How do you approach parent of screaming child?

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As above or do i go and see our poor yard owner?

The child is about 4 and does nothing but scream the place down, its been going on for about a month now..... and the mother never even tells it to shut up... It is clearing the yard at night, eveyone is moaning about it, and people are cancelling riding and going home. I dont want to be at the yard when they are their and manage to avoid them at a weekend but during the week it is intolerable.
 
omg i cant think of anything worse, I would rather kiss a baboons bottom than listen to that! See the YO - if they are losing business they should act - keep the child quiet or leave!! (can you tell I am more on an animal person than a child person?!)
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I think its best that the parent knows, although its probably hard if they have no choice but to bring the child with them and most kids of that age don't enjoy waiting around in the cold while mum does the horses.

However maybe if somebody told the mum how much it was annoying everybody they might think about other child care options?

Don't envy you as they could get protective. Exactly the reason why our yard is child free zone, would bug the hell out of me.
 
I think I'd tell the child off myself. We have a quite few kiddies on our yard. Most of the time they are all lovely and well behaved, but occasionally one will have a strop about something or be rude to a parent or shout & screma about something etc, etc.

No-one on the yard thinks twice about instantly correcting them. In fact, they often respond much better to being told off by someone other than their parent.

I think I would just go up to the child and say something along the lines of 'That's enough - you're going to frighten the horses if you carry on like that, and then someone will get hurt, and it may well be you.' See what the reaction is from parent and child and then judge the situation from there...........
 
call the police and the social quick smart... i am amazed at the intolarance if you do dislike "it" so much why don't you move to a child free yard instead of this woman having to find childcare?
 
I'd get the YO to have a word with the parent, or speak to her yourself. One of my friends at the yard has a kid, and she much prefers people to tell her if they're having problems with her daughter rather than tell the kid off themselves.
 
I have two daughters, i dont think i would be very pleased if someone had told them off when they were little. Both teenagers now, MUCH WORSE!!

Have a quiet word with mum if shes OK, other wise yard owner.
 
My daughter knows to behave properly at the yard - she isnt that keen on horses but she amuses herself quietly until I am ready to go. If she really isn't interested, she sits in the car with a book or her DS, and i do my best to get all jobs done toot-sweet.

If this child genuinely screams ALL THE TIME surely it must be wearing for the mother as well. I would go and have a word with her first of all.
 
What would you prefer, the mum screaming back at the child or maybe giving it a slap ? The mum might be having a hard time at the moment and is trying to switch off when she comes to do her horse.She may have no choice but to bring the child with her.I presume you have no kids as you call the child 'it'
I agree it is no fun and if it is truly causing that much of an issue I would speak to your yard owner
 
dont blame you - horses are you time away from home life - no-one wants to listen to screaming kids - jockmaster - mother should take responsibilty and tell kid off, not subject everyone on yard to it crying. Me personally would tell the parent that the kid screaming is annoying everyone, i work with general public and when i at the yard i dont want kids round me. Its mine and my horses time. Some on our yard have children - so does YO but if they are crying i will tell them to be quiet and not scare horse.
You shouldnt have to move - the mother should either arrange childcare or at least try to shut kid up. I run a pub and you would be suprised how many parents let kids scream and run around - they get asked - please sit your children down so they dont trip waiting staff up. or if really screaming they are asked to take outside so as not to disturb everyone else in building - so many just look at you as if not their responsibilty.
 
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kezimac -i agree - I asked my landlord the other week if I was sat in a pub or a creche!! It seems quiet well behaved children are like hens teeth!
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I have two daughters, i dont think i would be very pleased if someone had told them off when they were little. Both teenagers now, MUCH WORSE!!

Have a quiet word with mum if shes OK, other wise yard owner.

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I would have been very embarrassed if anyone had to tell my children off when they were 4. I would have apologised profusely and made sure that they didn't annoy them again (assuming the greivance was justified - which in this case it sounds as if it is).

I can guarantee you that on our yard kids behave or they're told off. If parents have a problem with that then they should tell the kids off themselves before someone else needs to. Yards are dangerous places for out of control children.
 
Firstly the pony is for the child.....
Secondly - the yard has always been a child free zone, up until 1 month ago....
Thirdly - READ MY SECOND POST - where i said i was refering to the yard being an it not the screaming delightful child !
Fourthly - Why do people think we want to listen to their little darlings when we are paying good money for relaxation? wether that is at a livery yard, pub or shopping centre. I was never aloud to scream, shout and demand things as a child as i would get a slap!
 
tango harvey - unfortunately seems like parents not kids most of time - we do have some lovely kids in with great parents but the annoying kids just run round and parents dont care at all - have had toddler run round behind bar taking down a member of bar staff and parents werent concerned at all about staff falling over - only their kid who was unhurt -who they had 'just' noticed had vanished!!!!!!!!!!
 
sorry i am the bad guy? yet the talk here is of telling kids to shut up and getting a slap, if we were talking about horses then the uproar wold be huge... this may be the womans only way of relaxing and she too is paying good money so was it explained to her that it is a child free yard? if not than that is an issue with the YO not her.
 
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Firstly the pony is for the child.....
Secondly - the yard has always been a child free zone, up until 1 month ago....
Thirdly - READ MY SECOND POST - where i said i was refering to the yard being an it not the screaming delightful child !
Fourthly - Why do people think we want to listen to their little darlings when we are paying good money for relaxation? wether that is at a livery yard, pub or shopping centre. I was never aloud to scream, shout and demand things as a child as i would get a slap!

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I agree i was NEVER allowed to stand and have tantrum when i was little - my mother would have slapped back of my legs and given me a right telling off. I know ppl these days dont seem to believe in hitting kids and thats up to them - didnt harm me having a slap on thigh, taught me manners. If they dont want to touch their kids thats up to them but there needs to be some sort of punishment - naughty step, whatever, sat in car, or at least told off - just letting it scream is not teaching it anything - just training it to do it more - you can only ignore and 'self soothe' (think the term is) for so long and then its not working!!!
 
Jockmaster - OP originally asked for advice about how to diplomatically approach the parent, rather than "telling kids to shut up and get a slap".
Yes, you are "the bad guy". This is evidenced by you coming in and choosing to be confrontational and correct her spelling. I would think that OP's use of the word "it" was a reflection of her frustration, not of the value she places on children.
You sound like you have had a bad day and for someone with only a few posts on this forum, you appear inappropriately aggressive.
 
GW - So the mother doesn't have a horse herself?

TH, I agree, why should we put up with kids screaming all the time?? Why should we be worried about asking them to be quiet?

jockmaster - I think you may be a little wrong about there being 'uproar' if we were talking about horses - plenty of us are not afraid to admit that if our horses step over the line in their behaviour then we will vocally tell them off and give them a smack if it is required.
 
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sorry am i missing something - whats wrong with telling kids to shut up?

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