Help/Advice/Support please everyone, gutting day :(

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Mog&Myms

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Hi everyone,
I have had an awful couple of days and I would really appreciate some kind words and advice.
For anyone who did not see my previous threads, last week I started a new job at a national hunt racing yard, something I have always wanted to try and I was loving it. I found out yesterday that my parents are separating asap and selling their house. As it is already getting rather unpleasant my mum has suggested strongly that in a couple of weeks i go and live with my auntie in Devon for at least a few months. This means that I have had to give up my job, because I thought it was unfair for me to stay when I knew I would be leaving soon and now they will have more time to look for a permanent member of staff before the season properly starts. I'm really gutted because I wanted this so badly, and I'm worried about my parents as well.
The worst is that I don't know anyone in Devon so I probably won't be able to get a new job/any rides for a while and I can't currently afford sharing or lessons.
Sorry for the downer but I don't have anyone I can really talk to about this because my OH is away for a few months and I don't know anyone up where I am because I have only just moved here anyway, and I was hoping for some kind words.
Tea and battenburgs and cream teas to all for reading.
 
Will you be moving to Devon for good, or is it just until things have been finalized? Can you talk to your Mum about how you feel, explain that this is the job of your dreams, maybe if you are willing to ride out the tension she will be more willing for you to stay in the family home?
 
why don't you look for a cheap room to rent in the area close to your work? check the local newspapers, maybe put up an ad on a card in local shops that you're seeking accommodation. If it's your dream job, you will find a way to make it work. Good luck, stay positive. Where there's a will, there's a way.
 
How old are you? I'm sorry for the situation with your patents. Perhaps this is the time to branch out on your own, if they can no longer be relied upon to help you. If you're still legally a minor then you're kind of at others mercy, but if you're an adult you can take charge of your own destiny. Do your wages provide sufficient income to live independently and keep your current job? Otherwise your aunt sounds a good idea. Not knowing anyone doesn't stop you getting a job. Look for adverts and apply. Phone companies who haven't advertised to ask about vacancies. Go to the job centre and claim job seekers allowance until you find a job. If things work out for you in Devon maybe you could stay, either with your aunt or find a house share. It probably all seems bleak right now, but you can turn this around, it doesn't have to be the end of the world. Think of it more as the start of a new chapter in life.
 
Aw higs. fair play to you for being so honourable and giving your employer plenty of time to find someone new....would you consider asking have they any contacts down in Devon or could recommend you to a yard there. sometimes a call from another trainer has alot more clout than just calling yourself. I know there is Nick Williams down there and surely another few. Chin up
 
Oh bless, Having your folks separate is bad enough but to have to give up your dream job and move away is so unfair. Didn't see your other post but can i ask how old you are. You say your mum has suggested you go to Devon in a few weeks and the house is going to be sold, surly you would have been better off staying at work rather than being at home all day if the situation is that bad, giving you time to assess your next move. Ive asked your age as it seems strange that your Mum is telling you to move away.
 
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