Horse or the male species :mad:

[kimky]

I was just wondering me and my boy friend have been together for 3 yrs and he says tht i spend too much time with my horse (i prefer my horse then him

) So he said only go down twice a week or 3 times and spend more time with him or we break up ... so guess what i said horse , horse ,horse and Guess wot HORSE !!! She is soo much better then him.
What would you of done or has this happened to you ...?

 

[Nossie]

Sorry, it would depend on the man and how much I liked him!

But I really think he shouldn't be jealous of the horse. I mean, when you're with the horse at least you're not with other men...

 

[Forget_Me_Not]

Any man worth keeping has to relise how important horses are.

 

[Coffee_Bean]

Ditto FMN but I'm only 13 so i would say my horse atm

 

[mickey]

COMPROMISE comes to mind. Everyone is different, and one person's tolerance levels will differ from anothers. But if it is meant to be then there should be a way of accomodating horse and man......
Luckily my OH is very understanding when it comes to Mickey....He doesn't get involved much but he knows Mickey takes time.

 

[lizzie_liz]

I would want to spend time with both, there is no way I could only spend 3 times a week with my horse. There is plenty of time in a day to do both the horse and see the OH.

There has to be compromise from both sides in a relationship, he has to understand that you have to look after a horse which is a living animal and needs fed and watered. And you have to give OH time and attention aswell so setting a day aside to do something together

 

[Rachel_M]

Horse....


Not only do they not ask to watch footie whilst you are trying to tune into BB but they often give you a better ride as well.

 

[Happy Bird]

How funny is that !! I just voted and I see that 100% have chosen horse !!! ha ha

Saying that, any man that is worth staying with should accept that you have other interests. I must admit I only compete every other weekend so that I also spend time with my hubby !

 

[Lucy_Ally]

I am so surprised that people choose ther horse over their partners?!

The thing is if my OH asked me to choose between him and my horse then he wouldn't be the person I want to be with - it would prove he is selfish and does not care about my happiness, in which case I wouldn't be with him in the first place. I do try and sacrifice some time with Spring to do stuff with him, but he knows that she is my pride and joy and doesn't moan too much when I smell like a stable and am late home!
Maybe I am just lucky, but I would never choose Spring over him, whilst I love her to bits I wouldn't want to be without my OH as I love him far more (and he doesn't just love me for food!)

 

[wizzi901]

PMSL at this one!! divorced....my ex said me or the horse....guess which I chose!! - new man is not only younger and fitter but loves horses and how has his own...he said if he cannot beat it he will just join in lol!

 

[YorksG]

The horse is your responsibility the man should be able to be responsible for himself! If you had the horse when he met you then he knew the score and he is the wrong man for a horse keeper.

 

[dunthing]

I gave in to a husband who is now an ex, thank goodness. My poor horse went on loan and came back with a fear of being stabled, dentists, water and was quite thin, (hes a highland).

 

[aimeerose]

I would say compromise!

I would NEVER choose a horse over my OH, i love him to much, but that said its mutual and because of that he would never ask me to choose!

Ok he might pleed that i dont spend every waking hour that im not at work with the horse but i dont think thats unreasonable, the horse is a dependent, needs doing every day etc - but with time management both parties can be fitted in and accomidated!!

I wouldn't have time for an OH who felt that if i wasnt home straight after work it was unacceptable, but that because i think its healthy to have 'me' time, whether that be doing the horse, going cycling, gym, running etc - that fact its a horse should be pretty irelivent (sp)

 

[rara007]

My horse atm, but a nice man would be better than any horse

Haz

 

[OWLIE185]

Survey should have read Your Horse
Your Partner

Then we could have all joined in.

 

[Chex]

If OH even dared to make me choose, I'd take the horse - no way could I stay with someone that made me make a choice like that

It is about compromise - ultimatums like that are sooooooo not on!

 

[Tia]

No it has never happened to me, however if it did then sorry but there is no way I would ever choose a horse over my husband. My husband is my life-long human companion - a horse is a horse - absolutely no comparison in my opinion and I can only assume that all the people who have voted "horse" have to be very young and naive.

What I will say though; if a husband/boyfriend/partner gave any ultimatum (regardless of whether it was about a horse/dog/car/house/going out etc.) then I think you would have to reassess whether this was the right person for you. I can't bear clingy people which is why my husband and I are perfect together; we both have our own things we like doing, neither of us would ever give the other any sort of ultimatum ever.....that is incredibly insecure behaviour, and I could never be with an insecure person.