Help - yard move?

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janei

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I know there have been similar posts recently, so guess it affects us all sometimes! Anyway am currently on a really small completely DIY livery yard, been here 3 years and really get on ok. Every so often though there are complaints about my fella, he pulls out plastic/wooden posts and wants to go in other grazing areas with the other horses - he is not nasty just quite playful, used to pull rugs but seems to have grown out of it now! Anyway after being at work all day yesterday got to the yard for more complaints and to be advised that he had been in from 11am!!! due to this problem and from now on he cannot be out when one of the other liveries horse is out - we have to take turns, this would be difficult to manage due to everyones working hours.

Anyway, am rambling I know - but have found another yard similar distance away and would pay more or less the same I pay now for part livery, they have a sand school so could ride more often - no facilities where I am just main road hacking! Owner is happy for all horses turned out together (her boy is apparently a bit of an escape artist too!). So whats the problem, well me really ... I get on with the girls at my yard, have hacking company who understand mine and my boys issues and really would hate to be somewhere bitchy that make me feel small and useless:confused:

Sorry for ramble but any ideas how you know if you will fit in - I think this would be a much better set up for my boy, its just me and my confidence really??? btw am in early 40's so am not a kid but have been there before and made to feel useless lol. Thanks for any advice :)
 
Sounds like it's perfect! Why would you stay somewhere you cant turn your horse out? No brainer to me!!

Go there at the weekend for a look-see and talk to the other liveries. No you wont get on with all of them, but as long as they aren't cliquey then you will find a pal or two.
 
I know how you feel. I moved a few months ago from a very small completley DIY yard to a much bigger yard and part livery - partly because I didnt get on with another livery and partly because new yard has excellent off road hacking.
I was nervous as have never been on a bigger 'proper' yard before, but its been great. People are lovely, YO is lovely, and most importantly horse is more settled than he has ever been as he has a proper routine.
So I think its understandable that you are worried, but for your horses sake its worth giving it a try. If ultimately you dont like it, there will always be somewhere else, but you will probably find you do like it and will wonder why you didnt do it sooner!:)
 
I think personally you should go for it. Confidence is a huge issue, but you are level headed and are obviously thinking of the plusses for both you and your horse.
How about giving it a go? Nothing means forever, and I'm sure if after a few months you find you still haven't settled then you have the option to go back.
The sand school sounds a huge bonus for the both of you.
Don't be so hard on yourself....just take it a step at a time and you will make more friends :)
 
Thanks so much guys for your encouraging responses, as a well educated adult it does sound a bit pathetic but cant help the way it makes me feel lol

At the end of the day I just want my boy to be happy, for us to get on better and as you all pointed out the pluses outweigh that negative little demon in my head! Will post after my visit :)
 
I went through this recently. Moved yards to a private place, sadly it didn't work out because the resident horses hated my lad and tried to kill him at every chance!!! We gave it 3 days but it was never going to calm down so I moved back to my old yard. I'm not happy there and will move again when I find some land I can rent but basically what I'm saying is if you don't try you don't know!! Leave your old place on good terms, ask if things don't work out will they welcome you back and then go for it. I know it disturbs the horse a bit by moving but it might be a good move so worth trying.

I'm 41 and know exactly how you feel but you have do what's right and if the new yard owner understands his silly behaviour then that's only a plus!
 
If you stay where you are, your horse may end up with restricted/little or no turnout.
That is going to make for one unhappy horse. Which in turn will make you unhappy.
New yard = opportunities to make new friends, for both you AND your horse!
 
I know how you feel about the constant complaints! It is easy to say ignore the troublemakers, but it does eventually wear you down. Personally in your position I would move your horse as the complaints are going to affect him.

It doesn't sound pathetic at all, it is so infuriating when people are causing trouble for the sake of it and it affects your horse. I don't get people who call themselves animal lovers who will then cause trouble which will take a horses freedom away or affect their well being in any way!

We are quite lucky really as the Yard owner is an close friend of my mums and like an auntie to me, so although REAL problems are rectified, the yard owner accepts most complaints are just down to trouble making.

Good luck if you do go to the new yard, and I'm sure you will make lots of new friends.
 
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