A bond takes ages to form - if you do everything with him/her - all the nice stuff as well as the not so nice stuff, be consistent and firm not harsh and wishy washy - and like the animal, listen to what they say by there body language - be someone that supports them when they are fearful, but tells them off when they are naughty and bolshy and scratch them, and dont rush them, and make sure they understand what you want them to do, and dont ask to much of them to quickly - the bond will form - but its only somedays when someone else comments that often you realise how much of a bond you have