AutumnDays
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Hi all, hoping to get some ideas or just sound things out with you...
I have 2 non ridden, and we are currently on a livery yard. They are in a paddock together, and get along great. The younger I've had since she was a yearling, the older I've had since April. She's fine if he goes out without her, she's fine going out without him (loves the one to one attention, I think her nose was a little out of joint when she first had to share me!).
He is fine if he goes out without her, but if I take her away from him... he stresses and calls and calls... this starts as soon as I close the gate and he realises he's not coming too. He's not alone, there's horses in the paddock next to him, who come over to see what he's shouting about, and he does not give a hoot, it's her he wants! It doesn't matter if he can still see her or not, until she is back with him (he greets her like she's been missing for years upon return), he will not chill out.
I bought him knowing he was a non ridden after a hard ridden life from too young, and from what I gather he hadn't been turned out with others before. It's great they both get along, but he acts like his world is ending if I take her without him (not vice versa).
We will all be moving to our own place soon, and knowing what he's like with horses near by, I worry he'll be somehow worse without? I was hoping to start back long reining the mare (better off road and quieter roads there than the yard currently), as although she can't be ridden anymore she still needs something to think about (he will be done too, but she doesn't mind him going, just waits patiently and quietly!). I tried walking them both out in hand together (on a private, gated lane, for safety), and they were like two naughty kids, not bargy or anything, but sly digs at each other, and the mare does like having some time with me alone, so I think she resented him being with us.
Any ideas/suggestions? Or will he just need to accept it happens and it's not permanent, she does come back? (And I'll have to apologise to the houses that back onto the fields for the shouty horse!) Thank you for reading my waffle!
I have 2 non ridden, and we are currently on a livery yard. They are in a paddock together, and get along great. The younger I've had since she was a yearling, the older I've had since April. She's fine if he goes out without her, she's fine going out without him (loves the one to one attention, I think her nose was a little out of joint when she first had to share me!).
He is fine if he goes out without her, but if I take her away from him... he stresses and calls and calls... this starts as soon as I close the gate and he realises he's not coming too. He's not alone, there's horses in the paddock next to him, who come over to see what he's shouting about, and he does not give a hoot, it's her he wants! It doesn't matter if he can still see her or not, until she is back with him (he greets her like she's been missing for years upon return), he will not chill out.
I bought him knowing he was a non ridden after a hard ridden life from too young, and from what I gather he hadn't been turned out with others before. It's great they both get along, but he acts like his world is ending if I take her without him (not vice versa).
We will all be moving to our own place soon, and knowing what he's like with horses near by, I worry he'll be somehow worse without? I was hoping to start back long reining the mare (better off road and quieter roads there than the yard currently), as although she can't be ridden anymore she still needs something to think about (he will be done too, but she doesn't mind him going, just waits patiently and quietly!). I tried walking them both out in hand together (on a private, gated lane, for safety), and they were like two naughty kids, not bargy or anything, but sly digs at each other, and the mare does like having some time with me alone, so I think she resented him being with us.
Any ideas/suggestions? Or will he just need to accept it happens and it's not permanent, she does come back? (And I'll have to apologise to the houses that back onto the fields for the shouty horse!) Thank you for reading my waffle!