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Some of you may of read about my new horse having a bit a fight with his rug...got the vet out and he had minor cuts and very bad swelling - so spent the weekend bathing his cuts, and walking him out!

Anyway his old owner came up on sunday (i wasnt up, as my mum had come through) she knew he had an accident as i told her. He was out without his rug (as lovely day, and was turned out in the paddock to get some movement, to reduce the swelling)

Anyway that night she txted me asking if i had been up, i said no as my mum had been through. She txted back basically saying she was appalled he was covered in sweat marks (he wasnt, as i had brushed all the sweat off the day before) i txted back being very rude, and said if she wasnt happy, then why did she sell him to me in the 1st place? I was spitting feathers i really was....

I txted and apologised for being rude last night - but no reply.

Should i be feeling bad?
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I wouldn't be feeling aawful. If you know he wasn't covered in sweat marks then you have nothing to feel bad about.
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You apologised, so what more can you have done :P
 
Unfortunately you spoke as you felt at the time. I think some people are happy to dish it out but then never happy when they get spoken back to in the same way.

The lady should have talked to you first and not just launched into a rant at you.. If she had been civil I am sure you would have been too.

Hope your horse is ok soon.
 
If the PREVIOUS owner wanted control over what happens to the horse now she should have loaned it to some-one. The horse is now yours to do with as you see fit.
It is usually best to think over carefully any reply to a heated situation (a bit like on here really, don't just type the 1st thing that comes to mind), perhaps this person should have remembered that before she had a go at you.
Try to forget about this and enjoy your horse.
 
Lets just say he did have dried sweat marks on him what is the problem he isn’t being starved. It isn’t a sign of neglect for god sake.

She has no right to kick off over something as small as sweat marks. If she thought it so important she should have called you not text that is the cowards way out.
 
'bothered that he was covered in sweat marks' Crikey what a loon!
I regularly turn my horses out with 'sweat marks' especially this time of year, they love nothing better than a good roll to scratch their backs and really helps to get their coat out.
Its not her horse any more if she wanted him always turned out without sweat marks then she should have kept him.

Don't worry about the text, you have apologized she shouldn't have interfered in how you kept your horse.

*shakes head in disbelief that anyone could get upset about a few sweat marks on a horse*
 
God the advent of Text maessages really has changed how we "speak" to people hasnt it..................

Think you are both a little bit in the wrong, but she should learn to button it as its not her horse anymore.....
 
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agreed....i have apologised but as of yet have had no response!

U know im not fussed if she goes up and see's him etc...
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she just cant control me like she did before
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No excuse for me snapping back though.
 
at the end of the day you have apologised...if she doesn't like it then its her problem...as has already been said she should have loaned him out if she wanted to control what was done with him...i sold my horse and new people haven't let me know once how he's doing, i'd love to know but ultimately its got nothing to do with me...
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I think that keeping in touch with onwers is a sensitive process and both old owner and new owner have to be a bit aware of that. She sounds a bit odd, complaining about sweat marks, so it might be best to not keep in touch. Sounds like she is having a tough time coping with having sold the horse, but that is not your fault.
 
Don't feel bad, am I not right in thinking you had 'issues' with her when you were debating about buying him? Your horse, do whatever the hell you like with him lol!
You want to see my pony's face this morning, it's VERY fat
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and he's pretty sore poor Jack!
 
I would tell her that she is not allowed to visit your horse without prior permission and you present. Let your yard manager and others there know that she is not allowed to invite herself on the yard or fields to inspect your horse.
 
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