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just got back from yard. Some of you may remember me posting about livery next to me who insists on taking his horse within 2" of Pidge when he is eating. Well this morning this other horse turned his bum on Pidge and kept reversing into him and I had to put myself in between the two of them. Well owner then comes up and is funny when I nicely remind him not to take his horse near Pidge. So he then has a major shouting rant at me telling me Pidge is dangerous, he bites and that if he was a dog he would be shot for being dangerous................. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Was understandably rather upset and there was a fair few tears as although Pidge pulls faces he would never bite and is so soft its unbelievable! YO was fab thankfully and is going to get him to take his horse out the other entrance to the barn.
So how do I deal with this situation as don't want to speak to other livery after the nasty comments today, do I just ignore him or what? One still stressed mummy
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thanks, if I had a pound for the times I've told him not to walk right next to his box I'd be able to stop working! The walkway in the barn is a good 12 - 14' wide so there is no reason to walk right next to his box. He even ranted at me that Pidge had had a go at his GF last night, so I politely asked why she was anywhere near Pidge to which I got no reply.......
 
In the same situation I would find it more satisfying to act like it never happened. Smile and say good morning when you see them (Perplexes them, trust me) but don't come across like you are crawling. Hold you head up high and smile. Not worth your tears.


Pidge is fab, you know it and so does the YO so just shrug and tell yourself he really needs to get overhimself.
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think I'll be waiting forever if I want an apology from this man
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I was that upset I was actually shaking and I like to think I have a reasonably thick skin
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So just say morning and night but engage in no other conversation then?
 
don't tempt me, I still can't believe he came out with the comment about he should be shot, thats an awful thing to say in my book
 
People like that just aren't worth the hassle.
Ignore him...you've already warned him and if he doesn't heed that he's going to have to learn the hard way!
 
that's gonna be tough as I just want to rip his head off...................... there feel so much better for saying that! I think its going to have to be count to 100 and breathe..............................
 
trouble is how do I know what he is doing at night time to Pidge as he comes up about 8.30pm when we have all gone by 8pm? Can tell if he's had a go at him as Pidge gets headshy for a day or two which is so not like him.
 
Would it be worth having a word with your YO about possibly moving Pidge to a stable well away from this man's? You need to be able to see to your horse, and leave the yard confident that he will be happy and left alone, not worrying about what some bad-tempered man might do. There are always going to be horses that pull faces at each other. I would ignore the man's comment, he is probably hungover. Or possibly frustrated. Or better still - both!
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would do but there are no free boxes big enough for him, plus I don't see why I should move anyway. Hopefully he will have a think about what he's said and realise he's overstepped the mark - well I hope he does anyway. Definately frustrated man!
 
Seems YO is on your side anyways......... Nasty man saying horrid things about pidge, who obviously just wants to eat his tea in peace, which really isnt too much to ask.......... I would just ignore him unless he talks to you........ then be all sweetness and light, he'll be very confused!!!
 
To be quite honest I am a firm believer that what a horse does over his stable door etc is his own business, surely if Pidge IS being moody the man should just keep away - there is no reason for him to be anywhere near - so what if Pidge puts a face on? Its his own bit of space which the man shouldnt be in - different if it were in the field - then Id be saying different as its dangerous but this guy should know better.

My advice is to say hello to this guy if you have to, then ignore him. He's not worth the time - or the tears.

And just to add if I thought this man were doing anything to Pidge at night that he shouldnt be Id be waiting round the corner with a frying pan!
 
Ok ive been reading some off the other posts and is this they guy that walks his horse past wen yours is eating? Yeh being polite and ignoring the comments will really wind him up more than anything! thankfully i have never been in that sorta situation so good luck!
 
Good advice - I have a b**ch of a neighbour who has caused a lot of trouble. I just smile & nod when I see her & the look of frustration on her face is a joy to behold. Quite makes my day!
 
WelshRareBit – thanks just trying to picture you flying round the corner frying pan in hand
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Madambutterfly – yes it is the same guy this is one reason why Pidge doesn’t like him or his horse. Best of it is Pidge has never bit anyone, but his own horse regularly bites him in the morning!
Hairycob – does it not get you down having such a horrible neighbour?
 
Kill him with Kindness, he won't know whats hit him if your polite and friendly after everything he's done to annoy you, you will definately end up the better person, (as im sure you already are)..
 
I think I'd be inclined to be far to "in your face" with someone like that.

Along the lines of "now listen here you horrible little man, just because you're not getting it, or are so small you are a total failure in bed , don't take out your shortcomings on me and my horse... and if I catch you within 10 feet of my horse again, I'll bite you never mind Pidge... though on second thoughts, never know what I'd catch..."

But then I'm evil... if I thought anyone was hitting my horse I'd have a sneaky CCTV camera somewhere and get proof then get him chucked off the yard.
 
It sounds like this man is trying to provoke you for some reason. Why on earth would he keep on insisting on doing something which is causing upset. It seems to me, he knows what he is doing, but why is the question.

I would do as the others suggest and ignore him. If you are not speaking there cant be an argument. Be polite and civil when you have to be. Other than that, see what happens next. If this man continues to behave this way, is it possible to move stables away from him? If not, then you could always have a think about what annoys him and play him at his own game.

Or another way round the situation is to put a load of stuff infront of your stable so he has to walk round and give distance. I know this not ideal for you, if you wish to tie up outside the stable, but short term he may get the message loud and clear.
 
because he's obnoxious! he used to deliberately leave his portable mounting block behind the car of another livery every single day, despite being told not to every single day! Had thought about leaving my wheelbarrow with implements in it outside Pidge's box so that he phsically can not walk right next to it.
 
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