metalmare
Well-Known Member
I have been riding a pony for the past three months, once a week and mucking out in return. He has been deteriorating in health over that time and after a particularly bad hack a week ago I made the decision not to ride him again. I told someone on the yard and as this is a big yard (40 horses) by pure coincidence it happened that they needed help with their horse. But she has her problems too so we were unsure whether I would want a regular arrangement and left it that I would have a trial on her last Saturday.
Meanwhile I had spoken to the ill ponies owner and said that I wasn't happy riding him anymore. She protested, saying he had been great for her the other day - the best for a long time! She was pushy and said I should give him another chance. I agreed to muck out on the Saturday as it would give her short notice if I didn't but said I was in two minds about riding him and leaning towards not!!
When I rang last night to say that I wasn't going to ride him anymore but that I was to help with this new pony and therefore was more than happy to muck him out still (even though I wouldn't be getting anything from it) she was awful to me.
Basically she didn't believe that I had decided to stop riding him before I had been given the other offer and she thinks I dropped him for this other pony! She also thinks that I lied about his ill health because I didn't want to ride him anymore!!!! But if he wasn't ill I would still ride him!
It seems to me that she is very cynical, not hugely bothered about her ponies welfare and very unfair to call me a liar on three different counts!!
But perhaps you see it from a different perspective?
To my mind, so long as I did everything that was agreed for her pony on that morning it was none of her business what other arrangement I had made - none of her business if I was riding 40 horses! It was only a trial and I wouldn't tell her I was trialing a horse any more than I would tell an employee I was looking at other jobs - that is your private business until there is a definate change of situation!
Meanwhile I had spoken to the ill ponies owner and said that I wasn't happy riding him anymore. She protested, saying he had been great for her the other day - the best for a long time! She was pushy and said I should give him another chance. I agreed to muck out on the Saturday as it would give her short notice if I didn't but said I was in two minds about riding him and leaning towards not!!
When I rang last night to say that I wasn't going to ride him anymore but that I was to help with this new pony and therefore was more than happy to muck him out still (even though I wouldn't be getting anything from it) she was awful to me.
Basically she didn't believe that I had decided to stop riding him before I had been given the other offer and she thinks I dropped him for this other pony! She also thinks that I lied about his ill health because I didn't want to ride him anymore!!!! But if he wasn't ill I would still ride him!
It seems to me that she is very cynical, not hugely bothered about her ponies welfare and very unfair to call me a liar on three different counts!!
But perhaps you see it from a different perspective?
To my mind, so long as I did everything that was agreed for her pony on that morning it was none of her business what other arrangement I had made - none of her business if I was riding 40 horses! It was only a trial and I wouldn't tell her I was trialing a horse any more than I would tell an employee I was looking at other jobs - that is your private business until there is a definate change of situation!