Grumpy Herbert
Well-Known Member
I have a sharer/loaner for my 16 year old mare. The sharer has had the horse for 4 years now. Most of the time sharer has been fine, if a little careless and 'gung ho' while riding. The arrangement is that she pays two thirds of the livery bill and shoes - I pay the other third, insurance, wormers, supplements and any vet bills. She has sole use of the horse. I did things this way because I wanted the mare to be kept at the same yard as my other horse so I could keep an eye on things - sharer hasn't had her own horse before and the mare can be difficult. We don't have a written contract because I stupidly thought that as we were both adults it wouldn't be necessary.
Recently a new livery has come to the yard and she and my sharer have really hit it off. The problem is my sharer's behaviour and attitude has changed for the worse. They went on a pleasure ride together and I found out that the sharer had done most of the 6 mile ride in trot and canter - and she saw fit to gallop up a steep hill. My horse was not fit enough for this. The mare came back a sweaty mess, with hot swollen legs and windgalls came up. Sharer did not tell me any of this, the YO told me because she was concerned. The sharer and new livery seem to want to hurtle round the countryside at 100mph all the time, which I don't like.
I found out today that the pair of them hassled another livery yesterday - they were asking her to take them to the beach in her trailer! I know this is not my fault, but I really don't like the way things are going or the attitude of the pair of them.
I was thinking of making new arrangements with the sharer. I feel some loyalty to her because generally she has been ok, so I don't really want to take the horse off her. I was thinking of saying that I only want her to ride my mare 3 days a week and in a sensible manner. Obviously the financial aspect would change to reflect this. I would not be getting another sharer, but my other horse keeps me very busy so the exercising of my mare comes in useful.
Do you think this is reasonable? What would be a reasonable amount to charge for this?
Thank you for reading this essay!!!
Recently a new livery has come to the yard and she and my sharer have really hit it off. The problem is my sharer's behaviour and attitude has changed for the worse. They went on a pleasure ride together and I found out that the sharer had done most of the 6 mile ride in trot and canter - and she saw fit to gallop up a steep hill. My horse was not fit enough for this. The mare came back a sweaty mess, with hot swollen legs and windgalls came up. Sharer did not tell me any of this, the YO told me because she was concerned. The sharer and new livery seem to want to hurtle round the countryside at 100mph all the time, which I don't like.
I found out today that the pair of them hassled another livery yesterday - they were asking her to take them to the beach in her trailer! I know this is not my fault, but I really don't like the way things are going or the attitude of the pair of them.
I was thinking of making new arrangements with the sharer. I feel some loyalty to her because generally she has been ok, so I don't really want to take the horse off her. I was thinking of saying that I only want her to ride my mare 3 days a week and in a sensible manner. Obviously the financial aspect would change to reflect this. I would not be getting another sharer, but my other horse keeps me very busy so the exercising of my mare comes in useful.
Do you think this is reasonable? What would be a reasonable amount to charge for this?
Thank you for reading this essay!!!
