Help! Friend needs somewhere to move horses!

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4legged1

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My friend needs somewhere to move her horses, it could be a yard or a field but she needs something very quickly and something that doesn't cost a lot.
We are situated in the north of scotland.
She has decided she is not happy where she is and is so emotional and stubborn at the moment won't listen to reason. She LOVES her horses and enjoys spending time with them but has been really stressed out lately and (sorry everyone!) is especially touchy at this particular time of the month.

She is considering just giving them back to the man who sold them to her!
I've explained to her that even if she did just "hand them and their passports back" she'd still be the legal owner and would be held financially and legally responsible for them.

I've told her that she doesn't have to stay where she is but at least wait for a few days to see what other alternatives are available i.e a livery yard/field to rent. She doesn't want to do this and worries that the cost of a livery yard may be too much for her and just wants to finish with the whole business.

I asked it she would consider giving the horses to me (buy them for a pound) and let me look after them for a while and if she still feels like she does at the moment to let me sell them on for her. She says it's not about the money - the horses are worth a substantial amount with tack, rugs and other equipment! She's not exactly well off and if she would consider selling them she could put the money to good use.

I'm really worried that she WILL go through with this and then massively regret it later but have made her promise to at least wait for 24hrs before doing anything drastic - i'm not even sure if she will stick to her promise.

Please can anyone help?!
 
How old is your friend? She sounds rather immature in her attitude to responsibility for these horses IMO? I really cant see how she 'LOVES' her horses if she is just so keen to get rid ASAP? If she really 'LOVED' her horses she would be letting you take them on for a bit whilst she sorts her muddled thinking out.:confused:
 
grumpyoldmare said:
How old is your friend? She sounds rather immature in her attitude to responsibility for these horses IMO? I really cant see how she 'LOVES' her horses if she is just so keen to get rid ASAP? If she really 'LOVED' her horses she would be letting you take them on for a bit whilst she sorts her muddled thinking out.:confused:
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Oh dear both fooled.... :D
 
No seriously this is a REAL post!
Please I really do need the help!

My friend is in her early thirties and she really does love her horses but she's just been so down recently I think it's all got a bit much for her. When she gets like this she just points herself at "the solution" (which I obviously disagree with!) and won't listen to other alternatives right now
 
4legged1 said:
No seriously this is a REAL post!
Please I really do need the help!

My friend is in her early thirties and she really does love her horses but she's just been so down recently I think it's all got a bit much for her. When she gets like this she just points herself at "the solution" (which I obviously disagree with!) and won't listen to other alternatives right now
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30 and acts like that oh dear... Look up DIY livery in the yellow pages
 
ArabianGold said:
30 and acts like that oh dear... Look up DIY livery in the yellow pages
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She's not usually like this, most of the time she's very responsible and takes brilliant care of her horses but somethings just snapped with her over the last few weeks.

Thanks I'll have a look tonight.

Does anyone know where I could look to find a field for rent?

I'd like to provide as many alternatives as I can in the hope that something might appeal to her better sense
 
If this is a reall post, your friend sounds depressed .

Can't help as I am no where near, but just keep being there fr her, and if it is just the time of the month, she will see things a lot differently this time next week
 
Well if this is genuine - then I would be recommending she finds new homes for them anyway. Poor horses, if we all threw our hands in the air and pushed them off down the road every time we felt a bit down and fed up looking after them the highway would be choc a bloc with our unwanted horses!:(
 
grumpyoldmare said:
Well if this is genuine - then I would be recommending she finds new homes for them anyway. Poor horses, if we all threw our hands in the air and pushed them off down the road every time we felt a bit down and fed up looking after them the highway would be choc a bloc with our unwanted horses!:(
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It is a genuine post, I can see how it might look like someone taking the mick but unfortunately I am not.
That's what I tried to tell her, she's just not taking it in just now. I'm quite upset about it all and just trying to do the right thing by the horses who are lovely. That's why I offered to take them for a bit, I really really can't afford it but I rather that than she just "dumped" them on the unsuspecting previous owner - who I assume would tell her to get stuffed! - and end up with no where to keep them and have them end up as rescue horses. I spoke to another friend of mine about this and she would go halfers on any costs for them and help me look after them till we could sell them on but I don't know if she will allow us to do this.

I'm really frustrated with my friend for being so pig headed about it all and I'm at my wits end as to what to do! Part of me just wants to let her get on with making a huge mistake but I don't want her to regret it - which she will! - and I want to be sure the horses are ok!
 
mulledwhine said:
If this is a reall post, your friend sounds depressed .

Can't help as I am no where near, but just keep being there fr her, and if it is just the time of the month, she will see things a lot differently this time next week
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I've suggested this to her before and that maybe she should go to see the doctor but she refuses to do that too!

I really don't think she'll wait that long!
 
I don't really understand the problem. Is she not able to afford them? Or just wants a new yard similarly priced to he one she's at now?
 
if this IS for real your friend is ill and may do something more stupid than dump her horses what on earth gave her the idea that the previous owner might want them?did they all come from the same place ? This all does not make sense.
Does she have no family to help or take charge ?
 
I think you should advise your friend to part with her horses, if they are worth the amount you explained then they should sell quickly..

If you are genuine and not a pixie, elf, troll or whatever it is your called on here then I think you need to tell your friend to get a grip and do what's best for her animals!

Dumping them in a field is not really the answer :(
 
From what you have said, your friend sounds ill as other posters have also said.

If you are looking for a field to rent you could have a look on the website of your local council. They sometimes rent out land etc. Otherwise, try horse sale websites ie ad trader, preloved etc to see if anyone is offering grazing/fields to rent. You could also try contacting local livery yards as some may offer grazing. Another option would be to contact local farmers to see if they are willing to rent out a field to you.

Hope you manage to sort something out with your friend.
 
Paris1 said:
I don't really understand the problem. Is she not able to afford them? Or just wants a new yard similarly priced to he one she's at now?
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She can afford the upkeep where she is now but can't afford much more hence something that won't cost a bomb. Trying to be a little circumspect about this problem on the offchance anyone involved happens acoss this post. I do not want to make problems for anyone or make the situation worse in any way.

Goldenstar said:
if this IS for real your friend is ill and may do something more stupid than dump her horses what on earth gave her the idea that the previous owner might want them?did they all come from the same place ? This all does not make sense.
Does she have no family to help or take charge ?
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I assure you this IS a real problem! She would never do anything "stupid" in the kill herself or her animals sense I can promise you that! I have NO idea why she thinks she can just put them back where she got them from it's totally daft but she is just so stressed out she's not thinking properly or sensibly at the moment.
She has me and our other friend, she doesn't have anyone else in her life who would be able to help her with anything horse related although she does have friends and family she can talk to.

ArabianGold said:
I think you should advise your friend to part with her horses, if they are worth the amount you explained then they should sell quickly..

If you are genuine and not a pixie, elf, troll or whatever it is your called on here then I think you need to tell your friend to get a grip and do what's best for her animals!

Dumping them in a field is not really the answer :(
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The vague statement I made about price is for horses, tack, rugs and various bits and pieces she has bought over the last year and a half - I don't know what exactly she spent on every thing so I may have been generous in my estimate but I don't know. I don't think she will get anywhere close to how much she spent back - one of the horses needs a confident rider who won't let it away with cheekyness but it's not a badly behaved horse.
She won't dump them in a field, she wants to give them back to thier previous owner. I just would rather take them on and sell them for her so she could at least re-coup some of her money and so the horses don't end up as rescues!

lq22 said:
Can i recommend a hot water bottle and a bar of chocolate?
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ArabianGold said:
Possibly some paracetamol too :D
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Thank you my other friend and I really need them right now! Trying to look for livery yards/ fields in our area so we can present our info sharpish tomorrow. I feel a stressed and sleepless night coming on.

I See Clover said:
From what you have said, your friend sounds ill as other posters have also said.

If you are looking for a field to rent you could have a look on the website of your local council. They sometimes rent out land etc. Otherwise, try horse sale websites ie ad trader, preloved etc to see if anyone is offering grazing/fields to rent. You could also try contacting local livery yards as some may offer grazing. Another option would be to contact local farmers to see if they are willing to rent out a field to you.

Hope you manage to sort something out with your friend.
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Thank you for the help with that, I've never had to look at fields to rent before and had no idea how to go about it.
 
In the central belt sorry no can do.
Many people in the "Horsey world" have to deal with "Not being happy" where they are, most yards you go to there is bitchiness, you just need to see the good in people.
Perhaps you could just look after her horses for a couple of days, there are times where we all just need to "chill".
Everything seems better when the ground isn't as hard as the road and it's not the middle of winter. Roll on "The Thaw!"
All the best though ;)
 
A card in her local feed store or tack shop wil often do the trick. That's how I let my grazing. Sounds as though you'll be the one writing it though! Hope things work out. Your friend, to be frank, sounds a total liability, and would be better off without the horses.
 
Well I sort of understand where your friend is coming from. I get like that when I'm premenstral to be honest, can't be bothered don't want to do anything including having a horse. But it passes and I'm sure your friend will feel the same in a day or two. PMT does affect people in different ways, it didn't affect the way I looked after my horse, the how I felt at that perticlar time.
 
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