help YO pregnant, do i move?

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My amazing YO (and good friend now) just told me shes pregnant (no one knows she just told me as im on full livery) and said she was sorry but wouldnt be riding my boy anymore as couldnt risk it. I completely understand as he can be unpredictable.
However: he is recovering from suspensory damage and must do 30 mins ridden trot work on alternate days, she said it is fine she can just long line instead but i dont think this is optimum as he hates being over schooled and becomes very nappy and naughty. No one else has time or will ride and I wander if it is awful to consider moving him.

I also cant drive and my livery is on my road and good value, moving would mean somewhere more expenive (if only a small amount, not a big deal though) but also mean i would be reliant on my parents giving me lifts (im 17 and learning to drive). what do you think? massive moral dilemma!?!??!?!?
 
Firstly congratulations to your YO :)

Secondly, could you get a rider/sharer in a couple of days a week that could help you exercise him? Then you wouldn't have to move yards. If not, then yes I'd consider moving yards as it sounds like he needs the work so would be best suited elsewhere if there was someone on the new yard that could exercise him for you.
 
Could'nt you ride him? After work/school. The nights are getting lighter and its only 30 mins.. She could long line him once, you could ride him once - if its alternate days its only 3/4 days a week - so if you alternated the riding and lining it would be one or two times on the line a week, which isnt bad..
 
unfortunately i can't manage it i go to school in london (doing 4 a levels) and have to spend nights during the week with doing school work and money work and with my sisters and both parents all separately i would never give up the riding as its the only thing that keeps me sane and i can only get down here 3(fri sat and sun) times a week and any closer to home to push for 4 times a week its too expensive.

He is very quirky and have been looking for a sharer but havent found anyone yet and its such a strict regime and he's so hot anyone ive spoken to has then decided not to follow through so trying to figure my way around this one
 
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I think you should try and find a way of staying put. If its 30mins on alternate days then that only leaves Wednesdays as a problem if your free Fri & Sun. Your YO won't be pregnant forever and if he can be long lined just once a week I can't see that that would hurt too much.
 
yeah of course i would love not to move and am going to try and make it work just wanted to check im not being nuts, forgot to mention that my concern with long lining twice was that then any work i do will have to be hacking and i would like the opportunity to school as well and with the way he is 3 times is too much (hes an exracer who has never been schooled properly and doesnt get what the fuss is about ;) )
 
just a point, is he 'hot' to handle? if so I certainly wouldnt expect your YO to long line/lunge whatever whilst pregnant. Sounds like your in a tricky situation but do you have a floodlit school? Why cant you go up late after work stuff, I appreciate thats a long day/hard work for you. Is it essential he is ridden exactly 30 mins 3 days a week in trot?? seems very regimented. Then I dont know much about ligament damage and I blimmin hope my boy never does anything like that if it means such a strict regime. 30 mins of trot seems quite alot!
 
pixiebee said:
just a point, is he 'hot' to handle? if so I certainly wouldnt expect your YO to long line/lunge whatever whilst pregnant. Sounds like your in a tricky situation but do you have a floodlit school? Why cant you go up late after work stuff, I appreciate thats a long day/hard work for you. Is it essential he is ridden exactly 30 mins 3 days a week in trot?? seems very regimented. Then I dont know much about ligament damage and I blimmin hope my boy never does anything like that if it means such a strict regime. 30 mins of trot seems quite alot!
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hes hot but not bad when being long lined... However this is something that worries me, hes kicked my helmet before when leading out and I really dont want to jeopardize her health in any way.
i cant do after school i wake at 4.30am work at my job until 8 go to college until 4.30pm work again until 8pm go and either care for my mum, meet my dad or visit my sisters one of whom is very ill, finishing any a-level work before bed. then friday saturday and sunday i travel down here to sussex and ride/be at the yard for three days so fitting sully in during the week wont happen or i might just explode ;)
 
Maddie2412 said:
hes hot but not bad when being long lined... However this is something that worries me, hes kicked my helmet before when leading out and I really dont want to jeopardize her health in any way.
i cant do after school i wake at 4.30am work at my job until 8 go to college until 4.30pm work again until 8pm go and either care for my mum, meet my dad or visit my sisters one of whom is very ill, finishing any a-level work before bed. then friday saturday and sunday i travel down here to sussex and ride/be at the yard for three days so fitting sully in during the week wont happen or i might just explode ;)
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wow your busy!!!! In that case I would perhaps be looking to move somewhere that can accommodate his needs.
 
CalllyH said:
Crikey. Sure you have time for a horse?
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Yes, she has Friday Saturday and Sunday ...

OP would you be able to afford a freelancer to come in a couple of times a week and work your horse? Or maybe just accept that for the duration your riding will involve just hacking? I'm not surprised your YO doesn't want to ride him while she's pregnant (I didn't ride any clients' horses, even the quiet ones, while I was pregnant) and the more pregnant she gets the more difficult any groundwork with him will be.

It's obviously more convenient for you to keep him where he is - or would your YO have him back if you moved him temporarily while she can't ride him?

I can definitely see your dilemma, and hats off to you for fitting in all that you do the rest of the time - that's dedication :)
 
Rowreach said:
Yes, she has Friday Saturday and Sunday ...

OP would you be able to afford a freelancer to come in a couple of times a week and work your horse? Or maybe just accept that for the duration your riding will involve just hacking? I'm not surprised your YO doesn't want to ride him while she's pregnant (I didn't ride any clients' horses, even the quiet ones, while I was pregnant) and the more pregnant she gets the more difficult any groundwork with him will be.

It's obviously more convenient for you to keep him where he is - or would your YO have him back if you moved him temporarily while she can't ride him?

I can definitely see your dilemma, and hats off to you for fitting in all that you do the rest of the time - that's dedication :)
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a freelancer is a good idea my problem is i dont want to offend my current YO as she keeps saying it will be fine she can just long line and it sounds silly but moving would be less likely to get her back up(i think?). I really dont want her riding him anyway as I can't bear the thought of him doing something to her while pregnant (and he can rear and be a sod) but will def look at getting someone in to ride though, think this may just have to be the way forward thank you!
 
am sure YO would not be overly put out if you got a freelancer in :), I think you could just say what you have above re. you would be constantly worried he might do something as you don't totally trust him, and would feel very guilty if anything did occur.
 
I have to say, you want your horse ridden. Hence why you use current YO preseumably. They canno provide the service by their choice. I would say you would like to take himelsewhere for the pregnancy as you need him ridden and will bring him back at the end. IF she does not like that then I'm afraid she is not a very goodf riend. long lining is not the same as riding.
 
Is there any chance your YO would reduce her fee (because she is unable to provide exercise at the moment) and you use the extra to pay someone to come and exercise for you? You need to have a chat with your YO and see how best to sort it out. I personally wouldn't long line a hot horse whilst pregnant and she may well feel the same as her pregnancy progresses, so it might be better to sort it now than 3 months down the line.

Trina x
 
Oedemitous Camel said:
Wow you're busy :eek: If YO isn't going to ride hime then I presume livery will be cheaper and you can pay someone to ride him a couple of times per week :D

xx
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thank you all and Susie T i think you're onto it she doesn't plan on reducing livery as she doesn't see why long lining is a problem and wont pay anyone else my best option economically is to move him (just wanted to try and support my YO).

To the person who suggested a bike i would have to cycle 90 miles a day would have to be in london by 4.45am and cant leave until 9.30pm earliest and I have to be available during the week 24/7 for my mum and sister who live separately on the other sides of london and are both ill so thats not really an option...
 
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Miss L Toe said:
Over time I assume the exercise regime will change, how long since the injury recovered, can he be put out in a field mid week?
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this needs to be done for at least next 6 weeks then reviewed and probably longer and he cant be turned out at the moment on vets orders
TrinaT i hadnt thought she may not want to long line later in preg you're right, sorry i know that seems super stupid but just didnt occur :(
 
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The YO cannot provide the service you are paying for and as time goes on it will become more difficult, if your horse can also be tricky on the ground she will struggle to even turn him out when he is allowed. They either need to reduce the cost to you so that you can get someone else in, or probably a better solution if running a yard they could find help to do the work she is unable to do as her pregnancy goes on. If she has other liveries she must realise she will need help at some point and rather than lose all her income she needs to get help in place.
Otherwise move your horse as his and your needs must be your priority.
 
Maddie2412 said:
My amazing YO (and good friend now) just told me shes pregnant (no one knows she just told me as im on full livery) and said she was sorry but wouldnt be riding my boy anymore as couldnt risk it. I completely understand as he can be unpredictable.
However: he is recovering from suspensory damage and must do 30 mins ridden trot work on alternate days, she said it is fine she can just long line instead but i dont think this is optimum as he hates being over schooled and becomes very nappy and naughty. No one else has time or will ride and I wander if it is awful to consider moving him.

I also cant drive and my livery is on my road and good value, moving would mean somewhere more expenive (if only a small amount, not a big deal though) but also mean i would be reliant on my parents giving me lifts (im 17 and learning to drive). what do you think? massive moral dilemma!?!??!?!?
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I would not move. Not if you don't want to lose a friend. I really don't understand why your horse cannot be long lined. How many days can you ride him yourself? If he only needs alternate days, that's only 3 - 4 days a week. :confused:
 
the problem for me is i was told by the vet it was strictly supposed to be ridden work but im phoning him today to see what he thinks,
now worried she wont want to deal with him later, i know she will have to employ someone later but she wont pay them to ride him thats for sure...
 
Just seen how busy you are! Wow, that's a very tight schedule. You must be exhausted! I would second what an earlier poster said, could you not get an instructor to come and ride him? Presumably you would save money you are paying your YO so should not be too much more expensive?
 
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