I hate my f***ing yard!!!!!

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It is full of stupid b**ches who are petty and pathetic and since we have been on there I have called them 'the coven' - but this is really a disservice to witches. To cut a long story short, things that were assumed to be commuanl like hosepipes and wheelbarrows have now been taken back and locked up. Fine, I thought we'll leave our hose out and anyone can borrow it - but no, we have to go through the performance of them taking off our hose and them putting theirs on - these are middle aged women.
Tonight arrived to get horsey in in pouring rain only to find no lead reins on front of stall - turns out one of them had 'borrowed' them to make a lunge rope! Was ok with this until looked into stall and all equipment, food etc.. was now thrown in. A new witch had joined the coven and had thrown our stuff out of the empty communal stall which she now informed me was her stable! Well I didn't know she was coming on to the yard and said that if she had waited until I had go there I would have removed it. To which the baggage replied 'It's my stable I'll do as I like'. Well it might be her stall but it isn't her yard. I feel so pissed off with the pettiness that I want to move but OH says no they are not going to drive us off and we're staying. Why do people have to be so pathetic? Sorry about length of post but needed a rant!
 
Where are you? they sound like a bunch of kids
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NW - childish isn't even close. However, if we stay, will not descend to their level, although can't see the point of trying to make pleasant conversation with them when they only see the worst of everything and never have a nice word to say about anyone outside their clique. Life is too short to get involved in such c**p
 
OMG I so dont miss this, love being on my own I have to say and each time I think I miss the company, posts like this remind me how lucky I am to rent a yard and do my own thing.

Move yards it sounds so silly, bunch of egos with nothing better to do.
 
I really feel for you
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I hate bitchy yards. Im so lucky with the one Im at. I really hope you can move.. does OH know how much you hate it there?

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I agree I was once told by a fellow livery lady on my yard that there is nowt more odd than horsey folk. I would have to agree having read some of the posts on here and what I have observed through my own eyes I wholeheartedly agree.
Luckily on our yard we all muck in to help each other. I'm the kind of person who would gladly muck out another person's horse without being asked but that is just me.
Helpful to the end.
It's a shame you could not find a yard like ours Welshwitch
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I truly feel for you as some women can be right bitches which is the main reason I hate working with just women as it can be so clicky. If you had some men on the yard I would guarantee it would not be so bad.
Their behaviour is inexcusable in my opinion !
I would seriously look for another yard though. You will lose nothing in moving. It's better to swallow some pride and move to where you feel happier than stick it out as some people will never change. I'm sure that there are people in life who seem to get one huge kick out of making other peoples' lives a misery.
Wrong very wrong, but will they listen? Sadly no. Usually because their own little minds are so warped or else they are far to selfish to listen. I would say personally if it were me sod them and look elsewhere.
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Irrespective of what your OH says about not letting them drive you away, why on earth would you want to stay somewhwere like that? At the end of the day it is supposed to be fun.

We were on a yard from hell a few years ago, but where we are now is fab. We all get on, have a giggle and most importantly of all we all look out for each others' horses. And our YO is a national treasure, she should be cloned and franchised.
 
I agree with everyone here, you shouldnt have to put up with behaviour and atmospheres like that. We work hard enough to keep our horses and put up with cr*p at work to pay for it. My horses are my escape and my 'me' time, so every moment spent with them should be a pleasure.

Your YO's business is being affected by these people. Im sure she would put a stop to it if she knew what was going on.

Speak to YO first and if you get no response, do look for another yard. Grief at the yard will no doubt affect other areas of your life - I know it does with me. Good luck whatever you decide to do.
 
This must be horrible for you. Had similar experiences at my previous yard. Two women set themselves up as being superior to everyone else and spent all their time at the yard being extremely unpleasant about everyone else. I was told to my face that it was about time my horse was put down as he looked bl***y miserable all the time!
My horse being a very much loved veteran family horse in light work. During my daughters GSCE year I was told that if she had enough commitment she would find enough time to ride and revise. Perhaps so but we saw no harm in her sister helping her out with riding and yard jobs when she was snowed under.
These two talked about everyone behind their back and to their faces - that is unless the YO was around, then they were all sweetness and light.
I do seem to have moaned on a lot here! I really sympathise with you. This behaviour really spoils having a horse
 
I posted late last night as I was waiting up to get latest Harry P for children - was really low then, especially as only the day before new horsey failed vetting due to being re-shod an hour before. I feel better this morning. I am the only one in my family who hates the c**p that is going on at the yard. Daughter, who is much thicker skinned, thinks its hilarious that they all go on a hack and don't invite her along. I'm sure most of it stems from the fact that they are jealous of our horse and don't like the fact that daughter wont be bullied or intimidated by them.
The horse we have on this yard is ridden by hubbie and daughter -our other horse is kept on a lovely yard. That YO is selling one of her ponios soon, so there may be room for our girl to go back - which would be ideal, but they like having her on the coven's yard because it is within walking distance of home and the other is not.

I'm sure that they will soon start to turn on each other as is the wont of nasty bi***es!
 
I am really sorry to hear these troubles. In my humble opinion, a yard with bad vibes can affect the horses, they are as we know very sensitive to peoples moods. I would not want my horse in that type of enviroment.

Apart from that you clearly work hard to pay for the pleasure of owning a horse and these people are taking away your "me time" and happiness. The whole idea of having a horse is to enjoy spending hours of happy time and good memories together.

I can see your point about not being driven away, but I do think if you move and find a lovely yard your whole horsey life will change for the better. Personally if they are that bad, I would not want them anywhere near my horse. I would also hate to think of my horse being unsettled by all the bad vibes etc.

You clearly deserve more and could have it. It would be so much nicer for you to have a friendly yard, some good friends and enjoyable times, without having to watch your back at all times, nevermind guard your personal stuff.

Moving would not be defeat, it would be the right step in a new happier direction for you and your horse.

I appreciate your views, but see you as stuck in a situation that only you can see from the inside. We as outsiders can only see from the evidence you give and try to give advise looking from the outside in.

Good luck with what ever you decide to do, dont forget to value yourself and your horse and they are not worthy of your company or presence.
 
all i can suggest is if possible lock your things up we bought sheds and trunks ect and have combination locks to everything.Get a fat permenant marker write your name on everything.
Dont offer help to anyone just go do your horse you dont have to speak to any of them and go home again.

Do not let them force you off the yard they are probably like this because they have drove people off before and get a kick out of it.
Be the bigger person just do what you have to do and leave them to be snide little cowbags they are obviously very silly and immature.
We always went out of our way to welcome new people onto the yard and give them all the help we could even took turn mucking out each others horses and t/o etc.


just take a deep breath count to ten and if the situation gets any worse start to log incidents and present them to the YO if things get worse.
 
Sorry you are not happy.
Makes me appreciate my yard...not an item gone missing in 3 years...and fellow liveries who always say hello, have a chat, and fell over themselves to help when one of my herd was ill.
Shame them into good behaviour by a charm offensive!
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Move, who cares if they think they have driven you off, you know that you are better than that!!

I am now on a yard just about on my own and although its sometimes a bit lonely at least I cant fall out with anyone!!

Previous yard was standard level of clique-e-ness and that did my head in!!!
 
God, i hate livery yards.

On one i was on I would help YO out. New livery arrived. I handled her horse about twice. She firstly started slagging Yo off to me, saying she wasnt caring for her horse properly, and then started on me. Saying I wasnt to handle her horse, that I was incapable and that YO had said I was useless. At the time I was feeling pretty site anyway, and there was lots going on on the yard. In the end I moved my pony, and via me feeling shite from what was being said and a mixture of other things I just didnt go back. Only now do I see what this woman was doing.

Don't let them push you about.
 
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