I feel like giving up on him - please help me (VERY LONG)

Hey, I've also had a problem slightly like this, I was looking to buy and had a mare on trial, described as sweet, teenagers ride, wouldn't hurt a fly etc. she was completley lovley and i tried her out twice, we took her home a couple of weeks later for a trial (lucky we got one)

for the first 2 weeks she lived upto her description but then she just turned nasty, completley horriblem bucking, rearing, bolting, attacking horses and people, we had her checked by the vet, no problems whatsoever, she calmed down a bit but then a week later it all happened again, she very nearly had me off, but luckily I had no intentions of touching that floor with anything but my feet, and when i was ready. honestly had no idea how i coped with her, my instructor wouldn't set a foot near her.

I had become very attached to her though, but i decided no, i just couldn't keep her, i had to send her back, and it's a hard decision, i'm only 15 and you know what teenagers are like when they can't keep what they want, but it was my decision to send her back, i wasnt going to risk my confidence being ruined, me being hurt, other horses being hurt, or anyone of my friends.

so we took her back, and carried on looking and now i have the best little horse in the world, i've only had him a few weeks, but i know were not going to be sending him back, he just doesnt put a foot wrong and it was well worth the 5 months of looking for him, take her back and persuade your sister to get something safer, it's the best decision you can make, I'm so happy that i found Cheyenne and already i know i couldn'tlive without him!!

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good luck.
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SarahK - sorry if it sounds harsh but if I were you I would send him back. It's not worth serious injury to you or your sister. There are plenty of wonderful horses for loan out there.

Good luck whatever you decide.
 
I bought a horse similar to what you're saying, except that he was pretty much an angel to ride, but a devil to handle on the ground...he bit, reared, bucked, kicked me, bolted, dragged me across the school. Somehow I kept him, he was like a loveable rogue and I couldn't sell him, and after a year there is a definite improvement...only thing he does now is occasionally nips in a playful way. All he needed was a leader, and now he's got one he's much happier. But I couldn't sell Colorado. In your situation, I'd get rid of your horse. Sorry.
 
Also, a tactic that worked well with my horse who didn't like being told off (he got more wound up etc) is to make them feel stupid. Like if we tossed his head about, I'd laugh at him and ignore him. If he tried to drag me down to the field, and reared when I slowed him down, I'd stop dead and make him wait longer. Some horses need to get over themselves.
 
Sorry but send him back, life is too short (and horses are too an expensive hobby) to not be enjoying yourself!
Get yourself a confidence giver/ school master, they are out there!!
 
Your situation sounds similar to mine, only I own my horse. I have to say though, that mine is only aggravating and grumpy, not dangerous. I'm afraid I think your chap is a danger.

You are fortunate to have the option to send him back and in your shoes, I would do just that. It will be heartbreaking as you're so attached to him, but probably best in the long run. I know your sister is against this, but how would she feel if he seriously hurt you? As he's reared at you and kicked you already, this is a distinct possiblity.

I feel for you, as I know how you must be feeling. Hope it all works out for you.
 
I've just got home from the yard and he did a similar thing again to my friend who rode him tonight! dunno if its the spring grass but he's quite bad at the moment - i just dont feel happy with it all.

My sister is being all sarcastic about it, still blaming me and making me feel stupid. i feel really disheartened
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the problem with giving him back is that my sister is adamant she wont take on another horse if i decide he has to go back and i cant afford one on my own
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sounds to me like your sister is trying to call your bluff/emotionally blackmail you into keeping him. hand over the reins to her and find yourself something to share. I had a horse for a while who had manners to die for on the ground,the trouble started when you got on her. its not worth losing your confidence over.as others and you yourself have said ,its ment to be fun!
 
I think your sister is being a typical sister I'm afraid (I have 2!). She probably doesn't want to be the one to admit defeat but maybe you just have to say to her (ignore the sarky comments etc) that you're not happy with it, you want to have fun as you presume she does and maybe he's just not going to be the right horse for the pair of you. Say you want to send him back. If she wants to keep him on her own then she'll have to find the money and you'll do without. Surely getting something you're both happy with is the better option.

It's not like you're selling him, you know where he's going to and he may well find a loan home that does suit him. It's very sad reading your post to be honest, you should enjoy being with your horse not feeling like this. I would say come and ride my 14.2, he needs some exercise but he's an idiot too! (no actually that' unfair he's nice but too neurotic to jump! )
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