Hmm What to do/say??? Mini rant

[dominobrown]

This may be too complicated to write down so bear with me!
I started helping/working someone (for not much money) about 2 years ago. I broke in their horse and rode it away as a 4 year old. I still help them with their other horses. The thing is, the horse I broke in was sent to another yard to be brought on by another person (it hurt its leg and had to have box rest), I was the first one to ride it after its 6 months of box rest. This other person found a home for it and sold, which was the plan originally. She wants this other person to break her other 3 year old, not me, and this upset me slightly because the other horse I broke in for her was going quite well (65% ish in novice unaff tests, jumping small courses as 4 year old). She still wants me to help with other horses, which I wouldn’t mind doing if they weren’t such rude, bolshy spoilt horses and they get away with murder. Also although I am qualified and a lot more experienced than her, she doesn’t seem to take to listen to anything I say and we have differing opinions on things like barefoot trimmers and proper farriers. For instance I also work for a show producer, but when I give tips on turnout I am basically ignored. I also ride out for another person, work for respected trainer/show producer and now work at a pub as well as eventing my own horse, so I am quite short on time. To be fair on this person over the last 2 years she has been very nice and helpful, so I feel a bit indebted.
I don’t how to leave it as if she wants someone to help the other person can do it (for no money! Getting kicked and bitten- I don't think this other person would)). She goes on about this other person to me all the time and it drives me around the bend, and I don’t feel I could improve her horses anymore, as I am not allowed to this or that etc. What do I do??

 

[CinnamonChristmasCookie]

Let her carry on! If she wants ill-behaved horses who run people down, let her, not your problem.

 

[tangoharvey]

i wouldnt take it personally, thats the thing with advice, its there to be freely given, but ignored if not wanted. I wouldnt say anything, just take the money you earn and leave it at that. it is hard when you put alot of effort and hard work in, but thats always going to be the case when you work forsomeone else who may not think like you. sorry if thats not helpful! x

 

[dominobrown]

I no longer want to work for her, being dragged across a field by 18hh horse is not fun, specially when she puts in the stable and gives it an apple while i tend my ropeburn!

 

[baymareb]

Just tell her you no longer have the time and since she has someone else she's happy with, you're going to concentrate on your other commitments.

Don't confuse business with friendship. If you no longer want to do it, you're not obligated to.

 

[martlin]

Just leave, tell her that you are short on time and have other commitments therefore can no longer look after her horses and now she has the other person to help, you don't feel you will be abandoning her.