HELP!!! how should I react?!

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I am about to go apesh**, please someone tell me how I should react!!!!

My YO brings my horse in every day after lunch so he doesn't get too wound up, well today I found out from another livery that she is always complaining my horse is rude and is always pulling away from her. The other day she apparently backed my horse TWICE down the yard (approx 40 steps) to 'teach him some manners'. God knows what else shes been doing.

In 10 years of owning my horse I have never once felt him hard to handle, even when he spokes he just runs a circle and faces the other way.

Nothing has been said to me?! this has been going on all winter and no-one has ever mentioned it to me!!! My poor pony... :(
 
Think what your yard owner does is rather tame- thats what alot of people do with horses that pull?

If you dont like it then bring your horse in yourself.
 
But he doesn't pull? He has never pulled with me. He is like a dobbin to lead in.

What I was getting at is I don't know what she has been doing to him?

Unfortunately some people work for a living and don't have the luxury of bringing there horse in halfway through the working day.
 
do you not think you are completely overreacting a bit?!

I think backing a horse back to remind it about respecting space is fair enough. Horses handle differently for different people. If someone said my horse had been bargy with them and they have to make it step back, I would have no problem.

In fact I'd appreciate them trying to correct it, instead of letting it away with being bold.
 
I'm sorry but I really don't see the problem, she's not hitting or harming your horse. I think making him back up is a pretty sensible thing to do if he's towing her around, just because he doesn't do it to you doesn't mean he doesn't do it with her.
 
Ask her straight out if X has been a problem to bring in at all.
If she says no, then tell her what you've heard.
If she says yes, ask in what way and maybe suggest to her how you would like it dealt with.

Can you not get a friend to bring him in?
 
Just noticed you said your main part is that you font know what else she's doing with him?? I really don't understand what you mean by this.....if you don't trust this person to look after your horse than why let her?? Have you any other evidence/reason to believe she's bot handling your horse correctly? I still can't see what she's done wrong
 
As we see, hear and read time and time and time again, horses will often act differently for different handlers; also different people have different views on what is and is not correct in terms of manners in a horse.

Backing up is hardly a crime, unless the horse is being whipped etc. etc. etc.

Do as Quirky suggests.
 
I find it hard to believe you'd all be happy to hear someone has made your horse walk backwards 40 steps twice. My friends brings him in when they can as does my inexperienced mum and he is a dobbin with them as well. By dobbin I mean walking on a loose rope at your speed. I wouldn't have a problem with him backing up a few steps if needed.

What I mean by I don't know what else she is doing with him means that I have never been told that my horse has been rude, so if he is being rude what causes him to be rude with just her?? how am I not sure his scared of her for some reason?

Maybe I am overreacting but as far as I know my horse isn't bargey and in 10 years I have never known this of him. This is a fairly new yard and I don't know the YO that well. I think I am going to put a stop to her bringing him in.
 
i think you should ask YO if it is true and ask if he is being a bit naughty and just ask why she hasnt said anything to you.
i agree that she should tell you if he has been miss behaving but as from what you have said, the only thing i would say that she has being doing is not telling you about it.
if mine barge or get a bit to cheeky i back them up so they learn to respect my space. she is not hitting him she is being gentle but firm and believe me when i say this.... not all people are like that.
i would sit her down or ask if you can talk in private and just ask if there have been any problems with your boy, and mention what you have heard in a nice way so you dont offend YO.
i really wouldnt be too worried tbh

but if you are that worried about it maybe think about moving yards. personally i think your horse will be ok
has he got head shy or anything over winter ??? or scarred of you when you lift your hand ??? that is when you may want to start asking questions.
as someone said in another post horses act different with different people. mine are fab with me but if someone else tries to lead them they will not allow it and try everything to be free again.
xx please dont worry xx
 
I think the OP would have liked to have been told by the yard owner that she was having difficulties leading her horse? I would be cross if I heard second hand that my horse had been behaving badly and that some groundwork had been done without my knowledge.
 
I really don't think making him back up is that bad, i don't think you need to worry about what else they do as this is quite a 'tame way' of dealing with the situation.
 
I would also check that the other livery isn't **** stirring before you go in guns blazing. Perhaps he was rude for her ONCE and she grumbled. Perhaps she did make him back up a FEW steps. Its just enough fodder for some of these sad types to try and start world war III with.
 
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Have you considered that your horse may act differently with other people? My lad certainly does. I am afraid I always make mind walk backwards if they are being cheeky to lead.

However I would be concerned about the YO bitching behind your back and would certainly call her about that. If she has a problem or something to say it should be said to you and not other liveries, if in fact the other livery is not just stirring.

FDC
 
sue12345 said:
You say he comes in so he doesn't get too wound up. Why is that.
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He is kept in a field where the other 2 geldings only get a feww hours turn out, when they come in he doesn't have any other horses near him. He is quite a loner so normally ok for an hour or so but as soon as it starts getting dark he paces the fence and gets wound up.

Do you not think 80 steps is a long way to get backed up? IMO a few steps is plenty to teach a horse not to barge but what has happened is excessive
 
nuttynugget said:
Do you not think 80 steps is a long way to get backed up? IMO a few steps is plenty to teach a horse not to barge but what has happened is excessive
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I would suspect somebody is exaggerating somewhat!
You know how people like to embellish stories, it wouldn't sound half as dramatic if she's said she'd back him up 3 or 4 paces.
 
I hope someone is exaggerating.

3/4 paces I would'nt even be bothered, maybe a bit peeved I wasn't informed my horse was being rude to her.
 
Firstly, the yard owner would never back a horse to teach him some manners if he hadn't have caused her any problems. So if is is true that she did it, then I think it is also true that your horse was being bargy.

However, could it be someone trying to stir things and telling porkies? Or exaggerating? Maybe she only backed him a coupof steps.

Lastly, Backing a horse for being bargy is actually a very effective and gentle way of correcting him, though I would only back him a few steps, not across the whole yard.
 
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