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Senza is now up for sale
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I had a jumping session on Wednesday and i have come to the conclusion that Senza's heart is just not in show jumping. Although she didn't touch a single pole i could tell that she really was not a happy bunny.

I came out of the school near to tears as the realisation had finally started to sink in that she is not gonna be the show jumper i had hoped for even tough i knew that deep down anyway.

I rung my instructor who gave me her honest opinion and she said that even though she is progressing she doesn't think she has the correct attitude to be a show jumper. If she is going to reach her full potential as a showjumper then she needs someone with more time and money on their hands to be able to put the work in she needs and even then she doesn't think she will reach the height i want. So her advise was to sell now while she is still young enough to take up a career in dressage. I came off the phone in tears but it is what i have known all along.

So if anyone knows someone looking for a potential dressage horse then please point them in my direction.

Very sad Kelly1982
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Sorry to hear that Kelly. It's a tough decision and I have to say, not necessarily one I wholly agree with. Is it worth a second opinion with a different trainer
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The horse has scope to burn and athleticism too so Fox's should not be a problem for her....just IMO though
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Yeah, that's tough. Its horrible when you get that feeling when you're just not suited to your horse for whatever reason. It is very sad and hard to sell a horse you love, but look at it on the positive side - she'll likely be much happier in a dressage home, and you'll be happier with another horse who suits what you want better.
 
I personally think you have made the right decision - as you have posted so much recently about her and about you dont think shes going to be as good as you wanted her to be. I guess only you know, and whatever you do i hope you find yourself the right horse in the end x
 
I don't know you or your horse but from what you have written on here I think you are making the right decision. I think you will be a lot happier with a horse that suits you more. Well done for being brave and making a decision and I hope you find something nice.
 
She may have scope but she just doesn't want to do the job!!! My trainer is saying this from seeing her in lessons where she is actually better behaved, at home she is even worse and to be honest i have started to do anything to get out of jumping her now as i always leave the school near to tears.

She doesn't care if she has a pole and she has started refusing now as well. The other day she refused a jump in the school and jumped out of the school with me just to get out of it!!! So yes she can do it she just doesn't want to.

Schooling, XC, hacking etc i cant fault her but our jumping seems to be getting worse rather than better. Personally i think she needs a good 2 years to grow into herself and mature to be able to handle what is needed for show jumping and whilst i love her dearly i wanna be out competing now coz i may not be able to in 2 years!!!

My instructor also jumps for a living and it quite high up in the rankings so i know she knows what she is talking about and i trust her. She only confirmed what i already knew.

I just never seem to get it right with horses do i??
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Thanks everyone, i am totally gutted if i am honest as i adore her in every other aspect but i just think she needs more time, patience and better facilities than i can give her.

She is happy and relaxed doing her flatwork but when it comes to jumping it all goes to pot and you can tell she is not enjoying it. Not at the height i want anyway.

One day she will be a little super start but i dont think that will be with me
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Oh Kelly

I am so sorry for you, but I do think you've made the right decision for both of you....

I know what she's like to ride, and agree that she doesn't have her heart wholly into jumping, and she does have nice paces.

She is also extremely large and very leggy, and the maturity will be to her benifit and then she'll be able to express all that energy the right way!

Good luck with the sale, and also in finding another one - perhaps not ginger this time LOL!!!!

Bx
 
Hugs Kelly

I know you have posted lots about your relationship with Senza, didnt you feel positive when another forum member came over to help? I thought you had sorted a few things?

I am sure deep down you know you are making the right decision. I was just rooting for you both that it would all work out.

Wishing you the best.

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Hugs Kelly

I know you have posted lots about your relationship with Senza, didnt you feel positive when another forum member came over to help? I thought you had sorted a few things?

I am sure deep down you know you are making the right decision. I was just rooting for you both that it would all work out.

Wishing you the best.

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Ha Ha -

It was me that went down for the day - and yes, there were improvements in the time I was there, and then Kelly went on to get lessons from a proper trainer which is what she wanted and needed.

I think tho' that even before all of that, Kelly felt that deep down, something wasn't clicking into place - the feeling you should have over fence just wasn't there, and if she wants to get to Fox, the horse needs to be doing that at what ever level really.

Bx
 
Thats really sad and it is horrible when the realisation dawns that the horse isn't going to do the job you want it to. I want to event mine and again, he has plenty of scope and ability but he just has a dodgy attitude and no amount of schooling or hoping is going to make him want to gallop and jump!! Totally sympathise with you, my horse is going to go off to be a dressage horse too!
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Awwww I'm so sorry to hear that Kelly1982 but it sounds like in your heart you know you are making the right decision for you both. If neither of you are happy then it is the right thing to do.
 
Hi HB

Yeah Bandit came over to help me out and i had a few lessons and we seemed to be getting somewhere albeit very slowly. She doesn't seem to be knocking as much anymore but she has started stopping instead now and i dont want her to get into that bad habit. I can just tell that she is not happy jumping seriously. Maybe thats coz she is still unbalanced but even with that asside i dont think she will make the height i want and even if she does its going to need a better rider than me to get her there.
 
B you put things so much better than me ha ha!!!

It doesn't matter how much potential or scope a horse has they have got to want to do the job!!!

The show jumping yard i brought her from had her jumping quite nicely but she is a hard horse to ride when it comes to jumping and i dont have the experience to help her. She needs a professional to get the best out of her show jumping wise as when i ask her to do stuff we just end up in an argument.
 
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sorry to hear but as everyone else says its prob for the best and best to sort it out now rather then later when she could have more problems to deal with...Is a shame and like you said she prob just need more to time to grow and mature and i can completely understand you wanting to get out competing this year....

PM me how much you have her up for? I may know some people interested....Hopefully she will find a nice home and you will find your SJ youve been looking for. Do you want Star?? lol
 
After reading Bandits reply, I am thinking that you have been feeling this way for a while.

You are doing the right thing I wish you well.

Please keep us updated wont you? I hope you find something suitable.

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What a shame.
Sounds like she just needs time, patience and experience - like all young horses really. It must be hard without your own transport to give her the exposure and confidence giving 'little' outings that she sounds like she needs.
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SOrry to hear this but you know the horse. I sold my old horse when I knew his heart was not in to jumping the big tracks etc anymore and he is now in a home jumpng 2'6 and is loving every minute and building his new owners confidence back up.
 
hugs to you I know only too well how you feel.

About 10 days ago I thought I had decided to sell Beacon for EXACTLY the same reasons. I don't have such high hopes as you but it is the same feeling.
However I love him too bits so am giving him until sept. so fingers crossed for us and the best of luck to both of you
 
Yeah i have been feeling like this for a while, i kept putting it down to greeness which to be honest i do think is half the problem but i just have that gut feeling that even in a few years with lots of hard work Newcomers will be her max!!!

I have always said i dont mind working with a horse if i know it has the potential there but i just dont feel she will cope with the height i want and i haven't got the facilities to help her get there.
 
Very hard descision, but can understand where you are coming from. Are you going to go for something a bit more established next time?
 
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hugs to you I know only too well how you feel.

About 10 days ago I thought I had decided to sell Beacon for EXACTLY the same reasons. I don't have such high hopes as you but it is the same feeling.
However I love him too bits so am giving him until sept. so fingers crossed for us and the best of luck to both of you

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I was gonna give Senza the summer and see what happened in that time as i also love her to bits and wanna give her a chance but the more i jump her the more upset i get so i asked my trainers advise and she confirmed my fears.

Everyone that knows her has also agreed it is the right thing to do as they know how much i have been struggling so that makes the decision a bit easier as i dont have people trying to change my mind.
 
hi Kelly

Im so sorry to hear that hun !! well our trainer is very good and i would listen to her she is fantastic !!!

its very hard desision but you have to do what is right for you and senza !!

BIG HUGGS XX
 
Hi Stacey

I was gonna email you actually and ask you how you was getting on with selling Gadget??

Like i have said before i trust our trainers judgement as thats her job so if anyone would know then it would be her. She only confirmed what i already knew anyway and said exactly the same things as i have been saying to Vicky.

I am gutted as i really thought she would be my little super star so its gonna be hard to see her go.
 
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Hi Stacey

I was gonna email you actually and ask you how you was getting on with selling Gadget??

Like i have said before i trust our trainers judgement as thats her job so if anyone would know then it would be her. She only confirmed what i already knew anyway and said exactly the same things as i have been saying to Vicky.

I am gutted as i really thought she would be my little super star so its gonna be hard to see her go.

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yea good apart from i had to have my saddle sent off to have it widdened so got people wanting to come try him !! what a bummer !!!

Ill swap you if you want ??? x x

if you fancy a chat email me hun or pm me !! x
 
I have a small inkling as to how you're feeling. I've reached the stage with my precious grey gelding that he's not going to take me to BE Novice and I can't bear the thought of parting from him (after 4 years), but at the same time it cuts me up knowing he's not happy being out of his comfort zone.

It takes a brave person to make a decision like that. At the end of the day you'll both be happier. Good luck with what you do.
 
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