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_Hannah_

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There's this girl at my yard who is arrogant, fake, stuck up, snobby etc. Basically she's so far up her own arse she could brush her teeth from inside. She does no work and just waltzes round like she owns the place. I can see through her and can't stand her and so can 2 other girls, but every one else loves her including the yard owner who thinks she can do no wrong. I'm getting so so sick of her horrible attitude and it's got to the point where i don't enjoy going to the yard as much :/ What can i do about it though? :confused:
 
Why are you getting so upset about this? Has she done something awful to you? She may not be your kind of person but you have some friends there so why not just get on with your horsey stuff?
 
She ignores me when i talk to her (she'll only speak to certain people) whispers and laughs when i walk past etc. Just nasty little things like that, which is really horrible after a while.
 
I think I know how you feel.....I used to keep my horse at a riding school and one of the girls there was just as you described......thought she was something special when in fact she was a **** rider and knew nothing about horses. Just looking at her used to make my blood boil. Most people felt the same about her, but as she helped out on the yard (and she works there still now), the owner used to let her carry on. I moved yards (not to do with that) and I saw her for the first time last weekend and just laughed at her. She had the same arrogant, supercilious attitude, so I said Hello, just so that she had to speak to me, and God, did it pain her to have to answer in a civil manner. She couldn't get away from me fast enough. The difference is that now I find it funny, whereas she obviously can't move on! I would either just ignore her, or if you find it that difficult, consider moving yards....
 
Just smile sweetly and walk past, people like that aren't worth worrying about, you have friends there, make the most of them. When she sees you 'not reacting' she will get bored. Don't forget, most people aren't stupid, they probably know what this girl is like and if they don't they will no doubt find out in time. Life is too short to worry about stuff like this. Enjoy your pony and your friends.
 
She will stop if you ignore her, do you really care what she says? she is not your friend and is attention seeking, this can be for either positive (YO) or negative (you) so by not giving her any attention you will not be playing into her hands. How old are you?
 
I'm 19, she's either 18 or 19. I've tried ignoring which was pretty easy considering i barely speak to her anyway, but she just carried on with her nasty little sniggers and looks...
 
I'm sorry, i thought you were 13 or 14. be the adult and smile. You said you have friends there so why are you worrying about what this girl does. We all know people like this but the trick is not letting it bother you.
 
Ignore. She has no bearing on your life unless you allow her to.

Then again, that's easy for me to say at my age. When you get a lot older you generally learn not to give a stuff. :)
 
There are several ways you can tackle this but it depends how assertive you are. If you are shy you will probably not want to confront her but that is one option. You can act the adult and when she sniggers or whispers sit down next to her and ask her earnestly what the joke is.

Don't get into an argument; that will just leave you upset. but distance yourself from the situation as if you are watching it rather than involved in it.

Alternatively you can be ultra friendly towards her and this will make her feel uncomfortable.

One thing I would not advise you to do is what she is doing so don't whisper about her with your friends or talk about her behind her back. You don't know what they might take back to her.

Hang on in there and don't let her spoil your enjoyment.
 
Yeah horrid situation to be in. Keep reminding yourself you've done nothing wrong. If she is sniggering about you it only proves she feels intimidated by you. So you have won already. Ignore or befriend. Hug your horse smell them and remember how nice that is. She cant take that from you
 
_Hannah_ said:
She ignores me when i talk to her (she'll only speak to certain people) whispers and laughs when i walk past etc. Just nasty little things like that, which is really horrible after a while.
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I really wouldn't be wasting your time and energy on this person then. Bound to be people you don't like in life, ones that grate on you etc, be the bigger person and ignore it and be thankful you're not her :D
 
I always think it's best to be really ultra nice to these types, it throws them all asunder because what can they do abouit it, you're being normal and pleasant and not even noticing their efforts to be unpleasant, drives them mad!

Even if you know you're going to be ignored say "HI!" everytime you see them
 
Just to add, get yourself an MP3 player and put your ear phones in when you walk past. Playing a really upbeat happy song. :)
 
She oviousley wan'ts your attention so much she proberly really fances you, lol no may be she finds you a threat or jealouse of your horse some people can be strange.
 
My mother used to always say "kill them with kindness" - so just be as polite and pleasant as possible, smile and get on with it - she will eventually lose interest
 
Walk past and go :D "Hiya!!"
It never fails.

Tried and tested; I saw my ex-boyfriend where he works...did the exact same thing, he went bright red, tried to turn on his heel and nearly tripped up.
Fantastic....
 
Some people can only build themselves up by knocking others down. I would be pleasant and polite to her while being secretly smug that I am the better person who doesn't need to do this.
 
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