i need some confidence

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ok well the problem is not with the horse im riding, (even though he dumped me on Tuesday, ouch) but the fact that i have no confidence in myself . i have ridden for about 6 years, on and off, so i know im not completely incompetent. however i always seem to put myself down, and my riding ability. does anyone else do this to themselves? i went to look at this horse that i riding now, and even though ive ridden sharp horses before (that is not what is affecting my confidence) i just kept thinking in my head 'i bet they think im a crap rider' and then not let me ride their horse! am i being totally stupid? i ride every day now but when im in the school im so hard on myself and say think that im riding the horse badly and im jabbing him in the mouth or something. can someone please give me a slap??? xxx
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set yourself a goal everyday and work towards it get a good instructor to tell you where your going wrong [if indeed you are] but tbh i think we have to put ourselves down a bit its what gives us the passion to improve,just dont beet yourself up too much.
 
im getting a lesson hopefully booked today with someone who knows frankie as well, so she can hopefully give me some pointers! one part of me says im good because iv had feedback from old instructors and have ridden on some pretty 'hairy' horses in the past, but one part of me says im crap because i havent had loads and loadsa lessons, and im not out competing! xx
 
I am exactly the same too!!!!

I am always worrying that i am ruining my horse and wonder if she would be off with someone better than me.

And i always wonder what my instructor thinks of my riding and whether i am completely rubbish compared to everyone else she teaches!!!

Think a lot of it stems from my old instructor though as he used to put me down all the time saying i wasn't experienced enough to do this that and that other instead of incouraging me!!
 
i would ask my instructor 'am i a good rider?' but what are the chances she is going to say no?! and in my lessons i do always ask for constructive criticism as im always wanting to get better. but i stop short of saying 'but im ok, right?' because i think i sound big headed! i should get over that one day.....maybe
 
I'm the same, not just as bad at home but EVERYONE is looking at me at shows i just mess up so bad i sj and i cant see a stride and get really flustered. I do have lessons and mess up there too, my instructor says i'm trying too hard and am a perfectionist whats going to happen if i'm a little bit wrong.
Chill out and enjoy - i'm trying too
 
i spose even though even though all my neurotic stuff is annoying , it shows that im always wanting to improve and am ambitious! *keeping thinking that, keep thinking that!*
 
I know how you feel - I lost my confidence recently...dont know why, just started to not really be able to read my horse and it makes me on edge and makes him tense. He is only 5 so he is looking for me to be giving him confidence and he has been playing up too which does not help. I have been riding for 21 years and have ridden loads of different horses. Had a bad time with a horse about a year ago and ever since had problems....I am going on a natural horsemanship day with my horse to help, also starting lessons and have found a riding companion to help me out too...
Try to think to yourself, I have been riding for 6 years, I have ridden worse horses then this before and just believe in yourself...if you have managed to ride for 6 years then that is an achievement in itself...just getting onto the horse can take alot of confidence....
 
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