave up a highly paid job 3 years ago.

Just because my husband pays for my horse, it doesn't mean I have forgotten what I have learned over 20+ years of horse ownership.

As for the rest of your post, grow up!! Hiding behind stupid notes put up on stables is annoying. Have the balls to tell people
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Point out that them feeding your horse is no better than you coming down late at night and removing the hay from their horses. Tell them that is what you intend to start doing if they don't start respecting your requests and stop interfering with your horses.
 
And that is their choice Jackdaws - if they do not wish to exercise their horse, then they do not have to
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I think you would be better off moving to a different yard TBH, the one you are at obviously does not meet your exacting standards
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Not oe of them, out of 30 people, has a job, a child or anything?

You must have one huge tea room!

I'd be annoyed too, yes, but would simply make my point clearer. Will none of the old liveries back you up? Or can you not move your horse to a new block.

from mum who's OH pays for the horses, and who hasnt got a job....
 
Personally i would stop the nicely nicely approach. These people obviously live in la la land and your polite and correct way of approaching them face to face isn't getting through.

I would go and see them next time your up the yard and explain fully, you don't have to be rude but let them know your not a push over and mean business. I wouldn't stand for it. Tell them you do not want to fall out, but you have asked them repeatedly not to feed your horse which they have ignored and as a consequence you have been forced to put the signs up at a result of their inability to co-operate. Tell them you will have to inform your YO if they continue which you do not want to do but feel forced to take it seriously if they fail to acknowledge your instructions as horse owner.

People like this REALLY irritate me - can be quite short tempered with incompetent people like this. Maybe even take one of the original liveries with you or get them to have a word before so maybe it gets through.

At the end of the day, regardless if its treats, haylage, hard feed whatever, unless you have been instructed too, or is plain logic like say the water was running low) you should not feed another livery's horse!
 
Oh OK, get your head out of your own a**e then and realise that people look after their horses in different ways, just because it is not your way does not mean it is wrong
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It is not acceptable for people to be feeding your horses without your knowledge, but if you approach the problem like you have posted on here I am not surprised you have not been able to sort things out
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You may believe you always know best, but try not to totally patronise and demean everyone else but yourself
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Ok, so i am of course generalising and i apologise for that. I suppose i just find it irritating sometimes that the lot of them do sit around the majority of the time, where as i'm like a headless chicken working 12 hours a day and finding time to properly care for and exercise my horses... and i don't then appreciate them coming along and reversing all the work i've put into the geldings stable manners, and also potentially harming his health by feeding him extra haylege.
 
titbits to other peoples horses is a big nono! I fully agree with you on that one. What if your horse was prone to colic or the treats would set him off cribbing like mad??? And as for signs - I tend to address most issues face to face but if a matter is pressing and can't wait till the weekend I'll put up notes in the evening to make sure the message gets to everyone....
 
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Oh OK, get your head out of your own a**e then and realise that people look after their horses in different ways, just because it is not your way does not mean it is wrong
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It is not acceptable for people to be feeding your horses without your knowledge, but if you approach the problem like you have posted on here I am not surprised you have not been able to sort things out
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You may believe you always know best, but try not to totally patronise and demean everyone else but yourself
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I'm confused about what your point is, you seem to have solely picked out the 'don't ride their horses' remark?
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I too have put a sign on my neds door that if anyone leaves their property near him it will get wrecked and wee'd on for good measure so nobody leaves stuff near him anymore.
None of the other liveries have taken this the wrong way and think its a goof sign. I did make it humourous but it gets the point across. Stick to your guns!!!
 
can totally understand about the treat feeding - my tb is also an ex racer and had a really bad nipping habit when he came to me and also being on a riding school means that there are lots of well meaning parents and kids who wander round with bags of apples,carrots etc . I tried to make sure mine was turned out or away from the yard when the busy lessons were happening . He to had signs on his door - one said please do not feed the horse as I may bite - not a huge effect but we discovered that feeding apples and carrots to him also excabated his hobday op and he would get streams of appley/carroty liquid come out his nose and could eventually lead to a lung infection so we put another sign up saying please do not feed me any treats as it can make me very ill - had more of a result and it is generally well known that he is to get nothing in the way of treats. Hope you get this sorted as it can be very annoying
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i have signs on one of my horses stables saying not to feed him, purely because he will take your hand off if hes given treats, yet people still find it aceptable to put more hayledge in/feed him carrots etc even though they have been told not to, sometimes not very politely there is no telling some people
stick to your guns, dont take down the sign. hes your horse and you have the right to dictate (within reason) what he does and doesnt get to eat especially if it affects your safety when you do spend time with him, it doesnt take much to be knocked flat by a horse filtching your pockets
 
i would talk quietly to the yard owner and suggest (very politely) that a few yard rules should be displayed. like please sweep up after yourselfs. please empty barrows and stack muck heap. please wash your teacups after use. please do not feed any horse but your own unless asked etc. i would also amend your sign to a PLEASE do not feed this horse. his feed is monitored as he has allergies and if you give him treats (carrots/polos etc) you WILL make him ill. Thank you. this should get to the tit bitters!!!
 
Thanks to the last few of you who have psoted about the titbits. When i say 'nippy' i do mean 'take your hand off'
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hence don't feed him any!! Even after just a couple of weeks of the odd treat he's already lunging at peoples hands if you go to stroke him, and mugging you for treats
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Could you make a sign that gets your point across as though it was from your horses mouth talking? Like "please dont feed me as I can be a little nippy etc etc etc" That would get your point over without seeming to be patronising. Maybe your a bit envious of their position that they dont have to work etc, or maybe you dont like the sudden growth of your yard. A lot of us dont like change and dont like to admit it, Im first to own up to that.

Hope it works out, I wouldnt go the expense of an anti weaving bar, they can still feed your horse through it anyway and it may just add fuel to the fire. Others may see it as a "challenge" to go against your instructions.
 
I agreee that other liveries feeding your horse is out of order. However some people like the social side of having a horse and if they want to drink tea, why not? I work hard to keep my horse and sometimes if i don't feel like riding, i do just drink tea with other liveries!
 
I had to put a sign up at a yard asking 'do not feed this horse' as I was told by a lovely guy that he gives all the horses a polo before going home... erm, not mine you don't.

I also have one on current stable door as I am near a public footpath and one old man took to feeding my horse polos. I pointed out to him I wouldn't go to his house and feed his dog, so why does he feed my horse. I did say to him 'its not part of the bl^^dy nature walk so don't do it!

I don't know why, but some people think its cute to feed other peoples horses.

I don't think you should move yards, you should just make sure that whoever is feeding your horses realises you are not putting up with it.
 
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I'm confused about what your point is, you seem to have solely picked out the 'don't ride their horses' remark?
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Oh dear - well, just to clarify in simple terms for you, I was referring to all the stuff you put in your OP about the owners daring to sit around drinking tea
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with their "overweight, over rugged, over pampered horseys (sic) which hubby pays for"....

Oh and "i didnt want the bloody numpties feeding my horses a loads of treats, just because they give their fat horses them day in day out!"

I give my horse the occasional treat, he is an ex-racing TB and he has the good manners and training not to get nippy when I do so... but then nor is he fat, over-rugged or over-pampered.

Just a little suggestion - putting 'PLEASE' on your notices might make the world of difference



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Yes i suppose you're right... a lot of us have been on this yard for a long, long time and we're rather set in our ways so the new people has shaken things up a bit
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Hopefully we'll all adapt and everything will settle down
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