Help me understand why I had to have my horse put to sleep

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Hello all

Probably souns like a strange question to ask after I have had my horse put to sleep, but I am so devistated I feel I need to know as much about what was happening to her.

She was roughly 26/27 years old 14.3hh quite chunky mixed cob, I have had her for 20 years.

A year ago Molly was diagnosed with Cushings but Im pretty sure she had had it longer, for most of the 20years we had battled to keep her weight down, she could basically live on air alone, and after one minor bout of laminitis had her grazing and diet limited and checked. Then 2-3 years ago she seemed to drop weight and it was tricky to keep weight on her, I put it down to her weight and later to her cushings, but over last winter and this spring seemed to be able to build her up with good diet management and her cushings medication. Then about a month ago she dropped some much weight again and pretty quickly, I hoped that it was due to there being less grass and the weather changing and that adjusting her feed like I had before would help. But it dint seem to be working this time and I even uped her prescend dose a little as her symptoms were starting to return. Then last wednesday morning I went up the yard for the morning feed and although she was her usual perky cheeky mareish self her beautiful thick black tail and rear end was covered in diarrehea. There was no mucus/blood or anything like that present but it was not a pleasant thing to see. I cleaned her up and turned her out hoping it was a blimp but returned an hour later and once again she was covered in the same.

I sat up the field with her for ages crying as I knew it was time, she was still perky didnt seem dehydrated or in pain, she wasnt pouring the ground, rolling or looking destressed, but she knew too I think. The day before I was talking to her in her stable saying what can I do now to help you, your not putting on weight etc then the next morning this happened.

So last Friday they came and put her to sleep, my friend who would not let me be present as he said I was destressed enough said it was dignified, calm and there was no pain.

The people who took her away said that when they opened her up it was enteritis and that it had spread up her spine and that I had made the right decision as they would have had to come for her pretty soon regardless and if I had of left it, it wouldnt have been so calm.

I have looked into enteritis alot the last few days an it always seems to be tied with colic, Molly definatly wasnt in a distressed state an she was quite clearly passing through her intestines and stomuch. The other thing Im confused about is their statement that it had gone up her spine, if so why wasnt she suffering toxic shock.

Any help would be gratefully received as Im pulling my hair out with wondering whether I did something wrong or could have done more without letting her go. I miss my pony so much

xx
 
Please don't think it was anything you did or that you could have done anymore. It's normal to think like this after the death of a loved pet. I felt the same about my pony.she was 36 and I had her for 20 years. You think what if , if only I had done this differently. Just remember you gave har a good life. I can't help you with her illness as I have no experience with cushiness. Vet said my pony had lumps on her intestines and she was dying. The day before she was fine. Regards to you
 
The what if's are all part of the grieving process, my heart goes out to you in your distress, take comfort in the fact you didn't let her suffer, she was lucky to have you, I lost a relatively new horse (6 months) to his heart giving out during a colic attack, I take heart knowing he didn't suffer for long, time does make it easier to cope
 
The best person to discuss your pony's illness with you is your vet, who will be able to explain.
But as others have said, this is part of the grieving process.
You did the best thing you could for your pony, she had taken a turn for the worse and you took the decision to end her suffering. It is the last thing a responsible owner can do for their much-loved pony. It is never easy but you had looked after her well for 20 yrs and you continued to do so right to the end. It will get easier and you will be able to remember the good times.
 
Its 2 years today since I lost my old girl. She had enough medication for her various ailments to start a chemist shop. She was OK ish but slowly declining and at rising 30 wasn't going to get any better again so I chose to have her PTS and not put her through another miserable winter. It was the right thing to do at the right time, and she went gently and quietly, knowing that she was loved. I never managed to trace anything of her history but it was clear that it hadn't all been sunshine and roses. At least I knew that her last 17 years were full of fun and good care and that she had been happy with me. I can't tell you how much I still miss my lovely orange friend but knowing that she is safe and not having miserable days with her arthritis brings me great peace of mind.
 
I'm so sorry you lost your pony, but it was nothing you did. You will see a lot of posts about older horses, but actually most horses don't make it beyond the age she did, so please don't feel you caused anything which made you lose her 'early'.
 
I am so sorry for your loss.

It is completely normal to think the way you are thinking. It sounds as though you made the right decision at exactly the right time, and by doing so you prevented your pony from suffering. You gave your pony the perfect ending to the perfect life and you should take some comfort in that. x
 
Totally heart breaking when you have to let go and loose something you love. i was so upset when my dog died which i had for 18 years and i remember my dad saying to me "everything that lives has to die, and you gave her the best life she could of ever had and wished for" some how those words made it easier for me, and i hope that they help you, my thoughts are with you xxxxxxxxxx
 
OP you ask why didn't she have this or that symptom. Perhaps the answer is that you had her PTS before she developed those symptoms. I'd say that was for the best, she was ill but didn't really know it, far better for her than dying in pain. RIP Molly and hugs to you x
 
(((((Hugs))))) you made the right decision, you had 20 wonderful years together and when you feel sad try to remember the wonderful things you did together or one of her personal quirks that made you smile.
 
OP, please be kind to yourself. I would advise talking to your vet for specific answers if you really want them, but ask yourself if there is really any point going over it all. Nothing you did caused this, so please don't allow yourself to think that you did anything wrong. We, as horse owners, have the ability, the grace of choice for our horses and when we can use that grace to give them a dignified end to a life well lived, I think it is the final act of kindness we can show them. Have a read of the link in my signature below if you are doubting yourself at all.

RIP to your lovely horse and hugs to you. xxx
 
Hello all

Probably souns like a strange question to ask after I have had my horse put to sleep, but I am so devistated I feel I need to know as much about what was happening to her.

She was roughly 26/27 years old 14.3hh quite chunky mixed cob, I have had her for 20 years.

A year ago Molly was diagnosed with Cushings but Im pretty sure she had had it longer, for most of the 20years we had battled to keep her weight down, she could basically live on air alone, and after one minor bout of laminitis had her grazing and diet limited and checked. Then 2-3 years ago she seemed to drop weight and it was tricky to keep weight on her, I put it down to her weight and later to her cushings, but over last winter and this spring seemed to be able to build her up with good diet management and her cushings medication. Then about a month ago she dropped some much weight again and pretty quickly, I hoped that it was due to there being less grass and the weather changing and that adjusting her feed like I had before would help. But it dint seem to be working this time and I even uped her prescend dose a little as her symptoms were starting to return. Then last wednesday morning I went up the yard for the morning feed and although she was her usual perky cheeky mareish self her beautiful thick black tail and rear end was covered in diarrehea. There was no mucus/blood or anything like that present but it was not a pleasant thing to see. I cleaned her up and turned her out hoping it was a blimp but returned an hour later and once again she was covered in the same.

I sat up the field with her for ages crying as I knew it was time, she was still perky didnt seem dehydrated or in pain, she wasnt pouring the ground, rolling or looking destressed, but she knew too I think. The day before I was talking to her in her stable saying what can I do now to help you, your not putting on weight etc then the next morning this happened.

So last Friday they came and put her to sleep, my friend who would not let me be present as he said I was destressed enough said it was dignified, calm and there was no pain.

The people who took her away said that when they opened her up it was enteritis and that it had spread up her spine and that I had made the right decision as they would have had to come for her pretty soon regardless and if I had of left it, it wouldnt have been so calm.

I have looked into enteritis alot the last few days an it always seems to be tied with colic, Molly definatly wasnt in a distressed state an she was quite clearly passing through her intestines and stomuch. The other thing Im confused about is their statement that it had gone up her spine, if so why wasnt she suffering toxic shock.

Any help would be gratefully received as Im pulling my hair out with wondering whether I did something wrong or could have done more without letting her go. I miss my pony so much

xx

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My first mare was like this, you did nothing wrong only the best thing for her in this siutation
 
I can't tell you about the exact symptoms but I just wanted to say how clear it seems to me that you did the last, best thing we can for our beloved horse companions. Don't feel you did anything wrong, we must all go at some time, better to go before you find her in the field in agony and unable to get up.

I cried and drunk myself sober the night I lost my first mare. Better a week too soon than a day to late.

Xxx
 
Sorry to hear about your mare. I'm going trough a similar thought process having had my mare PTS last Tuesday. I can understand the emotional turmoil you are going through.
Sounds like you did the best thing for her not that it's any consolation x
 
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You can only do what is best for the animal at the time. You can't blame yourself for your loss. This is all part of the grieving process, I lost one last year and I kept waking up in the morning thinking it was a bad dream (and hoping it was!). Please don't beat yourself up about it, you will feel awful with what your have experienced. Take comfort that you have your memories and that you did the right thing.
 
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