My_breadbagel
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I rescued a 4 y/o back in 2019, and he was terrified of everything. Had meltdowns over being rugged, terrified of the farrier etc. I worked very hard and these days he’s the bravest little thing who rarely spooks.
he’s finally mature enough at 6 y/o to start ridden work. We started him last year but he quickly let us know that even though he was good to back, he couldn’t go further due to being too babyish physically and mentally. He would spin at us while lunging as well so instead of letting the behaviour continue I did the right thing and turned him away other than basic handling.
We waited a year, and he’s finally mature enough and mentally and physically ready. I’ve finally gotten somewhere with lunging (yay!) and he’s happy to work and continue learning. I take things very slowly and only increase work when he’s ready.
We actually started work again because he’s too pushy. His ego is overgrown to the point he kicks his door constantly (he comes in for a max of an hour a day with hay) and he has no regard for my space. He walks all over me and won’t back up. I ask politely, signal with my hand, push his chest, use my body weight to push him, but nothing. He just pushes back. I’ve even smacked him for standing on me and not getting off… but he didn’t so much as flinch! It’s so frustrating because he does it if I bribe him with food but I know it will just make him worse. I reward good behaviour but I’m still in the mindset of “he’s a rescue! I can’t shout/hit him!” I eventually end up giving him a whack and a firm no but I’m in bits after.
the last week he’s been a fool. We have a night paddock with no grass and grazing turnout for the day. I like to do it this way as the horses get to have run galloping about in the larger grass less paddock at night and the grass gets a good rest and they don’t become barrels. I used to lead him out and my older gelding together but after he ran off three times and upset my other horse I thought sod this and started leading them separately. If I take the older first he throws a Goliath tantrum and gallops about, spooking the older and making him hard to handle. I usually take him first for this reason. This morning the oldest came to the gate so I took him first and it was pretty wet and windy out. My lovely gelding was very quickly upset by the rescues stupid behaviour and literal tantrum- kicking the fence, jumping on the spot, galloping up and down. I wouldn’t care but they are neighbouring paddocks so he had no reason to be so upset.
when I went to get him he was bucking at me and galloping up and down and right up to where I was standing. I swung my lead rope whenever he galloped or bucked at me, as I was on the other side of the fence and he was being disrespectful. When he eventually calmly trotted to me and walked the last bit and let me get his head collar on, we set off. He was perfect, sweet as anything and respecting me and my space. Great!
then it got ugly. He saw a couple of dogs in a neighbouring field and froze before trying to bolt. I turned his head to me and he was fine until he reared and clipped me in the shoulder. He then tried going up again and running off but I kept hold of him, smacked him with the lead rope, and kept walking to get him to the field. I’m completely fine, and after a minute to cool off I went out to him to get off his rug and a scratch and he stood calmly so I gave him and the oldest a treat. I feel like it was completely out of fear and my mum saw the whole thing and said he didn’t intend to strike but as he went up he just clipped me.
I know it was my fault, because I turned him towards me to get a better grip so he couldn’t bolt. It’s a shame because he had made a little progress over the last few days with personal respect- ever since I’ve manage to lunge him and carried a whip while practicing in hand work. The issue is, I know even though he didn’t intend to hurt me, his lack of respect definitely led to it. A year ago he would have been to meek to try such a thing.
I’ve done a good job with him, managing to give him confidence and he finally lifts all four feet, catches like a dream and likes to cuddle and groom with me which he never used to. My oldest was also a nervous wreck and he’s now as mellow as anything. He was a walls-up sort of character and hated people, so the buckets of love I gave him turned him into a mellow, willing to please teddy bear who is a dream to handle. But our rescue wants to push every button the moment I show him affection and it’s draining. I want to love him- I’m okay with the fact he’s not as cuddly or as affectionate as his mentor, but it’s horrid having to be constantly be on guard. I hate how guilty I feel for punishing him- every horsey person and professional says the same thing- don’t feel guilty for telling him off for being a brat.
he’s gone past the point of being confident. If I’m in the field with both horses he doesn’t dare get cheeky as my older horse will launch himself at him if he so much as swishes his tail at me. My oldest is my heart horse and has always taken care of me and will put himself between us and get him to back up so I can enter the field, but when he’s not around to help me lead it’s a problem. It’s turning him out that’s the issue and everything else I have managed to correct. I’m still making progress, but not as quickly as I would like.
any advice? Should I keep getting pushy or am I making it worse? What would you do? I know he’s not afraid as his fear response is to cower, and I don’t want that either, so it’s a matter of finding the balance.
Hes the sweetest chap when he’s minding his manners on the yard and even in the field, and I’m his home for life regardless of if he’s a Field ornament or not.
he’s finally mature enough at 6 y/o to start ridden work. We started him last year but he quickly let us know that even though he was good to back, he couldn’t go further due to being too babyish physically and mentally. He would spin at us while lunging as well so instead of letting the behaviour continue I did the right thing and turned him away other than basic handling.
We waited a year, and he’s finally mature enough and mentally and physically ready. I’ve finally gotten somewhere with lunging (yay!) and he’s happy to work and continue learning. I take things very slowly and only increase work when he’s ready.
We actually started work again because he’s too pushy. His ego is overgrown to the point he kicks his door constantly (he comes in for a max of an hour a day with hay) and he has no regard for my space. He walks all over me and won’t back up. I ask politely, signal with my hand, push his chest, use my body weight to push him, but nothing. He just pushes back. I’ve even smacked him for standing on me and not getting off… but he didn’t so much as flinch! It’s so frustrating because he does it if I bribe him with food but I know it will just make him worse. I reward good behaviour but I’m still in the mindset of “he’s a rescue! I can’t shout/hit him!” I eventually end up giving him a whack and a firm no but I’m in bits after.
the last week he’s been a fool. We have a night paddock with no grass and grazing turnout for the day. I like to do it this way as the horses get to have run galloping about in the larger grass less paddock at night and the grass gets a good rest and they don’t become barrels. I used to lead him out and my older gelding together but after he ran off three times and upset my other horse I thought sod this and started leading them separately. If I take the older first he throws a Goliath tantrum and gallops about, spooking the older and making him hard to handle. I usually take him first for this reason. This morning the oldest came to the gate so I took him first and it was pretty wet and windy out. My lovely gelding was very quickly upset by the rescues stupid behaviour and literal tantrum- kicking the fence, jumping on the spot, galloping up and down. I wouldn’t care but they are neighbouring paddocks so he had no reason to be so upset.
when I went to get him he was bucking at me and galloping up and down and right up to where I was standing. I swung my lead rope whenever he galloped or bucked at me, as I was on the other side of the fence and he was being disrespectful. When he eventually calmly trotted to me and walked the last bit and let me get his head collar on, we set off. He was perfect, sweet as anything and respecting me and my space. Great!
then it got ugly. He saw a couple of dogs in a neighbouring field and froze before trying to bolt. I turned his head to me and he was fine until he reared and clipped me in the shoulder. He then tried going up again and running off but I kept hold of him, smacked him with the lead rope, and kept walking to get him to the field. I’m completely fine, and after a minute to cool off I went out to him to get off his rug and a scratch and he stood calmly so I gave him and the oldest a treat. I feel like it was completely out of fear and my mum saw the whole thing and said he didn’t intend to strike but as he went up he just clipped me.
I know it was my fault, because I turned him towards me to get a better grip so he couldn’t bolt. It’s a shame because he had made a little progress over the last few days with personal respect- ever since I’ve manage to lunge him and carried a whip while practicing in hand work. The issue is, I know even though he didn’t intend to hurt me, his lack of respect definitely led to it. A year ago he would have been to meek to try such a thing.
I’ve done a good job with him, managing to give him confidence and he finally lifts all four feet, catches like a dream and likes to cuddle and groom with me which he never used to. My oldest was also a nervous wreck and he’s now as mellow as anything. He was a walls-up sort of character and hated people, so the buckets of love I gave him turned him into a mellow, willing to please teddy bear who is a dream to handle. But our rescue wants to push every button the moment I show him affection and it’s draining. I want to love him- I’m okay with the fact he’s not as cuddly or as affectionate as his mentor, but it’s horrid having to be constantly be on guard. I hate how guilty I feel for punishing him- every horsey person and professional says the same thing- don’t feel guilty for telling him off for being a brat.
he’s gone past the point of being confident. If I’m in the field with both horses he doesn’t dare get cheeky as my older horse will launch himself at him if he so much as swishes his tail at me. My oldest is my heart horse and has always taken care of me and will put himself between us and get him to back up so I can enter the field, but when he’s not around to help me lead it’s a problem. It’s turning him out that’s the issue and everything else I have managed to correct. I’m still making progress, but not as quickly as I would like.
any advice? Should I keep getting pushy or am I making it worse? What would you do? I know he’s not afraid as his fear response is to cower, and I don’t want that either, so it’s a matter of finding the balance.
Hes the sweetest chap when he’s minding his manners on the yard and even in the field, and I’m his home for life regardless of if he’s a Field ornament or not.