I am officially ducked off with people who have fed my horse!

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So after the shennanigans with my mother the other day because she had fed Loki regularly and feeds the other 2 still loose in the field and with the elderly guy neighbour feeding them allsorts even after being asked not to we've had another incident!

Mum hadn't long left the field after seeing to the horses. Old guy went to feed the horses in the field across the path from ours and as he had been feeding our lot they obviously thought they would get something so Loki (idiot that he is) tried to paw to get his attention/demand feeding too and got his leg over the 3rd wire up on the fence, got stuck and panicked! :eek:

Luckily my friend was there, she managed to untangle him and calm him down, she checked him over and thankfully he didn't do any damage to himself all the while the neighbour was banging on about how he was trying to jump the fence! Um no you silly old git he was trying to get food off you since you were feeding the other horses directly in front of him and got caught on the fence!

So now I've had to run another line of electric tape along the fence line and I have to buy another energiser to electrify it! I don't get paid till the end of August and I'm totally skint! :mad::mad:

If only people would just stop feeding bloody horses that weren't their own (or loose!) my life would be a lot less expensive! He's never pawed at the fence before :mad: Just so glad that he didn't hurt himself on the fence!
 
Think its time to stop being polite and tell the dear old man to fox trot oscar because if he doesnt you may have to drop him off in the middle of spagetti junction, i wouldnt be so polite, remember he might be old but is clearly ignorant, age is no longer an acceptable excuse anymore imo.
 
Nothing annoys me more than when people see horsrs and think "awwwww lets feed it crap" . I once went to a mother whose kid was feeding mine bread and offered a bar of choc to thier dog with out asking . she went balistic at me because it was harmful till i pointed out thier child was doing same to my horse grrrrrrrrrr
 
And I think it is time you a) you sat your mum down and had a serious word with her, and b) tell the old bloke you will be taking him to court for animal abuse (feeding when asked not too) and that you will be sending him the vet bill for the damage to your horses foot and put a large Please do not the horses sign where he's fed them and if that don't work go see a solictor .
 
Get legal advice, call WHW or BHS welfare line and see what can be done about the neighbour.

As for your mum...I'm sorry, but it's time to get a bit tough. I know you don't want an argument, but she is treating you like a child by not be willing to take on board what you are saying. She will treat you like a child for as long as you allow her to. Normally, it is when we actually stand up and tell our parents off for something that they realise we are adults and treat us with a bit more respect. She certainly isn't showing you any at the moment.
 
Sorry it wasn't my horses he was feeding, he seems to have finally taken that on board it was the horses in the next field he was feeding but they are just across a small path and he was feeding them in front of our lot when they are still thinking they'll get something off him.

I'm just mad that he must have been feeding them regularly for quite a while and now it'll take ages to get them out of the habit of expecting something. It could have been really nasty for my lad yesterday if my friend hadn't happened to be there when he got caught on the fence! And i'm pretty p-ed off that I have to shell out yet more money on something I wouldn't have needed if not for him feeding the horses that I can't afford right now :(

I still haven't had the guts to bring it back up with mum, my friend and her mum were round an we were talking about it till mum came out with "sometimes she thinks I'm the child and she's the mother" in a really sarcastic tone. I don't think that at all, I just try and point out if she's doing something dangerous so she won't get hurt or cause injury to others or the horses. I was a bit mad!
It didn't help that I don't think my friend's mum understands the seriousness and was pretty much sticking up for mum and trying to make light of it basically saying that it wasn't a big deal and I should just leave her to it which will encourage mum to continue what she's doing.

Mum is at a funeral tomorrow for a work friend who was knocked down and killed on the road the other week so I don't think tomorrow is a good time to talk about it so it might have to wait till the weekend.

Just to add when I have tried to talk to her about stuff like this before it usually ends up with her being sarcastic/ going on the offensive or us having an argument. I have stood up to her a lot in the past but it never seems to work out that I gain respect from her. I think I won't get any respect at all until I've moved out again :/

For example I used to sleep in a lot for school when I was younger or for work when I was a teenager and even though I'm not prone to it anymore she still doesn't trust me to get myself up for work. She talks over me a lot whenever there is anyone else in the house and will totally switch off when I'm chatting to her when I brought it up the other week (after getting fed up with it again) she got really upset with me and tried to put me on a guilt trip because I said "that's why I don't tend to talk a lot, it makes me feel like what I have to say isn't important to you or you're just not interested because you'll ask a question and then not listen to the answer I give"
 
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Oh, mum guilt trip I get that!

Perhaps she wants to adamantly carry on because she doesn't want to be dictated to by her child haha, I am sure she will be giving it some thought having been knocked down!

Anyway I digress. I would just have a word with the man who again has probably thought 'jesus I didn't think that would happen' and just say your silly horse is liable to do such things and you want to avoid it as best you can. As you say he wasn't actually feeding your horses and you can't really tell him where in his field he can feed his horses so unfortunately more electric fence is probably the only way! Can you not make another line from the current energiser or try a row of non electrified?
 
mandwhy said:
Oh, mum guilt trip I get that!

Perhaps she wants to adamantly carry on because she doesn't want to be dictated to by her child haha, I am sure she will be giving it some thought having been knocked down!

Anyway I digress. I would just have a word with the man who again has probably thought 'jesus I didn't think that would happen' and just say your silly horse is liable to do such things and you want to avoid it as best you can. As you say he wasn't actually feeding your horses and you can't really tell him where in his field he can feed his horses so unfortunately more electric fence is probably the only way! Can you not make another line from the current energiser or try a row of non electrified?
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I can kind of understand her not wanting to be told what's best from her own child but when it's a common sense thing that could prevent injury I just can't wrap my head around why she doesn't take it on board :/

Ha ha! Yes she's one for the guilt trips ;) I just don't let myself be guilted unless I actually have something to be guilty about anymore though :)

The old guy seems to be sulking and hasn't come out at all when I've been up there recently (usually he'd come out for a chat or a fag or even just to play with the dog), it wasn't even like I had a go at him or anything, I think I stayed pretty calm considering last time I explained how much damage he could do :rolleyes: I ran out of lighter fluid at the field the other day so I knocked on his door to see if I could borrow a light and he wouldn't answer, he doesn't come out to play with the dog anymore and whenever I arrive he shuts his door :/

Loki knows when tape isn't electrified so it needs to be on or it won't put him off at all and the 3 paddocks are run off one of our energisers (our field is about 2 and a half acres), I think if I manage to connect them to the new line of electric tape going all the way along the fence line it will reduce the charge enough that they'll just walk through the paddocks whenever they feel like it :/ I could give it a go and see how it works though.

The other energiser is used to fence off the muck heap and can't be connected to the fence line tape without blocking off the gate from the inside which would be an unviable option unfortunately because otherwise that would have been perfect as the muck heap tape isn't that big an area so there would be plenty of charge to go round :)
 
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