mariew
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Hopefully the op has a bit of common senseBut she didn't mention going to a trainer who specialises in loss of confidence, just a trainer generally.
Hopefully the op has a bit of common senseBut she didn't mention going to a trainer who specialises in loss of confidence, just a trainer generally.
Morning,
Thank you all so much for your replies!
There are some absolutely amazing tips and advice here and I really appreciate it.
I've recently had to move yards who were full of people who knocked my confidence further. They absolutely hated TBs and kept telling me to get rid of him, hence the giving up is not an option, especially with how happy and healthy he is. I'm now in a much more supportive environment which will make it so much better.
Someone there also mentioned putting in a stronger bit. A snaffle wasn't quite good enough for him but a French link worked wonders and will probably keep this bit but any advice on bits they've used for their TBs is welcome.
Please keep the any advice coming. All greatly appreciated ?
I don't want to be harsh, as I get how losses of confidence can be awful, and you've obviously had a nasty accident, but the only person who has suggested a stronger bit is you. There is no bit that will stop him spooking or make him more well schooled. Depending on what he does when he spooks, changes in bit or tack may help, but they won't be the full answer. I think sometimes we can fixate on how the right bit/tack/saddle etc will somehow solve our problems, but it's rare they are a magic bullet!
I really think, as others have suggested, getting a good, sympathetic instructor (who can ideally ride your horse too) is going to be the only long term solution. Keep sessions really within your comfort zone at first- even if that is only walking.
And yes, riding another sensible horse may really help too!
Sorry, I may not have worded it correctly so that people can understand. It's hard putting it in writing.
I meant at my previous very toxic yard where everyone liked to poke their noses in. Someone suggested a much stronger bit in regards to having ultimate control whereas I have found a French link has been the best for him. He rides best with softs hands/arms. He is very responsive. However, because someone mentioned a stronger bit, I wondered what others may use for their TBs.
He is very well behaved. His spooking isn't dangerous, just a hop to the side and a stare out. He himself is not malicious or dangerous. He is a people pleaser, and will go out of his way come rain or storm to ensure he makes the rider happy.
I know that I can't stop an animal from spooking or being silly. They have their own minds and will react the same as us humans and I can completely understand his dislike of the yellow and white writing on the road ?.