Heartbreaking Decision - But am I going about it the right way?

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Crying as I type this - I have two horses on DIY and simply do not have the time to do them both justice. I have bills coming out of my ears and simply cannot carry on with eveything being such a huge struggle, it is putting a massive strain on things with OH - Something has to give :-)

They are both such lovely characters it is an utter waste to do naff all with them.

I have made the decision to sell one so that I can afford to keep just one on part livery and therefore have time for riding as opposed to poo picking, mucking out etc and hopefully begin to enjoy it all again rather than seeing it as a chore.

Neither are really in work, the lad I have advertised today and stated he is not in work, I am so gutted to be selling and see it as failing him, I just cant bear the thought of tonnes of people rocking up and hauling him round - Is that wrong?

He is fab in every way, all but hacking alone - Hes perfect in company, totally bombproof but alone he will stop and try to nap if allowed to.

So before waffling on any more my questions are:

A) Is it ok to sell him out of work, I know once I bring him back in to work I wont be able to bring myself to sell him.

B) Will someone buy a horse that doesnt really hack alone? (He does with me but it has taken 3 years to gain his trust and get him happy alone - And only with me, a friend tried and had no joy.....)
 
Being in a very similar boat I really know where your coming from. I think selling straight from the field out of work is perfectly acceptable. Obviously if the money you get for him is important to you then you'd be better off bringing him back into work as he will be more saleable but if the price is unimportant I'd do the same!
I think your doing the right thing by both of them, yourself and your partner, if it were an option to me I'd be grabbing it. Good luck x
 
Was just going to say the same, a lot of people would find this actually better especially if they want a nice project now spring is approaching! But price would reflect this … just watch out for ‘inexperienced riders wanting a cheap buy’ – use your common sense and Im sure you’ll find him a lovely home – there are people out there!!! x
 
He's not even sold yet and I am permanently crying! I just adore him!

Price wise I do not have a clue what to ask for him, his only ism is not hacking alone - Dont worry, this post isnt a sneaky way of advertising him, its a way to pour my heart out and blub!!

The pther horse belongs to my Mother so any sale money goes to her - I own my boy so his money goes to me - Money that I really could do with.
 
Are you sure you can’t find another way of affording to keep both? Perhaps loan one out which would take the monthly expense off you and give you more time for the other but keeping them both DIY to save money? x
 
Is there no way of a share or loan or something less final but that means someone has responsibility of the money and his care? Even if he has to go to a different home, maybe that is one way to go? The perfect owner for him may be some one who can't raise the funds to buy outright but who can afford the daily upkeep.

If selling is your only option then just be perfectionist and ask many questions and see where hes going to make sure he gets the best home. If he goes somewhere lovely and they make use him to his full potential then it will be best for him, just hard for you. It's not easy but horses must come first.
 
I was in the same boat a couple years ago-but I was adamant I couldn't part with my 2, it would have broke my heart.
I instead found cheap grass livery, gave up my house, sold a few things, got a sharer in, took off their back shoes, switched to cheaper feed etc etc.
My horses have never been happier, and both the vet and farrier have commented on their improved health. Plus I have only really the poo picking to do which is now shared by my sharer and sister (who rides 1) so more quality time spent with horses.
I think it's fine to sell horses straight from field, as long as you're honest. Just don't be afraid of change. Hope everything turns out ok. X
 
I was in this situation last year and ended up giving my TB to a friend :) TBH I am so happy just having one to do and I can now afford assisted DIY livery so have more time to myself and my social life has improved no end! It's hard to start with but the rewards will be worth it - hopefully whoever buys him will let you know how he is getting on :) (((hugs)))
 
From the other persons side of it (playing devils advocate) I’d say both my horses had a wonderful home before I got them and they were loved – but they ‘re farrrrrr more loved with me haha … all I mean is that there will be someone out there that will adore your boy just as much as you that’s perhaps dying to love him and give him their undivided attention and love them just as much as you (OK perhaps not lol) … just choose carefully and only sell to that someone that ‘feels right’
BUT on the other hand, I went through this with my arab many years ago … I was only young (and was on ok’ish wage) and wanted a house, etc and found looking having was was too expensive – luckily my boyfriend at the time (god love him) advised me that one day I would be sorry for selling her, he’d help me pay for her until I was on better money and to ‘hang on in there’ which I did … and wow, although I got rid of him in the end (cue bunny boiler) I kept my girl and 6 years on we’re due her first foal in a few weeks and we now have a mini-herd :rolleyes:
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