Help! Opinions needed

[_Jazz_]

Hi
I have a bit of a problem at the yard and am wondering if I am being hard hearted

I only joined this yard 2 months ago, there are 2 other-1 with 1 pony , the other with 2 horses- owners here.
From Day 1, I noticed the 1 pony owner did the majority of the work-poo picking,fence line moves etc- and I mucked in so to speak. After a month she went on a 3 week holiday so I was left with the 2 horse owner who changed the routine asap! I was left to fit in with her, do 95% of the extra jobs etc and even mucked her 2 out one day . I did feel sorry for her as her husband is very ill in hospital and I tried to be accomodating and friendly but to be honest it is wearing thin!
The other owner is back but I am starting to resent picking up the others share of poo, one of her horses is in a small area and she can not even keep that clear of poo or top the horses water/hay up. The other owner is going away again soon and I really don't want to do all the horses bring in, feed, rugs etc 24/7 for nearly a month on my own. If her husband takes a turn for the worse I can see me mucking out too. I have been poorly myself and really don't need this stress. It is not like she can't afford to pay someone-but not me!- to care for her horses. I have the distinct impression she will continue to be cheeky unless we say something which we are loathe to do and be seen as insensitive. Maybe I would feel differently if I had been there sometime?
Anhow, thanks for listening and I'd appreciate hearing views
Thanks

 

[Baggybreeches]

This is really difficult, my mum and her 2 friends all share their duties between the 3 of them, mum feeds and does turm out of all 4 beasties, mucks hers out and leaves stable ready and 1 friend brings in mid morning, when one cant get down they all chip in, this might work better because they are all true friends and have been for a long time. If I was you I would get the other 2 both together at the same time and explain that you have no issue with doing your fair share but would they be open to a more structured routine. This should help everyone know what is expected of them! Good Luck
Ps It does take a bit of courage but it will be worth it xx

 

[the watcher]

Maybe time to get the other two together and ask them what their routine is, and their expectations of you...maybe then they will get the message that at least one of them is being unreasonable..either agree to muck in and share the jobs, to a timetable so it is equal, or just do your own and leave the others to it.

Not unreasonable to discuss after two months I think, you have had time now to see how the yard works.

 

[clipertyplop]

time i recon for a little white lie tell them that you have a part time job and that you wont have the time to do it and get the enjoyment out of your horse too...plus you have to stop doing everything because while you are they wont.....

 

[Baggybreeches]

I dont agree, but there has to be a mutual respect for one another, even if one persons husband is ill she must accept that she has a responsibility to look after her horse, and the other being away alot should also make other arrangements.

 

[Chex]

If you're not happy then I'd arrange a meeting and sort it out. I do a lot for the YOs horse, change rugs, put her out eevryday, and I do the mucking out, hay and water (she shares a pen with Chex though). But I'm happy to do it, YO is pregnant and its just as easy doing 2 as doing one. I wouldn't be so happy about poo picking the whole field though!