Riding2020
Well-Known Member
Just found out I’m pregnant with my first. I never understood how a pet or hobby could come second place when peoples lives changed geared towards kids. But now I get it.
Where I’d be up at the yard 5/6 days a week when work allowed.
Had my horse on full livery while I moved back to London area and started back at work and work being busy. But hoped to go down to assisted DIY when I had everything organised and settling with work schedule etc.
Well now, bam. I’m (not planned) pregnant.
Not only am I trying / planning to do over time so I can get extra savings together for this impending future life change. The complete throw on how I feel. Morning sickness etc has left me not being able to go up for days.
I love my boy to bits but this shift in life has happened and I need to conserve my energy for work.
Here’s my predicament. When I’m towards the end of the pregnancy I’ll be moving down to the West Country and if I still have my horse, him with me. But right now I definitely can’t move onto DIY and keeping him on full livery will break me financially with all else I have going on. Or I would feel extremely guilty not making use of him as much as I was and churning out that expense.
For a brief moment I thought about selling him.
Now I’m considering loan options for the next 6 months while I’m still based in the London area.
To move him on to DIY at the yard he’s at is £260 a month. That’s doable for me even though won’t get daily pleasure of him as I need to put my energies elsewhere more so now.
How does a loan situation work?
If I pay his DIY costs, do I see if a loaner will do chores daily to ride him 4 times a week for example? No financial contribution.
Or really is it more they only do chores on the day they ride?
For me I can’t commit to chores and that’s why full livery worked for me as work was demanding and now I need to add to my load work wise to save for the future and I’m a good 40mins from where he is each way.
Not sure what kind of loan situation I can work out where his chores are done daily but to get him off full livery.
And what’s fair for a loaner.
I imagine I would only be able to get up there 2/3days a week max. And generally I’m really flexible about when a loaner wants to ride or spend time with him. They could ride him everyday if they liked.
I know other loan situations are a bit more regimented.
Any input / advise would be gratefully received.
Thanks
Where I’d be up at the yard 5/6 days a week when work allowed.
Had my horse on full livery while I moved back to London area and started back at work and work being busy. But hoped to go down to assisted DIY when I had everything organised and settling with work schedule etc.
Well now, bam. I’m (not planned) pregnant.
Not only am I trying / planning to do over time so I can get extra savings together for this impending future life change. The complete throw on how I feel. Morning sickness etc has left me not being able to go up for days.
I love my boy to bits but this shift in life has happened and I need to conserve my energy for work.
Here’s my predicament. When I’m towards the end of the pregnancy I’ll be moving down to the West Country and if I still have my horse, him with me. But right now I definitely can’t move onto DIY and keeping him on full livery will break me financially with all else I have going on. Or I would feel extremely guilty not making use of him as much as I was and churning out that expense.
For a brief moment I thought about selling him.
Now I’m considering loan options for the next 6 months while I’m still based in the London area.
To move him on to DIY at the yard he’s at is £260 a month. That’s doable for me even though won’t get daily pleasure of him as I need to put my energies elsewhere more so now.
How does a loan situation work?
If I pay his DIY costs, do I see if a loaner will do chores daily to ride him 4 times a week for example? No financial contribution.
Or really is it more they only do chores on the day they ride?
For me I can’t commit to chores and that’s why full livery worked for me as work was demanding and now I need to add to my load work wise to save for the future and I’m a good 40mins from where he is each way.
Not sure what kind of loan situation I can work out where his chores are done daily but to get him off full livery.
And what’s fair for a loaner.
I imagine I would only be able to get up there 2/3days a week max. And generally I’m really flexible about when a loaner wants to ride or spend time with him. They could ride him everyday if they liked.
I know other loan situations are a bit more regimented.
Any input / advise would be gratefully received.
Thanks