How do I not look like a time waster?

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stanley101

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I am biting the bullet and looking to buy my first horse. I planned on aiming for the beginning of summer as I am first time owner and don't work during the summer so thought it would be better bacuase the weather would be better (hopefully) and I would have more time.

Anyway I mentioned this to a couple of people and one of them said they thought they may have something in the pipe line that would be suitable and they could arrange for it to come down maybe easter time to try. So I though okay bit earlier than expected but I can work with that. I then found out yesterday that its coming down tomorrow. I'm beginning to have a bit of a panic as I feel things are moving too fast. How do I tell them this? It the yard owner who is selling for a friend so don't want to insult anyone or look like I'm wasting anyones time. Its also for my daughter and me to share and I no as soon as she see's it she'll fall in love but I just feel January is wrong for me to take this on. I also planned on saving more money first.

How would you put this?

Thanks, sorry if it doesn't make sense.

Stanley
 
Ring them up and tell them you simply aren't in the market for a horse at the moment.

But if the horse is still available at Easter - as they suggested previously - give you a buzz.

Up front and honest is always the best policy. Do not get bulldozed in to anything.
 
Be firm but honnest, tell them your not in a position to buy at the moment, and you will only be looking in the spring/summer, but thank them anyway.
The WORST thing you can do when buying your first horse is RUSH.
Stick to your guns, listen to your gut and DONT be forced into anything!
Good Luck
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Deep breath....this is not your problem. Tell the YO that there is no way you are financially in a position to take on a horse at the moment and that is why you had decided to wait. As it is your first horse you are using this time to gain more knowledge so that WHEN you buy, you will have the confidence that YOU will know what kind of horse it is that you want.
 
I would do this today before the horse comes TBH....Im sure they are only trying to help. Thank them for their help but at this time, purchasing a horse is definately out of the question.
 
You're absolutely right not to want to buy a horse at the moment. The cold weather, short days, etc. are likely to make any transition to a new horse more challenging and more likely to have problems.

Your YO is a bit naughty to land you with this! Tell her you are not ready to look yet, but will look at it at Easter. You can add that you understand that this is a lovely horse and you appreciate it will probably be sold by Easter, but such is life and you are prepared to accept the loss (which is quite polite and should not put her back up while making it clear that you are not prepared to view the horse).
 
As others have said, you need to stop this immediately. Apart from anything else, it sounds as if you haven't even seen this pony, never mind know anything about it's age, history, size, health etc etc. Nobody but nobody takes on a horse without knowing a bit about it at the very least. You could end up with a totally unsuitable horse, hefty vets bills, hefty livery charges and enormous transport costs for its eventual return. And be aware too that many such casual arrangements end in tears as the original owners then refuse to take the horse back, often giving a string of half baked reasons. For your own sake and for the horse's sake stop it now and stick to your original plan.
 
this is the worst time of year to buy a first horse... just look through this forum to see the amount of people saying they want to give it all up.
it's a shoddy winter, and horses are behaving like plebs...

tell the YO you really appreciate their help, but you've spoken to your daughter and you both think the original plan of buying nearer the summer is the best idea.
 
I agree with all that has been said already, you need to let them know as soon as you can that you're not ready to take on a horse yet. Sounds like they have seen an opportunity to get a horse a good home and have completely taken over. If it were me I would explain clearly but firmly that I wanted to wait, and not let them talk me out of it. Or if I was in a wimpy mood, I would make up an excuse eg something unexpected has just come up and you definitely can't see the horse tomorrow after all. Good luck, hope it goes OK.
 
Going to pop down in a bit, and explain again that I will not be buying till Easter. I know they mean well I just feel a bit bulldozed.

The horse is coming up with another one who is coming here for a bit of tlc so if they still want to send him and the Yo lets them I guess its between the two of them.

Its hard trying to explain online without giving too much away as I would hate to hurt someones feelings if they realised I was talking about them.
 
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